There are a lot of ways to establish what the signs of a man’s attraction are, but they are not always that easy to interpret. Most women expect the man to make the first move, but you have to know that there are a lot of guys out there who are probably shy or scared you won’t reciprocate their feelings, so they don’t even dare to do something about it.
But there is always a way to know for sure whether he likes you or not. How? Just read his signs of attraction and you’ll get the answer you are looking for.
I bet it has happened to you before. You liked someone, but you didn’t want to make the first move and you could swear that he was interested in you too, yet nothing ever happened. You were too scared to do something about it because you didn’t know how to spot those obvious signs of attraction.
Well, there are a lot of ways to find out whether he likes you or not and if he is interested in a romantic relationship, but mostly people make conclusions just from the way that special person acts and from their body language signals. However, there are also signs you can positively interpret which don’t have to do anything with their body language but with their attitude and the things they say and do.
So, let’s start with the body language signs of a man’s attraction.
1. His pupils dilate
It is scientifically proven that dilated pupils are the reaction of our brain when we see something we like. We get excited and that excitement is physically transparent. So, the next time you talk to your crush, make sure to look closely at his eyes but try to keep it subtle. You don’t want him to think you are a preying psycho waiting to attack.
2. Long eye contact
So not just eye contact, but one that lasts a bit longer than when you accidentally take a look at someone and your eyes meet theirs. There is nothing accidental about this eye encounter. It is planned and it lasts longer, maybe even long enough to make you feel awkward, so you look away from him. Also, studies have shown that when a guy is interested in a girl, he will try to glance at her when he thinks she’s not looking, but when she catches him staring, he should prolong the contact to let her know that he sees her as more than just a friend. So you can be sure that if he doesn’t look away the same second you catch him looking at you, he probably wants something more and he is letting you know.
3. He licks his lips
Some men do this unintentionally and it is a real sign of attraction. Imagine a scenario where you bump into him and you talk for a few minutes and while you’re talking, you see him glancing at your lips and licking his. That’s a true physical sign he likes you because his brain is that sending information to his body. After he sees your lips, he has an insatiable need to kiss them, so his brain sends that information to his body and his body reacts with a lick.
4. He raises his eyebrows
His subconscious plays the main role in this situation. If a man is talking to you and he likes you, his subconscious will play that information in his head over and over again. He can ignore the fact he likes you, maybe because he doesn’t want to show you or is scared to show you, but his subconscious will do all the work for him. So the next time you see him raising his eyebrows while he’s talking to you, you can be sure that is one of the powerful signs of male attraction.
5. He takes deep breaths
Usually, it’s completely normal that men take deeper breaths than women, it’s the way biology works, but there is another reason why men take deep breaths when they are in the presence of a woman. They will take a deep breath while talking to you because it helps them straighten up, broaden their shoulders and obviously that helps them look hotter. So if he’s literally fighting to get his breath, you can assume he is interested in you.
6. He touches you
Not creepy touching, but nice touching, ‘accidental touching’. That is one version of a body language sign which usually means he likes you, especially if he touches you on your knee or shoulder ‘accidentally’. However, this time we are also going to talk about preening, which is when he touches his shoulders and arms, runs his hand through his hair and tugs his ears. It means he likes you and wants to look good for you, to impress you.
7. He leans toward you
Every time he sees you, or is talking to you, he leans toward you to be closer to you. You can’t explain it but it’s just a sign of attraction and a sign of sexual tension he can’t resist. This generally isn’t a real body language sign that he likes you, but it shows he is interested in you and wants to hear what you’ve got to say.
8. He points his toes toward you
You’ve probably heard about this one. It’s very easy to approach this matter from a purely logical side. If he points his feet toward you, it means that he likes you but the timing of the pointing of his feet is crucial. If you are talking to him or touching him on his shoulder, actually showing any signs that you like him and his feet point in another direction, then he is probably no longer interested in you.
9. He touches his throat
This sign is tricky because it’s done by two kinds of guys, honest ones, and dishonest ones. If you look at it as a positive sign, research has shown that touching your throat means showing vulnerability. So if he is willing to be vulnerable in front of you, that’s a sign of attraction. But if he is a jerk, then him touching his throat means he’s lying. So before jumping to any conclusions, read the rest of the signs before making any decisions.
10. He walks by your side
You can look at the way he walks from a psychological perspective and finds out a lot of interesting things about his feelings for you. If he walks ahead of you, it means he is more concerned about himself than you, and he is probably very selfish. But if he walks by your side, he cares for you and sees you as his equal and that’s the direction in which you want to go.
So, in addition to the real physical signs that he likes you, there are other signs you should also pay attention to.
Other signs of a man’s attraction.
1. He talks about himself
But in a good way! He is full of himself or obnoxiously exhausting by blabbing about himself all the time. Instead, he occasionally mentions a few of his qualities and the things he likes and doesn’t like. Usually, he talks about his good sides, which is perfectly reasonable since he likes you and wants you to like him, too.
2. He is a good listener
So, there is a big difference between guys who just act like they are present while you’re talking to them and the ones who actually give a damn about what you’ve got to say. If you see that he is looking through you and not at you, he is probably just hearing murmurs and not paying attention to a single word you’ve said. But when he actually participates in the conversation and shows interest in what you’ve got to say, then that’s an obvious sign of attraction.
3. He gets jealous
Jealousy is good as long as it’s under control. A bit of jealousy shows you that the person likes you and is worried he might lose you. But if this goes too far, it can show he’s possessive and wants you all to himself which, of course, is not a good thing. If you see a possessive side to him, be prepared as he might want to capture you and not let you breathe at all. But if you see a hint of jealousy, it means he really cares for you and he is just worried he might lose something he cherishes—you.
4. He wants to spend more time with you
If he sacrifices his free time to spend with you, then you can be absolutely positive that he likes you and wants to be with you. If he is seeking your attention by asking you random questions, it means that he cares about your opinion and therefore, you.
5. He acts differently around you
You’ll get the best proof of this theory if you observe his behavior when he is out with his friends or just surrounded by the people he loves. If he acts differently around you than everybody else, then there’s something there. If he is nervous or if he is less loud than usual, it means he changes his behavior around you because he is being careful not to blow your relationship.
6. He gives you compliments
Men are visual creatures, unlike women. Women like to verbally express themselves while men just watch and observe. If he compliments you, it means that he has been watching you and he feels attracted to you, so he wants to let you know that because he likes you. He wants to make you feel good to score some points with you because he wants to be with you. If you get a compliment from a close friend, however, that probably isn’t a sign of attraction, but just a friendly input on acknowledging your good looks or something you did right.
7. He is interested in the things you’re interested in
Try to mention a few things you like casually in conversation—for example, a band you like or your favorite singer. If when you see him next he asks you to go to your favorite singer’s concert with him, you can definitely be sure he likes you and is attracted to you. There is something even better than this and that’s if he actually grows to like something you like. Then you can be sure that he is interested in you and wants to have something more with you.
8. His friends tease him about you
This sign of attraction is completely undeniable. If he likes you, he will definitely tell his friends all about it. So the next time you are in a group of his friends, watch them closely and if they tease him or make jokes at his expense, then you can be sure he likes you but he hasn’t told you about it yet.
9. He notices when you change your look
Men don’t usually keep track of this. You can get a haircut or change the color of your hair and they won’t notice it unless they’ve been watching you closely for quite some time. Then, of course, they will notice any kind of change you’ve made. He pays special attention to the way you look and behave so any new changes won’t go unnoticed.
10. He teases you in a cute way
When a guy teases you in a polite and honest way, it’s cute and it’s his way of making you understand that he likes you and has a crush on you. He wants to see your reaction and he wants you to tease him back to make things more interesting. He can call you silly nicknames, goof around or tease you about something that you hate about yourself but in a cute and flirty way without any mean comments. He just wants you to react and tease him back. And the bottom line is, he wants to find out if there is any attraction between you two, because there sure is on his side.