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The Aftermath Of Dating A Narcissist

The Aftermath Of Dating A Narcissist

What nobody tells you about narcissists is that they are really good at the art of disguise and a girl who dates a narcissist will never be aware that she’s dating one until it’s too late.

Until she’s left alone, broken and drained to pick up her own pieces. And it will take her a hell of a time to heal because the aftermath of dating a narcissist is immense.

A girl who dated a narcissist will have her self-worth crushed.

As the aftermath of dating a narcissist, this girl will be completely lost. She’ll have very low self-esteem—if there appears to be any left after the narcissist is done with her.

She’ll lose her dignity, all the value and all the faith she had in herself before a narcissist walked into her life.

A girl who dated a narcissist will be vulnerable and afraid all the time.

The consequences of dating such a toxic guy will be so visible because she’ll try her best to hide that she’s afraid or that everything in this world touches her, but she won’t make it.

Everything about her—her eyes, the way she behaves when someone new approaches her—everything will scream that she is at her most vulnerable because of her past.

A girl who dated a narcissist will only smile because she has to.

She won’t feel like smiling but in order not to make those who care for her worried, she’ll put a smile on her face. She forgot how happiness feels and she hasn’t smiled from the top of her lungs for a long time.

mindful woman looking at floor

It’s the price she had to pay for welcoming the narcissist in her life.

A girl who dated a narcissist will avoid talking about what happened.

She’ll develop some kind of defense mechanism of her own.

She’ll become guarded, she’ll avoid people and she’ll try to keep herself busy in order to forget the hell she’s been through and the hell she’s living as the aftermath of dating a narcissist.

A girl who dated a narcissist will have anxiety and depression as her best friends.

She might’ve not been like this at the beginning, she might’ve not been anxious or depressed, but dating a narcissist doesn’t come without a cost.

Usually, anxiety and depression come as side effects of a toxic relationship and it’ll take her quite some time before she starts feeling normal.

Recovering from a narcissist and surviving the aftermath of dating a narcissist won’t be easy.

Healing will be a hard and long process, and plenty of people won’t understand why it takes so long and why she doesn’t “just get over it already”.

Only those who care enough will actually care to stay as long as she needs them.

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Only those who truly love her will be with her through her whole period and will be her biggest support because she’ll never be able to get over it alone.

This girl who dated a narcissist forgot about the good in humans.

You can’t wrap your mind around it because you have probably never experienced anything like it and you should be lucky that you dodged the bullet.

Unfortunately, she didn’t. She fell for the wrong guy and she lost so many things.

But the worst part is the fact that she doesn’t believe there are any more good people out there. She just can’t see it because her past forces her to see her tormentor in each person she meets.

She isn’t recovering from love lost or even the failure of a relationship but from warfare.

She won’t be able to get over what happened to her so easily.

She’ll need more time than you think. And your impatience will just harm her. If you won’t help her, don’t make things worse by judging her.

You think she wouldn’t want to be normal or happy or the way she was before she got herself into the narcissist’s nest? She would, but she just doesn’t know how.

She’ll need constant reassurance.

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She forgot a long time ago how it feels to be fearless—how it feels not to be scared or not to have to be careful. She forgot how it feels not to anticipate anything bad.

Therefore, she’ll need to hear from you a lot how the nightmare is over and how everything will be okay.

She’ll need to hear from you how she doesn’t need to be scared and that she doesn’t need to worry because you’ll always be there to be her rock.

She’ll have a hard time trusting people.

Her past taught her not to trust anyone because the one she thought was closest to her, pushed her closest to hell.

That’s why she’ll be doubtful whenever someone new tries to enter her life.

She’ll take any act of good towards her with a dose of suspicion, thinking she’ll pay for it later—and she’ll pay for it big time.

She’ll need some time before she welcomes someone new in her life or decides to love.

Love is now a very strange and unknown feeling to her. What she once thought was love turned into the most toxic feeling and it made her a prisoner of her tormentor.

She won’t allow herself to develop feelings towards anyone—let alone the feeling of love. That’s how bruised she is.

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She’ll apologize constantly.

Because she went through hell, she’ll have this need to apologize—even for the things she doesn’t need to.

She learned that the best way to avoid emotional beatings is taking all the blame and that’s what she did when she dated a narcissist.

This is something she’ll have a hard time shaking off, so don’t be surprised when you hear her saying “I’m so sorry” for the smallest thing because that’s her defensive mechanism and it will take a while before she gets rid of it.

She’ll hide her feelings.

In her previous relationship with a narcissist, ‘to feel’ always came with a price.

The more she showed her feelings, the worse he treated her. That’s why you’ll never be able to see what she truly feels.

She’ll be scared to come off as clingy, too emotional, overly sensitive or even boring with all those emotions of hers.

She’ll be scared you won’t understand so she’ll take the ‘easy’ road by always choosing to bottle her feelings up.

Nothing in this process of recovering will be easy.

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She’ll have frequent mood swings. Often, she’ll want to be isolated and she’ll guard her heart more than you’ve ever seen.

She’ll need constant reassurance—you’ll need to prove her day after day that you’re there, that you’re not leaving and that you understand what happened to her.

You’ll need to show her that she isn’t alone, that you care and that together, you two can overcome whatever happened.

She’ll need a lot of time and she might never become the person you’d want her to be. All of this will be overwhelming at moments.

But it will be worth it.

It’s not her fault that she’s the way she is now. She just doesn’t know how to live otherwise.

She’s an amazing person—or at least she was before she fell into the claws of a narcissist—but she can get better.

It takes a lot of work, but she may become a normal human after all.

She needs someone who’ll show her that there are good people in this world. She deserves someone who won’t just talk, but who’ll be there for her, who’ll make promises and actually keep them.

She needs someone who’ll put her first after she’s been on the bottom for such a long time.

She needs someone to prove to her that she matters and someone who’ll be her shoulder to cry on.

She needs someone to help her heal and to show her that there is more to her life than what she went through with her narcissist.

She needs a good guy in order to finally break free from the aftermath of dating a narcissist.

So if you care, care enough to be the next good guy for her. She deserves to get the love she gave to the wrong person. She deserves to matter.

There is still an amazing girl in her. There is still a girl who’s ready to conquer the world and that’s destined to live life to the fullest—only this girl is hiding at the moment because she was broken and now she’s scared.

Show her that she has nothing to be afraid of and all your effort will make sense after she recovers.

The Aftermath Of Dating A Narcissist


Saturday 11th of August 2018

Not everyone is "amazing" and quite frankly most people who choose, because yes it is a choice, to get with someone and furthermore stay with them if they are really so awful probably weren't "amazing" to begin with.


Monday 30th of April 2018

Look up narcissistic personality disorder. Being narcissistic is a mental illness/ disorder.. Sadly both parties are victims.

Jen Nelson

Monday 23rd of April 2018

I just want to say after being in this at first I felt the sting on being a victim but during the healing process I seen myself as a survivor a Warrior but you have to cut any connections even from friends you both once knew completely and yes cutting the friends hurts like hell but in order to start on your journey of the healing process you can not allow constant conversations from people who dont seem to understand what you just got away from. but you "pray" that one day you could hug your friends neck and say your sorry for your disapearing for so long. Now to the gentleman that felt they never call a woman a Narc just to let you know after being in this hell you start to realise and see patterns in all types of people so to say only Men are looked at well its not true male or female narc I will completely walk away from and have nothing to do with them dating or even friendship, so please dont feel this way its a hard subject to deal with and I pray for anyone who has been to hell and back with one. I advise anyone getting out of this type of relationship stay celibate and take all the time you need to heal because the last thing I want to do is get into a relationship with a true gentlemen and hurt him because I have not completely healed the good guys dont deserve to be punished for someone else damage. My prayers to anyone in recovery and keep me in your prayers too because I still have a ways to go.


Sunday 22nd of April 2018

I've dated 2 extremely narcissistic men. Luckily for me, I have a deep soul, high self esteem, and was able to quickly move on from both relationships (one was 1.5 years, the other 2 years) b/c I knew that what they were trying to reflect on me was a reflection on themselves.

If you can look at the big picture and realize that everything someone says about you is really about them, then you can rebuild any self esteem lost (if any). But narcissists tend to weave a web to get you inticed in the beginning and they are the best at it b/c it becomes easier for them to take advantage of you after they have you "hooked".

Luckily for me, I'm now dating the opposite and have learned that the only way to change your pattern is to not keep picking the same person over and over again (in a different form). We tend to unconsciously do this!

Great article! I'm sure there's many out there that need to see the value in themselves and not let someone else bring them to their level. We need to lift ourselves up to a higher level by dating someone who is worthy of us and narcissists aren't those people!!!


Thursday 19th of April 2018

I know what this is about my Daughter has been put thru Hell n Back shes a Wonderful person deep down in side Loveing careing devoted kind gentle Precious All in one but today u cant see it cause of the life shes had with the Devil him self I keep her in my Prayers Daily She knows there isnt any thing I wouldnt do for her I tell her what a wonderful person she is n I Love,Her so much. One day she will get it together It breaks my Heart to see her like this but i keep strong for her U R A WINNER MY DEAR DAUGHTER U KNOW WHO U R LOVE MOM