Te quiero tanto que duele: Significado y qué hacer
Te quiero tanto que me duele lo que significa que lo daría todo por ti. Te apreciaría por encima de todos los demás.
¿Te has sentido así alguna vez?
If you have, then you probably believe true love comes with heartbreak. But I’m here to tell you that this isn’t quite true.
La forma en que quieres a alguien refleja lo que sientes por ti mismo. What do I mean by this? Read on, and you’ll see!
Te quiero tanto que duele: Significado
Love does hurt, but it’s because you give it the power to hurt you. You’re obsessed with the idea of romantic love and will do anything to experience it.
When you fall in love, it consumes you. You start not just wanting the person but needing them. And that’s a problem.
Su amado doesn’t just become your partner – se convierten en tu salvador. Ante ti, ves a alguien que te arreglará la vida.
That’s why you keep getting hurt… because you don’t value yourself enough.
El amor puede ser autodestructivo
I’ve been hung up on a past relationship for three and a half years, and it really is true… love can be painful.
Cuando encontré la perfección en esta persona, nunca pensé en buscar en otra parte.
It’s painful because I’m stuck. It’s painful because I me encanta mi person more than myself… even if it harms me.
Tal vez tu dolor sea diferente. Tal vez tu persona está a tu lado, pero tu exceso de pensamientos te está destruyendo lentamente.
Either way, you are in pain, repeating to yourself the same words…
Te quiero tanto que duele meaning that I can’t love you the way I want to because we aren’t together.
Te quiero tanto que duele meaning that so many words are left unspoken, and venting to friends isn’t enough anymore.
Te quiero tanto que duele meaning that you have power over me. You’re here, but I’m afraid you’ll slip through my fingers as soon as I look away.
Te quiero tanto que duele meaning you don’t love me back.
Tú eres lo primero
Yes, love can be self-destructive, which is why letting go of everything that doesn’t serve you is so important.
It won’t be easy, but every ”minor” victory matters! Take time to celebrate all your accomplishments, no matter how meaningless they may seem to others.
Only you know what you’re fighting against.
¿Se puede querer demasiado a alguien?
La respuesta es sí.
You’re probably surprised because we all want a great love, don’t we? And how can you not love someone too much and still call it a great love?
Well, the truth is – you can. You were just taught that love is sacrifice and that the person you love always comes first.
Descuidas tus propias necesidades por el bien de amor incondicional. Sólo te sientes el amante perfecto cuando das lo mejor de ti, incluso cuando te duele.
But I’ll tell you what no one else has told you before:
Anteponer a otra persona es autodestrucción. Vivir sólo para cuidar de ellos es autodescuido. Cuando amas demasiado a alguien, acabas resintiéndole.
Si crees que eres destined to give more love than you’ll ever receive, you are wrong. You just don’t choose the right people.
Practicar límites saludables
Lo sé, lo sé. Amor eterno suena poético, pero necesitas cuidar de tu salud mental un poco más.
El amor es complicado because you aren’t searching for other things to live for that don’t include your lover. Do them to enrich your life and quiérete más.
Empieza por tener tiempo para ti todos los días. Aléjate de las redes sociales y busca nuevas aficiones.
¿Por qué?
Porque sólo cuando sientas que eres digno de tu propio tiempo serás feliz contigo mismo.
Sólo cuando te des a ti mismo la felicidad que mereces estarás preparado para un relación sana.
Your happiness shouldn’t depend on your significant other. Find it by yourself… and then share it with them.
Love them… but love yourself more.
¿Se puede amar a alguien a quien se hiere?
Sí, pero depende de muchas cosas.
En primer lugar, debes preguntarte qué tipo de dolor estás padeciendo.
Is it emotional or physical? Does your loved one hurt you because they enjoy it or because you’re just not a priority?
El maltrato no es amor
If someone causes you physical pain, know that that’s not true love – it’s abuse.
Y pensarán en un millón de maneras de hacer que sientas lástima por ellos.
Don’t fall for their apologies and sad stories. Don’t empathize with them and fall into the same trap every time. This is not cómo se siente el amor.
I know it’s hard, especially if they are a family member you are dependant on or if you love them a bit too much, but trust me – they don’t care about you and never will.
Amor verdadero es gentil y amable. Si no lo encuentras, huye a las colinas.
If someone is causing you constant emotional pain, that’s not true love either. Someone who understands the el verdadero valor del amor will care about you and make sure that you’re alright.
They will care about your well-being and never make you feel bad about yourself. They’ll treat you like a best friend would.
So, if you notice that your person keeps criticizing you and blaming you for every little thing, that’s your cue.
Las peleas son normales, pero cuando hay más peleas que paz y felicidad, es que algo va mal.
El daño puede ser involuntario
People aren’t always aware of what they’re doing. Sometimes, you just need to point it out.
For example, your partner may not be aware of your emotional triggers, especially at the beginning of the relationship. They may make a joke about something you’re insecure about.
You get angry at them and blame them for hurting you, but in reality, they don’t even know what they’ve done. That’s why it’s so important to understand your partner’s traumas.
Or, perhaps they tend to come back into your life just when you thought it was over. Something pulls them towards you again, and there they are… unaware that they’re causing you pain.
Lo que sienten por ti es amor condicionalSu egoísmo les ciega. Todo lo que les importa es satisfacer sus propias necesidades, prestando poca atención al efecto que tiene sobre ti.
Puede ser o no amor verdadero, but it’s certainly not the kind of love you deserve.
Cuando el amor es genuino, sientes paz porque la persona que te ama nunca te permite tener un corazón roto.
Pero encontrar el amor después del desamor isn’t easy. It’s okay to take your time.
¿Qué hacer cuando la persona que amas te hace daño?
O hablas con ellos o los dejas.
What you do depends on the situation you’re in. Some problems are easily fixed, and others aren’t. Observe the situation closely and make your decision.
La comunicación es la clave
As we’ve said, people don’t always hurt you intentionally. While you’re out there contemplating ‘’¿Es real el amor??’’ they’re genuinely ignorant of how their actions have made you feel.
That’s why you can’t really be mad at them. Instead, you should express your emotions and make them realize what they’ve done.
But, make sure not to blame them for it. That will get you nowhere. Remember that the goal is to solve the problem. Do it by letting them know that they’ve made a mistake.
Todos tenemos defectos seres humanos, and making mistakes is inevitable. But, if he continually makes them even after you’ve pointed them out, they don’t love you.
Cuando una persona tiene miedo de perderteharán todo lo que esté en su mano para demostrar su amor.
Fighting or silent treatment won’t help if you want a good relationship. Communication is the only way to make things right.
Saber cuándo marcharse
¿Y si alguien no te da nada más que desamor? ¿Vas a quedarte sólo porque les quieres? ¿Vas a ser infeliz por el bien de la relación?
Espero que no.
Si tu pareja es abusiva o tóxica de alguna manera, nunca debes soportarlo, no importa incluso si los amas de verdad.
Even if you see a glimpse of hope, that’s because you refuse to see the truth – they aren’t going to change.
I know, people ARE capable of change, but it isn’t that easy. Just think about the things you want to improve about yourself. It isn’t enough to wish for it, is it?
Yes, maybe they’ll change, but will you accept the constant pain for a ‘maybe’? Will you sacrifice your life waiting for somebody?
Love isn’t supposed to hurt. You should try to seguir adelante y repara tu corazón roto.
Reflexiones finales
¿Te has dado cuenta?
”I love you so much it hurts meaning I don’t love myself enough.”
Don’t enter a relación comprometida hasta que empieces a apreciar lo que tienes que ofrecer. Aprende a querer a la gente, no a necesitarla. Sólo te necesitas a ti mismo.
Once you realize this, new doors will open for you, and for the first time, you will see clearly why it wasn’t working before… because you weren’t ready.
