It’s really heartbreaking when you are in love with someone and that person doesn’t feel the same about you. Or even worse, you’ve been dating a guy for some time and you slowly start to realize that he is pulling away.
What to do then? Is it something you did? Or is it that he just doesn’t feel the same about you anymore?
Maybe he just doesn’t want to date you anymore and doesn’t know how to say it or you know he is into you, but he is distancing himself for some reason which makes you wonder what went wrong. Either way, it’s not a nice situation to be in.
You don’t know what to think or how to respond to his actions. Too bad he can’t be man enough and say to your face that he is not interested anymore. It would hurt less than to string you along by ignoring you and pulling away.
If you ever find yourself in this situation, it would be best to break things off, so you don’t look like a fool or to stop chasing him if he doesn’t want you to chase him—although, chasing is never a good idea because mostly it ends with your broken heart.
To be sure, read the signs that he is not interested in you anymore:
1. He avoids hanging out with you
He used to spend all of his free time with you, but something has changed lately. He’s always making up some excuses. Either he’s too busy or he’s sick or he already has some plans. And the thing is that he shows really no remorse that he can’t spend more time with you.
It’s as if it’s all the same to him. Well, that means he’s just lost interest in you and probably doesn’t know how to tell you that or he is too big of a coward to do it.
Either way, if this goes on for a while, take the message because you’ll only be wasting time trying to get him back when you should let him go and give the right one a chance of meeting you.
2. He doesn’t pay attention when you’re speaking
Our brains work that way. They eliminate all the things that don’t matter to us so we can remember the things that do. So if he doesn’t remember things that you’ve said to him, it means that he feels what you have to say is not that important. Therefore, you’re not important to him.
If you see that he is distant when you are talking and that he is no paying attention at all, don’t bother wasting your energy on someone who doesn’t give a damn about you. Save your dignity and leave him because actually, that’s the only reasonable thing to do.
3. He talks about other women
This is totally him trying to friend zone you. He is bringing up other women in his life to make you aware that he is not interested in having a romantic relationship with you. He’ll probably ask you for advice related to that other woman—a guy who is seriously into you would never do that.
There is also a possibility he’s talking about other women because he wants to make you jealous, but if you notice other signs that he is not interested, then it’s not jealousy, it’s just that he doesn’t like you in that way.
4. He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends
If you are already dating and he doesn’t want you to meet his friends, then you should probably know that he is not serious about you. He’s probably keeping you as a backup plan until something better comes along or is about to break up all contact with you because he simply lost interest.
If you are just friends and he still doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends, it is because he sees that you like him and would like to have a relationship with him, but he doesn’t feel the same way, so he’s keeping you at arm’s length. Screw that—you don’t need that. You need a man that is worthy of you and your love.
5. His body language changes
When a guy likes you, he doesn’t even have to say it. His body speaks to you. His body language is revealing all of his secrets. He will ‘accidentally’ touch you, he will lean towards you and keep constant eye contact.
But if his behavior suddenly changes, if his moves change, it means he is no longer interested in you. He is not sitting close to you, he is not touching you and he seems like he is uncomfortable around you. That means he no longer feels the same about you.
6. He treats you the same as everyone else
Guys will act completely different around someone they don’t have feelings for and someone they are interested in. It’s logical because if he is interested in you, he cares what you think about him, so he will act differently than usual.
He wants to leave a good impression.
But if he treats and acts the same around you like he does around everybody else, then his feelings for you are also no different than what he feels about everyone else.
The bottom line is that you should never let yourself get into this situation. Don’t beg him to stay if he doesn’t like you anymore. Don’t waste your time trying to make him love you because obviously, he is not the right person for you. Instead of wasting your time, let him go and give yourself a chance to experience real love.