5 señales de que su "lo siento" es sólo una táctica de manipulación

Una disculpa sincera es como un pegamento mágico, puede reparar cualquier relación rota, mientras que una disculpa falsa sólo creará más grietas por donde se filtrará fácilmente la confianza.

We’ve come to the point where apologies almost seem like a formality. People are not always honest and neither are apologies.

There is nothing wrong with apologies, but they must be followed by actions. Actions that’ll be proof that he truly means he is sorry.

Las palabras son sólo el primer paso hacia la verdadera disculpa. Al fin y al cabo, los hechos hablan más que las palabras.

Debes escuchar atentamente la disculpa para determinar si es sincera o no. Además, presta atención a su lenguaje corporal mientras se disculpa.

Algunos hombres serán sinceros, pero otros lo dirán por costumbre o simplemente para que te olvides de su error, o incluso para sentirse mejor.

The most important thing for you to understand is that an apology doesn’t mean he cares!

No debería buscar excusas. Es un hombre adulto. Debe respaldar sus palabras y sus acciones.

Maybe he can’t affect what he did, but he can affect what he is going to do about it. He should be grateful for your forgiveness – and never forget it.

It’s good to believe in second chances, but think about it: Does he deserve it? He can change and repair what he did. But if he does it again, it means he took your forgiveness lightly.

It’ll be like you gave him an extra bullet because he missed you the first time. He’ll think you’ll be there forever to give him second chances.

Si está pensando en si merece una segunda oportunidad o no, tal vez las señales que le presentamos a continuación sean justo lo que necesita para tomar esa decisión.

1. Es demasiado amable y encantador

There’s nothing wrong with being kind and charming, but if he is being EXTRA kind and charming while apologizing, in most cases, it’s not sincere.

He does that because he wants your forgiveness ASAP. That’s how he tries to seduce you and make you forget about his mistake.

Los hombres siempre piensan que todas las mujeres somos iguales, que siempre caemos ante algún gesto romántico.

Hará hincapié en que fue un error suyo y, de paso, le halagará de todas las formas posibles.

You’ll feel like you are the most beautiful and beloved woman in the world.

It’ll seem like the only fair thing to do is to forgive him. And that will be his only goal: to make you forget about everything like it never happened.

But the worst part is that as soon as he gets what we want, he’ll do it again. And again. Do not let yourself be fooled by a person like that.

2. He gets upset when you can’t forgive him immediately

Esto significa que está acostumbrado a pedirte disculpas y a que tú lo olvides y lo perdones inmediatamente.

He is not even thinking about how he should fight for your forgiveness, because he’s never done so before.

Tu reacción a sus disculpas le sorprendió y eso es una situación totalmente nueva para él.

Maybe he will try to blame you for that mistake, hoping that you’ll fall for it. And then he will wait for YOU to apologize.

Los hombres así son muy inteligentes y es mejor que seas precavida cuando trates con ellos.

3. He threatens self-harm if you don’t forgive him

You two were emotional partners. Naturally, he’ll know your personality and your weak spots. If you are too emotional and sensitive, then this will be his tactic to get what he wants.

He knows that you’d never let him harm himself because you’d never forgive yourself if you did.

He will show/send you some “evidence” on how he is planning to do himself harm. Don’t pay too much attention to that.

He is not mentally unstable, just very, very foxy. Don’t become his prey because his threat is just that – a threat.

4. Se esfuerza por justificarse

You found out about his mistake and you’re ready to tell him. But as soon as you do, he apologizes and states dozens of reasons for his actions.

The thing is, he is not stopping. He’s presenting his defense like he is on trial or something.

Eso significa que lo estaba planeando con antelación y sólo esperaba el momento en que te enteraras.

And he is doing all this just to confuse you. You won’t be able to think clearly about it because of his well prepared defense. But please, be one of those strict judges and take the final judgment in your favor.

5. Quiere una disculpa de pago

Your partner is aware of his mistake, but he doesn’t want to apologize without getting anything in return.

Intentará sacarte algo porque ahora sabe lo importante que es para ti una disculpa.

He will try to use this again in his favor by asking you to do something that you don’t want to, only to hear him say “I am sorry.”

Only a very arrogant and inconsiderate man is capable of this. A man who is so sure of your love and thinks that you’ll do whatever it takes just to stay with him. Please prove him wrong.

It’s never enough just to say those three words. He needs to try to make it right and never repeat it.

Los peores tipos de hombres son los manipuladores.

They make you feel that they are superior in your relationship. And it shouldn’t be like that.

Debes saber lo valiosa que eres. Mereces más que eso de un hombre. Date la oportunidad de ser amada como te mereces.