15 señales de advertencia de que tu pareja está perdiendo interés
Let’s be honest: being the other woman or the other man is bad enough. But having to doubt your partner’s feelings en medio de este caos es una pesadilla en sí misma.
However, before you jump to any conclusions, you have to be sure what’s really happening. Are you really seeing signs your affair partner is losing interest, or is there something else hidden behind their change in behavior?
Sólo hay una forma de averiguarlo: ¡seguir leyendo!
15 señales de que tu pareja está perdiendo el interés
Si te identificas con todos o la mayoría de estos signos, tu pareja es desenamorándome de ti.
1. Sin planes de futuro
Todos los expertos en relaciones te dirán lo mismo: la primera señal de alarma a la que debes prestar atención es que tu pareja y tú ya no tengáis planes de futuro.
Or, to be exact, they’re the one who avoids the topic.
¿Recuerdas cómo eran las cosas al principio? Ambos soñabais con cómo serían las cosas cuando entrarais en una relación real y comprometida.
Probablemente hablasteis de un lugar donde alojaros, planeasteis viajar juntos y teníais toda vuestra vida en común planeada.
Sin embargo, todo eso parece haber desaparecido de la noche a la mañana. Tu pareja se quedó callada como si ninguna de esas conversaciones hubiera existido.
Incluso cuando intentas abordar esta cuestión, te ignoran por completo.
And I’m not only talking about long-term planes de futuro. I’m talking about short-term plans as well.
You can’t get them to sign up for a weekend getaway or a coffee date tomorrow night, let alone anything else.
Isn’t this fact alone suspicious? If you’re being honest, you’ll admit that it is definitely one of the signs your affair partner is losing interest.
2. … at least not with you
However, when you come to think of it, you’re the only person they don’t make any plans with. It’s not that they’re too busy. They have time – just not for you.
They keep on making plans with their significant other and the rest of their family. Of course, they wouldn’t even inform you of those plans, but they have to warn you not to send them text messages or call them when they’re with them.
When you ask them about their vacation plans, they’ll tell you that they’ve already booked everything with their primary partner.
The hell with it, they’re even planning on doing things with their best friends and coworkers. It looks like there is a place in their future for everyone. That is, everyone but you!
Of course, when you confront him about this, he’ll tell you you’re imagining things.
Su pareja reservó los vuelos sin que ellos lo supieran, o tienen que asistir a un acto familiar.
But you’re not foolish enough to believe in these lies. After all, how come similar things didn’t happen before?
That’s right, the harsh truth is that your cheater doesn’t see your relationship as algo duradero.
3. Evitan hablar de divorcio
When you engaged in this affair, there were some promises made. You know the usual lines: their marriage or long-term relationship is falling apart, and they’re about to break up or divorciarse.
Se aseguraron de que creyeras que estarían juntos de verdad antes de que te dieras cuenta.
Pero ahora, cuando ya no sienten nada por ti, everything changed. They’ve stopped bringing their divorce up completely.
Incluso cuando les preguntas al respecto, se convierte en una gran pelea.
Let’s get one thing straight: probablemente estaban mintiendo a ti desde el primer día. Solo querían que te enamoraras de ellos, y lograron su misión.
However, as funny as this might sound, they no longer even put effort into deceiving you. It’s like they don’t give a damn whether you stay or leave.
Or, to be exact, they know that you’ll stay, so there is no point in persuading you that they’ll end things with their SO. I know you’ll have a hard time accepting this, but it’s one of the most surefire signs your affair partner is losing interest.
4. You’re nothing but a booty call
La intimidad física es crucial en toda relación romántica; nadie puede discutirlo. Tu aventura tendrá más posibilidades de éxito si os lleváis bien en la cama.
However, it can’t be the only basis of a relationship. If it is, then you’ve got yourself a un tipo de acuerdo sin ataduras y no tiene sentido buscar los signos reveladores de que tu pareja está perdiendo el interés, por no hablar de los sentimientos.
Pero la situación contigo es que tenías increíble diversión entre las sábanas. Nevertheless, it wasn’t the only thing your relationship revolved around. However, that has changed.
Lately, you’ve been feeling like this person’s llamada de botín. Why? Well, because that’s exactly lo que eres.
They call you in the middle of the night, asking when they can stop by. They don’t arrange any activities whatsoever except those that involve a hotel room.
You don’t talk, you don’t travel, you don’t watch movies together. You’re only spending time with one another when you’re sleeping together.
What does this tell you? That they’re still very much physically attracted to you, but that’s about it.
5. … or they avoid physical intimacy altogether
Let’s get one thing straight: we’re not talking about an emotional affair here, are we? That is why it’s quite unusual for your partner to avoid physical intimacy.
I just told you that it’s bad if sólo quieren acostarse contigo. And now I’m telling you that it’s bad if they don’t want to sleep with you either. What’s going on?
Well, the trick is in finding balance – one of the things your relationship clearly doesn’t have.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s one thing if they’re tired or if this is just a phase. You can’t expect anyone to be turned on 24/7 or for your sex life to always be at its peak.
It’s also understandable if you know that they’re going through something. Maybe they’re dealing with additional stress at work or something similar. In that case, this is not a red flag you should pay attention to.
Sin embargo, si su desinterés in physical intimacy lasts for some time and there is no valid explanation behind it, you’ve got yourself a problem.
What’s even worse is that they refuse to talk about it. Whenever you tackle the issue, they accuse you of having only one thing on your mind.
¿Qué significa esto?
Well, that they’ve probably stopped seeing you as their emotional partner. Instead, you’ve become something like a best friend to them.
Puedes intentar reavivar el brillo o conformarte con un aventura emocional.
6. Nadie te conoce
Keeping your relationship a secret is what an extra-marital affair is all about, I know. However, it’s impossible to keep something like that a secret for so long from literally everyone.
Cuando empezasteis a salir, tu tramposo showed you off. Of course, they made sure only people they trusted knew about you, which didn’t include anyone who would tell on them to their spouse.
Sin embargo, ahora parece que ya nadie sabe de ti, ni siquiera sus mejores amigos.
Does this mean that they’ve become more careful? But for what reason if they’re planning to file for divorce?
Either way, that’s not hidden behind this change of behavior. I hate to break it to you, but they simply don’t feel the need to talk about you anymore. Yes, it’s as simple as that.
At the same time, they don’t plan to keep you around for much longer, so they don’t see the need to bring you up in conversation.
7. Trabajar en su matrimonio
¿Se ha dado cuenta de que su pareja se esfuerza realmente por salvar su matrimonio, o sólo me pasa a mí?
Whenever you try to reach out, they’re always with them. They started mentioning their SO more, even though they try not to do so.
Maybe they haven’t told you anything about their reconciliation outright. However, I’m sure you stalk their social media accounts or have mutual friends.
You found out that they’re living their lives like every other married couple. It looks like they’ve just had a crisis, and now, they’re doing everything to overcome it and rebuild the healthy relationship they once had.
They’re traveling together, going to the movies, and attending social functions. Basically, they’re doing everything your partner isn’t doing with you.
Of course, you’ve never had a problem with them pasar el tiempo con otros familiares. However, it seems like they’re using this as an excuse to get closer to their SO.
Es una píldora difícil de tragar. Parece que sólo fuiste un condimento para su matrimonio. Obviamente les diste el soporte vital que necesitaban.
But hey, it’s better to realize it in time before you lose any more time with this person.
Terapeuta familiar
La mayor señal de alarma de que tu pareja trabajando en su matrimonio is that they’re seeing a family therapist. You have to understand that they consider their relationship so important that they want to make it work at all costs.
Both them and their SO are aware that they have problems – nobody can argue against that. These problems are above their area of expertise.
However, they’re so willing to work on them that they involve a professional to give them a hand.
8. Poner excusas
Una de las señales de que tu pareja está perdiendo interés se esconde en las excusas que sigue poniendo, sea cual sea la situación.
You ask them about divorce? They will tell you that they can’t leave their spouse because they’re emotionally blackmailing them, because they have a mortgage together, or for the kids’ sake.
You ask them why they spend so little time with you? They keep telling you that they have to work extra hours, that they’re busy at work, that they’re tired, or that they just can’t fit you into their schedule.
¿Le suena? Pues la verdad es que podría seguir y seguir porque hay infinidad de ejemplos de comportamientos similares.
¿Por qué ocurre esto?
Pero, ¿qué tienen en común todos estos patrones? That’s right – they’re all excuses.
Y siempre acabas con una gran y gorda nada. Sabes que they’re lying to you, but the worst part is that they’re getting away with it.
This is not something you want to hear, but they’re giving you these excuses just so you leave them alone. It’s easier to deceive you to get back off their back than to tell you that they don’t want to spend time with you.
9. Promesas vacías
Excuses never come alone. They’re always followed by promesas vacías. And you’ve been getting a bunch of those as well.
¿Cuándo se divorciarán? Pronto. ¿Cuándo tendrás el lugar que mereces en su vida? Ya lo tienes.
¿Te querrán para siempre? Claro que sí. ¿Te ven como su alma gemela? ¿Quién si no?
Todos estas palabras sonarían perfectos si estuvieran respaldados con acciones reales. But when it comes to your relationship, that’s definitely not the case.
Each one of these lines and promises are empty. Your partner’s words don’t match their deeds. And that’s the whole problem.
Of course, it hasn’t always been like this. On the contrary, it started happening once they started losing feelings for you.
10. You’ve become their last resort
Whether you like to admit it or not, the truth is that you’ve become this person’s última opción.
Cuando empezasteis a salir, estaban dispuestos a dejarlo todo para pasar tiempo contigo. Se escapaban de casa para verte, cancelaban reuniones y citas de trabajo para estar a tu lado.
Tú eras su prioridad y ocupabas claramente el primer lugar en su vida. Sin embargo, todo eso ha cambiado con el tiempo.
Lately, they’ve only been calling you when everyone else stands them up. Everything and everyone has become more important than you.
Their family (including their spouse), work, best friends, hobbies… you name it.
And you don’t have a problem with them having a place in their life. After all, you know what you signed up for.
Tienes un problema con el hecho de que, obviamente, ya no hay sitio para ti allí.
11. Tus sentimientos son lo último
¿Has intentado hablar con tu pareja de todas estas cosas que te molestan? Por supuesto que sí.
¿Fue alguna vez una conversación fructífera? Claro que no.
Why is that so? Well, isn’t it obvious? At the end of the day, your feelings don’t matter to them.
Por doloroso que sea comprender esta idea, they don’t give a damn sobre si te rompen el corazón o no.
They don’t care if they leave you hanging, waiting for them to show up as they promised. They don’t care if you cry yourself to sleep.
They don’t give a damn about the fact they’re ruining your future. They don’t care how you feel.
Por otro lado, se aseguran de no herir a su pareja. Se aseguran de no perturbar su vida aparentemente perfecta.
It seems like everyone’s emotions, needs, and well-being are significant. Everyone, except yours, that is.
12. It’s all about them
Isn’t it clear? Your entire relationship revolves around your partner. It’s pretty obvious that you two aren’t equal here.
It’s not just about the fact that you two are spending less and menos tiempo together. It’s also about the quality of that time.
¿Cuándo fue la última vez que hablaste de ti? ¿Cuándo fueron tus sueños, miedos y problemas el tema principal de conversación?
That’s right, you can’t even remember.
Incluso cuando los dos entabláis una comunicación significativa, siempre acaba con ellos quejándose y tú siendo su hombro sobre el que llorar.
You’re very understanding of all their troubles. You even listen to them talk about their marital problems.
You’re there to give them advice, hear them out, or give them a hand even when they don’t ask for one.
Pero, ¿le devuelven alguna vez el favor? Desde luego que no.
Whenever you need them, they’re nowhere to be found. They’re too busy to listen to you, let alone help you out with your issues.
It’s time to ask yourself this: Am I this person’s emotional partner or a pro-bono therapist?
13. They’re annoyed by everything you do
What are some of the first signs your affair partner is losing interest? Well, this one doesn’t have a lot to do with affairs in general – it also answers the question of how to tell if your la pareja está perdiendo los sentimientos.
Cuando todo lo que haces molesta a tu pareja, una cosa está clara: ¡el enamoramiento hace tiempo que desapareció!
I’m mostly talking about those pequeñas cosas they used to find interesting and cute. But now, they’re literally bothered by the way you breathe.
That’s exactly what’s going on in your affair.
Por ejemplo, antes eras celoso. Tu pareja lo veía como una señal de tu amor por ella. Se sentía halagada por tu carácter posesivo.
Now, all of a sudden, they can’t stand this side of you.
It’s like that with everything. They’re annoyed by the way you kiss them and make love to them, your text messages, how you look, talk, and behave.
I hate to break it to you, but this person’s disinterest is quite visible – you’re just refusing to see it.
14. Hay alguien más
Okay, so they’re cheating on their spouse with you – we’ve got that covered. But once they start cheating with a third (or should I say fourth?) person, it’s time to pick up what’s left of your dignity and walk away.
I mean, come on, you won’t allow yourself to be cheated on by a person who’s cheating on someone with you, will you?
If this is the case, the truth is that you’re dealing with a tramposo en serie. These people don’t care who their lover is – as long as they are in a position to commit adultery.
Odio tener que decírtelo, pero esto nunca fue por ti. Sólo querían hacer trampa, y tú eras conveniente.
You obviously no longer give them the thrill they were getting at the beginning of your affair. Of course, this has nothing to do with you – this person is just moving from one victim to another.
Y lamentablemente, tu tiempo se ha acabado.
Why didn’t they leave you?
Well, why would they? If they have a chance to jiggle between the three of you, that’s exactly what they will do.
15. Su intuición le dice
At the end of the day, there is something even stronger than all of these signs your affair partner is losing interest. That’s right, I’m talking about your gut feeling.
Pueden intentar engañarte tanto como quieran, pero en el fondo, sabes que las cosas no son iguales.
Lo notas en la forma en que te miran, en la forma en que te besany, en general, en la forma en que te tratan.
As much as you’re trying to tell yourself that you’re imagining things, you know the harsh truth. You’re aware that your intuition is showing you signs you can no longer ignore.
La única pregunta es: ¿qué vas a hacer al respecto?
¿Cómo saber si una aventura ha terminado?
If your affair partner has reconnected with their spouse as if nothing happened, your affair is over, even if they didn’t break up with you outright. Don’t expect them to be brave enough to end things with you directly. Instead, they’ll let you make the conclusion yourself.
¿Cómo suelen terminar las relaciones?
La mayoría de los affaires acaban con la vuelta de la pareja conyugal, aunque estos matrimonios suelen terminar en divorcio, seguido de una relación comprometida con la tercera persona. Según algunas investigaciones, solo un pequeño porcentaje de los infieles abandonan realmente a sus esposas o maridos para construir una vida con sus amantes.
Para terminar:
I know that it was heartbreaking for you to relate to most of these signs your affair partner is losing interest. But they’re here, and they’re very much real.
I don’t mean to judge you, but this affair would’ve ended one way or another. And it’s definitely much better for you to know where you stand.
To be honest, you have no other option but to leave even before seeing all these signs. However, now after you’ve seen them, you know what your only choice is!
