If They Don’t Appreciate What You Bring To The Table, Let Them Eat Alone
Recently I read the following quote somewhere: I know what I bring to the table, and I’m not afraid to eat alone. It took me two, long days to truly understand what this quote is about.
The first thing that came to my mind is someone who is bringing actual, physical food to the table. He knows what he is bringing and because of that he’s not afraid to eat by himself. He’s not afraid of everyone leaving him because he knows the true worth of the nourishment he is bringing.
This is a basic understanding of the quote, but when you dig deeper, you will realize its true beauty. It can be applied to basically anything and the meaning remains the same.
If you want others to appreciate you, you need to know your worth.
This is the first thing that you need to remind yourself of in order to realize the meaning of the quote. Read it again if needed. Absorb it. Feel the beauty of it. This simple statement means that you need to know your worth (you need to know what you’re bringing to the table) if you want others to appreciate you.
Some people have forgotten how worthy they are, and they take themselves for granted which soon leads to disappointment in others. You need to understand that everything starts with you. You need to realize your value and show it to others so that they know they cannot fool around with you.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not worthy of being respected and appreciated for who you are. You are amazing, and you are enough! And even if the majority of them is telling you differently, contradict them, and show them that they are not right!
You’re the only one who knows what challenges you had to overcome in order to become who you are today. You’re the only one who knows your ability to love, give and receive. And you’re the only who can tell them that this is who you are, and they better appreciate it or you’ll go with those awesome traits of yours somewhere else to someone else who will appreciate them.
People make mistakes. I make mistakes. You make mistakes. And that is what makes us human. You’re allowed to make mistakes, but you should also know when to apologize or when to say that it’s enough.
If you want others to respect you, you should set your boundaries, and stick to them. If someone says something nice to you, thank him. But, if someone pisses you off, don’t be nice to them. Show them your rage, and they will respect you.
Show them that you’re only human just as they are, but also show them that you’re not just any kind of human. You are a human with a big heart, and that is what distinguishes you from the others. And if they don’t appreciate your big heart, they are certainly not worth your time.
Life’s too short to waste time on people who are not worth your second. You should never make someone a priority who is not ready to simply be there for you. Tell them that you appreciate your life too much to waste your time on people like them. Tell them: It’s enough!
You need to learn to love yourself for who you are.
You have a unique voice. You have a unique way of pronouncing certain words. You have a unique way of walking, greeting people and smiling. There’s not a single person in the world who shares your traits and abilities.
You are you. And why would you let anyone tell you that you’re not doing something right (if they don’t have a valid reason for it)? Why would you let them make you hate yourself for who you are? Make you wish to be someone else? There is no right or wrong.
No one can tell you that your way of walking and behaving is wrong because they are not allowed to judge you. You are a creation of your own. Everything you do represents your own unique mind, wishes and desires. You need to learn to love yourself for who you are because you are awesome.
And if they don’t appreciate what you bring to the table, let them eat alone.
If they don’t appreciate you for who you are, don’t change yourself. If they don’t appreciate your efforts, stop trying. If they don’t appreciate your love, give your heart to someone else. Just don’t let them take you for granted.
Don’t let them think that you’ll do anything to make them happy. If you’re not happy with something, leave. Show them that you know your worth, and if they don’t respect it, leave them. Leave them because you are good enough.
Leave them because you have your standards, and you will not change yourself only to appease their greedy nature. And if they don’t recognize your efforts and you’re killing yourself to achieve something, leave them.
Leave them because you know you gave all of yourself, and they are still not able to recognize it. And when you give all of yourself, you have every right to expect that it will be noticed and that you’ll receive something in return.
Wait for someone who will respect you and like you for who you are.
You are not dependent on anyone. Remind yourself again that you are a unique creation, and you deserve someone who will treat you with respect, who will like you for who you are. And if they don’t appreciate you at your worst, they certainly don’t deserve you at your best.
Show your true colors. Dance, smile, show rage and wait for someone who will notice your true beauty. Remember that you are not your past. You are not your bad decisions or mistakes.
You are here, living in the present, and if you’re reading this, it means you’re aware of yourself, and you’re not afraid to get inspired by things around you. You see good in everyone, and that is why you should wait for someone who will see the same in you.
But, please, don’t try to be perfect. Know that you don’t have to be perfect in order to be loved and respected. Right people will like you for who you are. They will embrace your imperfections and they will stay. Right people will never leave, no matter what, because they know the beauty of being an imperfect human living in an imperfect world.
I’m a former English language major, copy typing freelancer and between the two I’ve always enjoyed drawing (abstract art), singing and writing. Yes, I’m an artistic soul that always wanted to make the world a better place. Today I’m lucky to be the writer on this site and to share my deepest thoughts with you and support you through your daily struggles. I hope we’re gonna get along and I’ll give my best not to disappoint you. XOXO