Nunca obligues a nadie a hablar contigo (10 razones + frases)
If you’ve had your fair share of unrequited loves, fake friendships, and toxic relationships (like myself), then you TOTALLY understand the essence of the saying “Nunca fuerce anyone to talk to you.”
I’ve realized that this “forcing issue” goes beyond just talking because it tells us a lot about our autoestima y nuestra elección de relationships that don’t benefit us.
Interacciones forzadas y las relaciones son como un boomerang.
At first, you think that it’ll only be this one time that you go out of your way to force an interaction, and it will never happen again. You even convince yourself that there’s probably something wrong with you, and it’s your holy duty to “make the first move.”
Y entonces te GOLPEA, como un boomerang. You realize that by forcing other people to be in your life, you’re just wasting your time. Sacrificar la salud mental = sabotear tu felicidad.
If this wasn’t reassuring enough, below, you’ll find some legit reasons why you should never force anyone to talk to you. (Your happiness is begging you to memorize them.)
10 razones legítimas para no obligar a nadie a hablar contigo
If you often have this uncontrollable urge to force interactions with your best friends, family members, and others, know that this “forcing pattern” is self-destructive.
También le impide establecer relaciones sanas. Here’s why you should stay away from forcing anyone to talk to you (or be in your life):
1. La felicidad se convierte en un callejón sin salida
Forcing and happiness are two terms that don’t go well together. Forcing someone to do anything will only backfire. When that happens, your pursuit of happiness turns into a dead-end street.
You get stuck in your thoughts, overthink, imagine things, and hope that you’ll succeed in getting their attention. Let me tell you one thing (or two things):
You’re too priceless to beg for attention.
You’re too glorious to be half-loved.
If they don’t understand that, then they certainly don’t deserve to be part of your life. It’s that simple.
2. Perder el tiempo es uno de los mayores pecados
If there’s one thing we so often take for granted, it is TIME. I’m not sure if we do it subconsciously or if we’re convinced that we have all the time in the world.
Well, we do until we don’t.
Yes, it’s confusing because life is a mystery in itself, but one thing is sure: Perder el tiempo con alguien que no merece tu atención es uno de los mayores pecados.
I admit that I was guilty of committing the same crime, like the majority of you, my fellow readers, and I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to forgive myself for it.
Stop caring about someone who doesn’t care about you. Deja de perder el tiempo cuando podrías aumentar tu potencial centrándote en cosas que mejorarán significativamente tu vida. Lo siento, pero obligar a alguien a hablar contigo no es una de ellas (con sarcasmo).
3. Healthy interactions (normally) don’t require much effort
I’m pretty sure that all of you are familiar with the fact that healthy communication is the basis of every healthy relationship. This leads us to another hypothesis:
Healthy interactions don’t require much effort.
Yes, you might have arguments or passive-aggressive tendencies, but they usually don’t last for long, and you don’t end up forcing one another to talk to each other.
If you do, then you know your communication patterns are toxic, and it’s only a matter of time before this will negatively affect your well-being.
4. Cuanto más fuerces las cosas, peor se pondrán
Sí. Cuanto más los persigues, más lejos están de tu alcance. Lo mismo ocurre con la interacción. Cuanto más la fuerces, peor será.
Así que hazte un favor y nunca fuerce anyone to talk to you. It’s better to marcharse de esas personas que seguir viviendo tu vida en la miseria.
I remember when I couldn’t stop asking myself, ¿Por qué de repente me ignora?? ¿He hecho algo mal?
The more I overthought and tried to get him to talk to me, the worse it got. When I finally gathered the courage to save myself from this toxic pattern, I’d realized that ser soltero no es tan malo después de todo.
It’s ten times more rewarding than forcing someone to talk to you when you’re obviously not meant to be.
5. Forzar las cosas te obliga a sacrificar tu autoestima
En mi opinión, forzar las cosas (ya sea la comunicación o cualquier otra cosa) es como cuestionar tu autoestima y hacer saber a la otra persona que tiene el control de tu felicidad y bienestar.
¿Por qué te harías algo así? ¿Por qué sacrificarías tu autoestima for someone who doesn’t (or doesn’t know how to) appreciate your presence?
Nunca fuerce a nadie que hable contigo.
Cree en ti mismo. Cree que mereces reciprocidad y no migajas. Deja de presionarte para creer que forzar las cosas debe considerarse normal o deseable.
6. Love can’t be forced
No, love can’t be forced, and we can’t buy attention by forcing someone to notice us. So, don’t try to force your loved ones, friends, colleagues, or strangers to talk to you.
Estas son las cuatro lecciones de vida que aprendí por las malas:
- La vida real no es un cuento de hadas.
- Los buenos amigos escasean.
- El amor verdadero es difícil de encontrar.
- Confíe en su instinto sobre alguien.
Just let it be, and if it’s meant to be, it will be. With that said, here’s one of the most powerful unrequited love quotes by Christina Westover: “El amor no correspondido es la maldición infinita de un corazón solitario.”
7. It’s a form of emotional abuse
Obligar a alguien a hablar contigo es una forma de abuso emocional porque esto significa enviarles mensajes de texto con frecuencia, tal vez acosarles, llamarles o discutir con ellos.
Both you and the person you’re forcing suffer. You suffer because they don’t want to talk to you, and they suffer because they don’t want to talk to you, but you’re pressuring them.
Al no obligarles a hablar contigo, respetarás su intimidad, sus límites y, lo que es más importante, te protegerás a ti mismo.
8. If you have to force interaction, it means you’re NOT on the same page
“El amor es como un pedo perdido. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.” – Stephen K. Amos
I don’t know about you, but the above quote sounds totally relatable. The same thing goes for interaction. If you have to force someone to talk to you, it probably means you’re not compatible.
Tal vez sean un fechador en serie, falso amigoque padezca una enfermedad mental, o un persona emocionalmente inaccesible que tiene más miedo a sentir cosas que a la muerte. Sea cual sea el motivo, comprende que forzarlo solo empeorará las cosas.
9. Crea un ambiente tóxico
Independientemente de si se trata de una relación romántica o de amistad, forzar crea un ambiente tóxico que puede afectar gravemente a tu cordura y a tu bienestar en general.
Se vuelve incapaz de pensar en otra cosa que no sea conseguir que hablen con usted. Trabajas constantemente en la creación de un plan perfecto y en la aplicación de tácticas impecables que hagan que se abran a ti.
Pero, ¿qué ocurre en su lugar?
They become even more reserved and unwilling to appreciate your efforts. As a result, you become even more restless and start obsessing over the whole thing. To prevent yourself from entering this toxic limbo, just don’t force them to talk to you.
10. Mereces estar en una relación recíproca y sana
The number one reason you shouldn’t force anyone to talk to you is that you deserve to experience the beauty of a healthy relationship.
Aprende a quererte a ti mismo. Remember that you’re worthy of being heard, answered to, and loved.
Te mereces estar con alguien que te inspire a ser mejor persona en lugar de alguien que fuerce la comunicación. La vida es demasiado corta para forzar las cosas, así que vive genuinamente y con dignidad.
Los 10 mejores Nunca Forzar Cualquiera que hable contigo Citas inspiradoras
If you’re looking for extra motivation regarding forcing things, below ,you’ll find some relationship quotes, sad quotes (and some less sad quotes). You can use these motivational quotes as Instagram captions or other captions on social media to spread positivity because sharing is caring:
1. “Don’t force anyone to talk about how they are feeling or to tell you something. Just give them their space and time, and if they feel like telling you, then they will tell you on their own.” – Neha Maurya
2. “I am so tired of people and myself that I don’t force anyone to stay or talk to me. If you want to stay or talk, you’re most welcome. If you don’t want to talk or stay, you are good to go. I won’t force you because I am tired of wasting my energy on people who don’t even care or deserve it.” – Unknown
3. “Don’t force someone to make time for you – if they really want to, they will.” – Unknown
4. “Like anything, you don’t force kids to cook. It just becomes a part of life – have them be around it, keep them informed – talk about it. I try to relay my passion for it in these ways. The second you try to force anything on your own kid, they rebel.” – Tedd English
5. “If someone wants you, nothing will keep them away, but if they don’t want you, nothing will make them stay.” – Unknown
6. “I’m at that point in my life where I don’t force communication with other people. You quieres hablar conmigo? Great, we can talk for hours on end. You don’t quieres hablar conmigo? That’s chill too. I’ll be fine with or without you.” – Unknown
7. “You can’t force raging water to be calm. You have to leave it alone and let it return to its natural flow. Emotions are the same way.” – Thibaut
8. “Don’t force pieces that don’t fit.” – Unknown
9. “Do your best, then adopt a ‘whatever happens, happens’ mindset. Don’t try to force things. Just let go and allow the right blessings to flow.” – Marcandangel
10. “Our patience will achieve more than our force.” – Edmund Burke
Instead Of Forcing Someone To Talk To You, Do THIS…
Instead of forcing someone to talk to you, choose to give them space. If they don’t reach you on their own, don’t beg or force them, but move on.
I’ve implemented these “life hacks” multiple times, and they work perfectly. Those who weren’t meant to be in my life didn’t contact me, and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.
Encuentra el valor para seguir adelante cuando te sientas indeseado, y la vida te recompensará con los que sí lo son destinado a ser en tu vida.
Here’s another thing you should do that is related to your well-being and the quality of your future relationships.
When you find yourself forcing someone to talk to you, don’t forget to ask yourself the following questions:
- ¿Por qué quieres tan desesperadamente que hablen contigo en el primer puesto?
- Do you feel like you’re not good enough?
- ¿Adoras patrones de relación que no son correspondidos y que no están disponibles emocionalmente?
- Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t quiero estar contigo?
Hay muchas otras preguntas que podrías hacerte, pero las anteriores son algunas de las más importantes. En otras palabras, tienes que entender por qué tienes esa tendencia a obligar a los demás a hacer cosas.
This could be related to childhood trauma, being neglected by your parents or others close to you, low self-esteem, and so on. If you have this constant urge to fight for other people’s affection and prove to them that you’re worthy of love, it’s time to start working on yourself.
It’s time to love yourself a little bit more. Afirmaciones de amor propio y la meditación son también grandes potenciadores del amor propio y la confianza.
Nunca fuerces a nadie a formar parte de tu vida
Don’t overthink it. Don’t go out of your way to win other people’s approval and affection. If it doesn’t happen naturally, then you know it’s not right. Never force anyone to talk to you or be a part of your life because, if you do, happiness will bypass you.
