The ultimate love goal all of us aspire to is being someone’s first choice.
When we talk about healthy relationships, we always mention how partners should put each other before everyone else, among other things.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. However, when you date a strong, independent woman, be prepared to always come second.
Yes, you heard it right. You can be the best boyfriend in the world, you can treat her with love and respect, but she will never prioritize you.
No, you won’t be her second choice when it comes to other men. In fact, her fidelity is something you should never worry about because when this woman chooses you, she’ll only have eyes for you.
You won’t even come after her family, friends, or work either.
Yes, she loves her dearest ones and she is career-oriented, but she is also very well aware that you’re her life partner and that nobody can be more important than you.
Except one person. And that person is herself.
You see, as much as this woman loves you, she will always love herself a little bit more.
Life has taught her the importance of self-love and self-care and she’d never allow anyone to take that place in her life.
As much as she cares for you, she’ll never be able to put your needs in front of her own.
Yes, she’ll do everything in her power to meet you halfway as long as those compromises don’t make her miserable.
As much as she respects you, she’ll always have a little more self-respect.
She’ll never respect your time, friends, job, or desires more than she respects her own.
This is a girl who knows her worth and would never stand idly by, watching you diminish it. She’d never put herself beneath you.
No, all of this doesn’t mean that you’ll be emotionally neglected.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll be submissive in this relationship or that sooner or later, you’ll end up feeling unloved and unwanted.
In fact, this woman will give you the type of love you never knew even existed. Most importantly, she’ll teach you how to love yourself the way you expect someone else to.
She’ll cherish your relationship and do everything in her power for the sake of its future – as long she considers it to be good for her own.
The last thing she’d do is waste years of her life on someone who holds her back and keeps her from progressing.
On someone she isn’t compatible with and who stands a chance of making her life a living hell.
She’ll fight to preserve your love, but never beg for it. Don’t expect her to chase you and settle for crumbs of your attention because she has too much dignity for something like that.
She’ll make sacrifices for your relationship as long as they don’t threaten her well-being.
She won’t endanger her own mental health, nor consciously keep on breaking her heart just to be with you at all costs.
A strong woman will do her best to make you the happiest man on the planet as long as staying next to you makes her content.
So, don’t expect her to be with you if your relationship stops fulfilling her, and if you stop giving her what she needs and deserves.
She’ll put all of her effort into your relationship as long as it doesn’t overwhelm and drain her to the point where she’s left without the strength she needs to run her life.
She’ll try hard to make the two of you work, but she’ll try even harder to help herself function.
Therefore, if you ask her to pick between her romantic relationship with you and her relationship with herself, know that she’ll always choose the latter.
Don’t expect her to stop existing as an individual just because she’s a part of a couple now.
Don’t expect her to disregard her entire life so she can be at your disposal at all times.
Most importantly, don’t ever expect her to love you more than she loves herself.
This might sound pessimistic, but despite your relationship going great now, neither of you know what the future brings.
After all, you can walk away from her at any given moment.
She can easily find herself in a situation in which she has to get used to living without you or any other person in her life.
However, the only one who’ll always stick by her side and never abandon her is herself.
You might call this woman selfish, but trust me, this is the only way things can work between you. The only way for her to be the best girlfriend is to be a happy woman first.
On the other hand, if this is something you can’t accept, be honest and tell her on time. Yes, she’ll be hurt for losing you, but she’ll survive.
Remember that this woman doesn’t need you – she wants to be with you.
But if you don’t feel the same way, she’ll be perfectly okay on her own.
