For as long as you can remember, you thought of love as pretty simple—you get what you give.

So, basically, if someone truly loves you, they will give you all of their love back.

The same goes for boyfriends, family, friends and everyone else—if you give someone the care and the attention they need, everything will work out just fine.

You just have to give your best—you have to show them that you are ready to do whatever it takes to make them happy and that they can count on you, no matter what.

This especially goes for guys—if you treat your partner the way you’d like to be treated, he will love you back for sure.

You have to be honest, loyal, faithful and ready to compromise and everything will fall into place sooner or later.

He will see everything you are doing for him, he will appreciate all of your sacrifices and he will understand that you are the only one worthy of his love.

For as long as you can remember, you were convinced that you have to fight for real love—that you have to be ready to do whatever it takes to keep it alive.

You were told that you have to overcome many obstacles and win numerous challenges to get your happy ending.

But no matter what, your happy ending will eventually come, if you just try hard enough, won’t it?

I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but the truth is that things don’t always work like that.

The truth is that sometimes, no matter how much of yourself you give to a man, he simply can’t or doesn’t know how to love you back.

At least, he can’t do it the way he should and the way you need him to.

The truth is that sometimes, you can move mountains for a relationship which is simply doomed to fail.

For a relationship which is not meant to be and which will never succeed, no matter how badly you want it to.

I am not saying that you should walk out the moment things get rough or that you should back out on someone you deeply care about at the first glance of inconvenience.

However, sometimes, you have to accept that your struggles are in vain and that you are fighting the windmills.

I am not saying that you should be a total bitch just so a guy you are interested in would go after you.

I am not saying that you should play hard to get or that showing your true emotions is wrong.

However, you have to be aware of one thing—no matter how much love you give away, it will never be enough for the wrong man.

No matter how hard you try or how much effort you put in, you can never teach a toxic man to really love.

You can never make him become someone he’s not and you can’t force him to give you his entire heart.

Most importantly, what you need to realize is the fact that some asshole can’t love you isn’t your fault.

You shouldn’t waste your energy on trying to figure out why this man doesn’t love you, after everything you’ve done to deserve his love.

Why can’t you be enough for him to start treating you differently and for him to open up a place in his heart for you?

So instead of blaming yourself, remember your worth.

Remember that you don’t need this man’s love to make you happy and remember that it’s his loss—not yours.

Yes, all of this is easier said than done. I know that it is difficult and painful to accept the fact that someone whom you care for so deeply doesn’t give a damn about you.

Nevertheless, sometimes, you just have to look the truth in the eye and accept it, no matter how harsh it is.

Sometimes, you have to give up hope and realize that you’ve done more than enough.

Realize that you’ve done everything in your power and walk away, while you still have some dignity and pride.

Yes, it will hurt like hell. But you will heal. And once you do, you’ll wish you’d done all of this sooner.

Once you heal, you’ll understand that this was the only way for you to open your heart to the man who WILL LOVE YOU in all the ways you deserve to be loved.

For the man you’ll never have to chase or beg.

For the man who will never make you question his intentions, nor doubt his feelings.

For the man who is meant to be yours and who will never break your heart.

The Truth Is That You Can't Make A Man Love You Unless He Does It Himself

Selma June
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.
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