Once you’ve said ‘I do’, you actually don’t know if the love you felt on your wedding day will last in the future. You don’t know what the future will bring and what kind of a person you will be after the honeymoon stage is over. But you still go into all of that with a cool head and some hope that things will work out. But you know what? Sometimes they don’t!
Sometimes, your husband can just stop loving you and there can be so many reasons for that. When you stop for a second, you will see so many signs that your husband doesn’t love you and you will be devastated. You will feel like you are not enough and you will ask God why is He doing all that to you. But once you’ve cooled down, you will see that not everything is lost. If your husband could fall in love with you once, he can do it again, right? So, when you feel that the old spark is gone and that he doesn’t love you like before, here are some things you can do to try to win him back.
1. Talk to him openly.
Sometimes, the lack of love can be affected by not talking about things that should have been talked about. Maybe you haven’t been talking to your husband like before because you were focused on your job or your kids. Maybe you thought he would always be there and you neglected him because you actually didn’t have time to be with him. And those things accumulated over the years and all of sudden, he stopped loving you because he felt that he was no longer an important factor in your life. So, if you still love him and want him, if you still want the two of you to work, then talk to him. Be open about your feelings and tell him that he is important, that he is enough and worthy. That will mean the world to him and he will realize that you actually never stopped loving him.
2. Find the reason for your problem.
If you want to solve the problem between you and your man, you should examine all the facts. Just think about the things your husband always loved about you. Maybe he fell in love with your sense of humor but that is not something that is important to you now because you are a different person. Maybe you more strict and you are not as relaxed as before. And maybe that is what your husband misses the most—the old you, the woman he fell in love with a long time ago. If you still love him, try to behave like the old you again and see if he will change his mind. Show him that you are the same person and that all he fell in love with is still a part of you.
3. Make compromises.
If you still love your man, you will fight for him by all means necessary. If he stopped loving you and you feel that you can still be together, try to talk to him about some compromises in your marriage. If he doesn’t like the lack of talking, try to change that. On the other hand, if you don’t like him going out every night and drinking with his friends, try to work on that instead. You can go out together with company and have some fun. You shouldn’t have different sides because you are a team. Don’t let all those years of love and affection disappear in the wind. Never let go of someone who you love because he probably feels the same thing but he just needs to get the old spark back.
4. Don’t give him a reason to be jealous.
Sometimes, couples get distant when one of the partners is very successful in what they do for a living. Maybe you focused on your work so much and you forgot to pay attention to your man like you did before. Even if you don’t think so, it can hurt guys so much. When they see that they are not the main object of attention, they will just leave. They do that because they are proud and because they don’t want to be just an option to their loved one. So, if your man feels that way, organize your time so you can have enough for both your private and your business life. In that way, you will make both sides happy and pleased.
5. Don’t show him anger.
I know that you might be mad because your husband told you that he doesn’t love you anymore. And I also know that it hurts. But just calm down and count to ten. Is it better? I bet you changed your mind and that you don’t want to insult him like 10 seconds ago. Now you can think with a cool head and you can find the right words for the problem you have. If you show him that you are angry you will just lose him faster. But if you try to talk to him calmly, you might achieve your goal. You may bring the old love back and maybe things won’t be so fucked up like they are now. The most important thing is that you know what you want and if that is him, don’t give up until you win him back. You did it once, you can do it again!
6. Show him your love.
And last but not least, show him your love—the thing that matters the most in this kind of relationship. Maybe he thought that you stopped loving him so he distanced himself from you but this time, the best thing you can do is show him your love. Show him that you are still deeply, madly and truly in love with him and that there is no man above him. That will melt his heart and he will definitely give your love a second chance. But you should know that love is a fragile thing and that things like this can happen again if you neglect your man. So, whatever you do, find time for him because in the end, when you work out the things that make you happy, they will be the things you didn’t have to work for because they are free!