We had a good thing going. We were happy; we laughed together and we cried together but in the end, you decided not to choose me and I want to thank you for that.
Even though we lasted for only a short time, I will never forget you because you’ve set me free. You’ve allowed me to be happy again.
When we were together, we had our ups and downs, but in the end when everything was over, when I cried out the tears that I’d been keeping inside and when I finally healed, I remembered only the good things we had together.
So, thank you for breaking my heart. Thank you for leaving me all alone to heal. Thank you for teaching me a lesson. Thank you for not choosing me.
My whole life I was searching for love. I fought for happiness with everything I had. That’s why I came to you and thank God I did because you were the one who failed to give me what I deserve. You are the one who showed me I was missing out on something—love.
I wanted to love so badly that I gave my attention to the first man who showed an interest in me. I had no idea there is something more than just fading interest, a crush. I had no idea that love is so much more than pure infatuation and temporary chemistry.
I guess what I want to say is thank you for making me realize what love really is. You taught me I have to have self-respect. You taught me I have to love myself first to be able to love anybody else.
When you didn’t choose me, you made me choose myself.
You made me make peace with myself and look at my life from a different perspective. In my pain, in the pain you gave me, I grew. I fell down in a dark pit and I thought there is no way to climb out of there.
I dwelled in my own fear, choking on my tears, looking for answers. I was so frustrated and sad because you didn’t choose me.
I was thinking what is wrong with me and why you don’t love me. Days and months passed and I still didn’t find an answer until I finally realized that you not choosing me is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
You not choosing me made me realize I’m good enough for myself. You not choosing me made me realize I don’t need to be chosen because I’m the one who has the right to choose.
You not choosing me made me realize that I’m just perfect the way I am. I don’t have to change for anybody because that is not real love. That is not the real me.
And with you, I wasn’t the real me. I was something you wanted me to be. I was something you wanted to love.
I realized I was worthy of love and you by not loving me showed me that. Thank you.
I know I deserve someone who will look at me like I’m the only one in the world for him. I know I deserve someone who will think I’m pure magic—the magic only he knows to use.
I deserve someone who was made for me. I deserve to be happy for the rest of my life with someone who loves me for who I am.
You weren’t that person and I get it now. I’m not angry you’ve hurt me. I’m happy you didn’t choose me and I’m happy you didn’t see me the way I deserved because that means I won’t make this mistake every again.
Thank you for making me fall in love—fall in love with myself.
Don’t feel guilty for not choosing me. Don’t be sad because I’m not sad. I’m so grateful to you because you made me see how much I was worth and how much I have to give to the world. You taught me that by not acting the way you should have around me.
Thank you for making me love myself and everyone else around me.
Thank you for letting me go and choosing yourself, thus showing me it’s okay for me to choose myself, too. We both deserve to be happy. Thank you for making it come true.