How to be an alpha female? I think it’s a question we, girls, want to find the answer to. It’s something we ALL crave deeply for… to become an alpha lady.
Now, it has never been easier to become such a woman because you have everything you need for it in one place. I’ve compiled the best tips that will allow you to build an alpha female personality.
All you have to do is follow each of these tips carefully. And if you struggle with self-doubt, I need to tell yourself that you can do it.
You have the potential to become an alpha woman, as we all do. It’s time to get out there and find your spot in the world of alpha females.
17 Tips On How To Be An Alpha Female
If you want to belong to the group of women who identify as alphas, I’ll guide you down that path. All you have to do is have faith in yourself and follow my tips and advice carefully.
1. Be an independent woman
When you’re just a little girl who goes to school and all that, it’s completely normal that you depend on your parents. However, when you get a job, you should stop depending on them and become an independent woman.
When you engage in a romantic relationship, you should never allow your man to make you feel like you depend on him.
At the very beginning of the relationship, you should put all your cards on the table. Show him that you’re an independent lady and that this won’t change no matter what.
You can’t be a strong woman if you feel like you depend on another person. You need to take the wheel of your life, and only you should manage it.
2. Self-confidence is EVERYTHING
You know what differentiates alpha males/females from beta males/females? Their confidence and level of faith they have in themselves.
Beta and delta females have fragile self-esteem and think they don’t deserve to be happy and loved. Their self-esteem is actually their biggest obstacle to living happier and more fulfilling lives.
I honestly feel sorry for the group of women who have low self-confidence. Because the truth is, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will. How you see and treat yourself is the same way others will see and treat you.
3. You need to be an obsessive learner
These gals aren’t just ambitious – they’re also very fast learners. When they want to achieve something or when they have a particular goal in mind, they won’t rest until they find a way to achieve it.
They also learn from their mistakes, which is why they never make the same mistake twice. And alpha females also aren’t afraid of dealing with certain challenges in life because they’re aware of the amazing lessons they can learn from those challenges.
4. Work on improving your body language
Another thing you need to possess to be an alpha lady is confident body language. Whenever you enter a room, your body language needs to say that you’re perfectly aware of how much you are worth every minute.
That will make those who love you appreciate you, and most importantly, it’ll make your haters fear you. Your body language needs to give the impression that no one can hurt you because you’re so strong that you can deal with absolutely anything.
If your body language shows another image of you to other people, you’ll never be able to be an alpha. Also, by improving your body language, your self-esteem will also be boosted.
5. With it, there goes emotional intelligence
Of course, all alphas are smart and intelligent, but they also possess what’s called emotional intelligence. It’s something that allows you to keep a cool head even when your heart falls for another person.
This means that you should never allow yourself to only think with your heart. When you fall in love or engage in a romantic relationship, you have every right to make some decisions that are backed up by your heart, but you should always consult your brain too.
That’s how you protect your heart. You won’t allow others to play with your emotions, and you won’t be left with a broken heart and a wound that never heals completely.
6. Acknowledge your imperfections and be proud of them
Understand one thing: you aren’t perfect, just like any other alpha female isn’t perfect. You have your flaws, and they make up a huge part of your personality.
That’s why you need to accept them and learn to live with them. Show them to others proudly, and that’s how you’ll block every one of your haters’ attempts to hurt you by using your imperfections.
True alphas never hide their imperfections. If you aren’t strong enough to accept your flaws and deal with them, maybe you don’t have what it takes to become an alpha after all…
7. Always remember who you are
Don’t ever forget who you are and where you came from. If you ever forget these things or try to change who you are, you’ll lose yourself completely, and any possibility of becoming an alpha will disappear.
Self-awareness is of the utmost importance for alpha females. Every minute of the day, you need to be aware of who you are and what you deserve.
And if you’ve by any chance forgotten who you are, I’ll remind you immediately: you’re a natural leader, a strong woman who is ready to take over the world.
8. Let your voice be heard
Don’t allow others to silence you when you think your opinion and attitude are 100% right. Spread it everywhere, and don’t ever allow others to stop you.
Try to influence other women and encourage them to work on improving their lives and becoming alpha ladies. Invite them into our club and prepare a warm welcome for them.
Don’t let your insecurities stop you from spreading your voice. Speak whenever you have something to say, no matter the circumstances, and don’t ever allow anyone to silence you!
9. Have a high-quality way of life
What does this mean? Pay attention to the quality of your life by improving your physical, mental, and emotional health.
Eat healthily, get enough sleep, take vacations, treat yourself from time to time, enjoy your circle of close friends and family and have fun. Live your life to the fullest and make the best of it.
Get rid of toxic people and those who harm your peace of mind. Life is short – you only have one chance to live this life, and you should use that opportunity in the best way possible.
10. Work on your leadership skills
Kamala Harris, Melinda French Gates, Oprah Winfrey, Marie Curie… Do you know who these ladies are and what they have in common? Yes, they’re some the most famous female leaders of all time.
You don’t have to be a natural leader like these ladies above, and neither am I, trust me. However, you can work on improving your leadership skills.
The most important thing is that you don’t fear taking on a leadership role. Prove to yourself and everyone else that you’re a self-confident, independent woman.
If you can’t take on that role, then I’m sorry, but maybe your place is between those beta or delta ladies. And if you want to stay there, you won’t try to change this part of your personality, and you’ll be okay with having another person lead you through life.
11. Keep your social circle small but safe
Even though many think differently, alpha females don’t have many friends. They have many admirers and people who respect them and want to be close to them, but the truth is, they always try to keep their social circle small.
They have a few best friends, and those are the people they can tell absolutely anything. There are some other people in that circle, but they don’t consider them close friends.
They don’t like to hang out with a bunch of people. They’re okay with having just a few friends, but they need to be completely sure when it comes to the loyalty of those friends.
12. Don’t ever allow others to control you
If you allow anyone else to control your life, you’ll immediately become a beta woman and allow them to build up that alpha female personality.
You shouldn’t ever allow them to interfere in your decisions, even if they think they’re not good for you. You can hear out what they have to say, but don’t ever allow them to make decisions for you.
If you’re an independent woman, you’ll show others clearly that you’re the only one who can control your life. If you allow them to take control, you’ll make yourself look weak and definitely not a powerful woman.
13. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone
I’m sure you have your habits and things you normally do. That’s okay. We all have our comfort zone and things we enjoy doing.
However, that doesn’t mean you should never step out of your comfort zone and do something new. If you’re stuck in your comfort zone, your life will soon look boring to you, and you will have to change things asap.
New experiences bring new lessons – you should always remember that. There is nothing new in your ‘comfort zone,’ and you may miss out on so many great things. Don’t ever allow your fears to stop you from living your life to the fullest.
14. Don’t forgive others easily
When someone you love does you wrong, don’t forgive them immediately, no matter how big your love for them is. It will make you look weak, and love isn’t supposed to make us weak, even though there are some people who claim it should.
If someone wants your forgiveness, make them earn it. If they don’t want to earn it, then it’s a clear sign they don’t want it enough.
15. Practice daily affirmations
Boost your self-esteem by using encouraging daily self-love affirmations. Every morning when you wake up, stand in front of the mirror and say a few nice words to yourself.
Your confidence needs and deserves it. Compliment yourself every single day because there is always something you can and should compliment yourself on.
Make those affirmations part of your morning routine, and you’ll see how they’ll change your life for the better.
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16. Be an inspiration for other females
Live your life so all the other women around you can look up to you. Be ambitious and successful, and always aim for more in life. But, don’t also forget to have fun and hang out with your favorite people.
Be the alpha female all the other women will admire or be jealous of. Build yourself up but also help build up those around you. Remember, you are who you hang out with.
17. Self-identify as an alpha woman
You’re a true alpha lady. Repeat after me: I’m an alpha female, and there is absolutely nothing I can’t do.
This is the only way you should self-identify. Even if you do something that isn’t quite alpha-ish, you should continue to identify as an alpha woman because that’s who you are, with all of your mistakes, flaws, and insecurities.
What Are Alpha Female Traits?
An alpha female, just like an alpha man, is an independent, brave, emotionally strong, fearless, ambitious, and confident lady who knows exactly what she wants in life and how to get it.
She never allows others to interfere in her life, no matter how much she loves and cares about them. She has a group of friends she’s fiercely loyal to until the very end.
This woman isn’t afraid to take the lead because being a leader is a role she was born for. She only creates and engages in healthy relationships because she doesn’t want to be around toxic people and people who damage her peace of mind.
Whenever she doesn’t feel respected and loved in a romantic relationship, she’ll break up with that man asap and find someone who will treat her the way she deserves. She’s perfectly aware of her qualities, and she never allows others to disrespect or mistreat her.
Are Alpha Females Protective?
Of course, they are. True alpha females are like lionesses that always stand behind their loved ones and have their backs.
They will never allow anything bad to happen to those close to them, and they’ll protect them at the cost of their own lives. They block anyone’s attempt to hurt someone they truly love.
That’s why we can say that every mother is a real alpha woman. How they protect their children from bad things and evil people is amazing.
And alpha ladies really deserve to be both appreciated and admired.
In Closing
I hope this article has helped you to learn how to be an alpha female. Just remember, no matter what you and others around you think, you can become an alpha woman with just a bit of faith and effort.
Maybe you don’t currently believe in yourself, but I do. I’m sure you’re a powerful woman – you just need to see, acknowledge, and accept that power.
Work on your self-esteem, and don’t let anyone ever affect it.
All those beta females around you will be jealous of your success, but that should never hold you back. On the contrary, it should only encourage you to keep going… to keep running your world like a true alpha female.
