Las secuelas de salir con un narcisista
What nobody tells you about narcissists is that they are really good at the art of disguise and a girl who dates a narcissist will never be aware that she’s dating one until it’s too late.
Until she’s left alone, broken and drained to pick up her own pieces. And it will take her a hell of a time to heal because the aftermath of dating a narcissist is immense.
Una chica que salió con un narcisista tendrá su autoestima aplastada.
As the aftermath of dating a narcissist, this girl will be completely lost. She’ll have very low self-esteem—if there appears to be any left after the narcissist is done with her.
She’ll lose her dignity, all the value and all the faith she had in herself before a narcissist walked into her life.
Una chica que salió con un narcisista será vulnerable y tendrá miedo todo el tiempo.
The consequences of dating such a toxic guy will be so visible because she’ll try her best to hide that she’s afraid or that everything in this world touches her, but she won’t make it.
Everything about her—her eyes, the way she behaves when someone new approaches her—everything will scream that she is at her most vulnerable because of her past.
Una chica que salió con un narcisista sólo sonreirá porque tiene que hacerlo.
She won’t feel like smiling but in order not to make those who care for her worried, she’ll put a smile on her face. She forgot how happiness feels and she hasn’t smiled from the top of her lungs for a long time.
It’s the price she had to pay for welcoming the narcissist in her life.
Una chica que salió con un narcisista evitará hablar de lo sucedido.
She’ll develop some kind of defense mechanism of her own.
She’ll become guarded, she’ll avoid people and she’ll try to keep herself busy in order to forget the hell she’s been through and the hell she’s living as the aftermath of dating a narcissist.
Una chica que salió con un narcisista tendrá la ansiedad y la depresión como sus mejores amigas.
She might’ve not been like this at the beginning, she might’ve not been anxious or depressed, but dating a narcissist doesn’t come without a cost.
Normalmente, la ansiedad y la depresión son efectos secundarios de una relación tóxica and it’ll take her quite some time before she starts feeling normal.
Recovering from a narcissist and surviving the aftermath of dating a narcissist won’t be easy.
Healing will be a hard and long process, and plenty of people won’t understand why it takes so long and why she doesn’t “just get over it already”.
Sólo aquellos a los que les importe lo suficiente se quedarán el tiempo que ella los necesite.
Only those who truly love her will be with her through her whole period and will be her biggest support because she’ll never be able to get over it alone.
Esta chica que salió con un narcisista se olvidó de lo bueno de los humanos.
You can’t wrap your mind around it because you have probably never experienced anything like it and you should be lucky that you dodged the bullet.
Unfortunately, she didn’t. She fell for the wrong guy and she lost so many things.
But the worst part is the fact that she doesn’t believe there are any more good people out there. She just can’t see it because her past forces her to see her tormentor in each person she meets.
She isn’t recovering from love lost or even the failure of a relationship but from warfare.
She won’t be able to get over what happened to her so easily.
She’ll need more time than you think. And your impatience will just harm her. If you won’t help her, don’t make things worse by judging her.
You think she wouldn’t want to be normal or happy or the way she was before she got herself into the narcissist’s nest? She would, but she just doesn’t know how.
She’ll need constant reassurance.
She forgot a long time ago how it feels to be fearless—how it feels not to be scared or not to have to be careful. She forgot how it feels not to anticipate anything bad.
Therefore, she’ll need to hear from you a lot how the nightmare is over and how everything will be okay.
She’ll need to hear from you how she doesn’t need to be scared and that she doesn’t need to worry because you’ll always be there to be her rock.
She’ll have a hard time trusting people.
Su pasado le enseñó a no confiar en nadie porque el que creía más cercano a ella, la empujó más cerca del infierno.
That’s why she’ll be doubtful whenever someone new tries to enter her life.
She’ll take any act of good towards her with a dose of suspicion, thinking she’ll pay for it later—and she’ll pay for it big time.
She’ll need some time before she welcomes someone new in her life or decides to love.
El amor es ahora un sentimiento muy extraño y desconocido para ella. Lo que antes creía que era amor se convirtió en el sentimiento más tóxico y la convirtió en prisionera de su verdugo.
She won’t allow herself to develop feelings towards anyone—let alone el sentimiento del amor. That’s how bruised she is.
She’ll apologize constantly.
Because she went through hell, she’ll have this need to apologize—even for the things she doesn’t need to.
She learned that the best way to avoid emotional beatings is taking all the blame and that’s what she did when she dated a narcissist.
This is something she’ll have a hard time shaking off, so don’t be surprised when you hear her saying “I’m so sorry” for the smallest thing because that’s her defensive mechanism and it will take a while before she gets rid of it.
She’ll hide her feelings.
In her previous relationship with a narcissist, ‘to feel’ always came with a price.
The more she showed her feelings, the worse he treated her. That’s why you’ll never be able to see what she truly feels.
She’ll be scared to come off as clingy, too emotional, overly sensitive or even boring with all those emotions of hers.
She’ll be scared you won’t understand so she’ll take the ‘easy’ road by always choosing to bottle her feelings up.
Nada en este proceso de recuperación será fácil.
She’ll have frequent mood swings. Often, she’ll want to be isolated and she’ll guard her heart more than you’ve ever seen.
She’ll necesitan seguridad constante—you’ll need to prove her day after day that you’re there, that you’re not leaving and that you understand what happened to her.
You’ll need to show her that she isn’t alone, that you care and that together, you two can overcome whatever happened.
She’ll need a lot of time and she might never become the person you’d want her to be. All of this will be overwhelming at moments.
Pero merecerá la pena.
It’s not her fault that she’s the way she is now. She just doesn’t know how to live otherwise.
She’s an amazing person—or at least she was before she fell into the claws of a narcissist—but she can get better.
Lleva mucho trabajo, pero puede que se convierta en una humana normal después de todo.
She needs someone who’ll show her that there are good people in this world. She deserves someone who won’t just talk, but who’ll be there for her, who’ll make promises and actually keep them.
She needs someone who’ll put her first after she’s been on the bottom for such a long time.
She needs someone to prove to her that she matters and someone who’ll be her shoulder to cry on.
Necesita a alguien para ayudarla a sanar y mostrarle que hay más en su vida que lo que pasó con su narcisista.
Necesita un buen chico para liberarse por fin de las secuelas de salir con un narcisista.
Así que si te importa, preocúpate lo suficiente como para ser el próximo buen chico para ella. Ella merece recibir el amor que le dio a la persona equivocada. Ella merece importar.
There is still an amazing girl in her. There is still a girl who’s ready to conquer the world and that’s destined to live life to the fullest—only this girl is hiding at the moment because she was broken and now she’s scared.
Demuéstrale que no tiene nada que temer y todo tu esfuerzo tendrá sentido cuando se recupere.
