It’s not so easy for men to read into women’s feelings, just as it’s not for women to decipher male psychology.
Let’s face it—we really do come from different planets and more often than not, we don’t have a clue what the opposite sex is thinking. That’s where we come in.
If you are wondering, “How to know if a girl likes you?” or, “Are there any signs your coworker is attracted to you?” or, “Is she flirting or just being friendly?” or, “What does her text mean?” we are here to shed some light on it.
You see, men are usually expected to make the first move, even though that shouldn’t have anything to do with gender. Women can approach men too—it’s not a big deal.
Still, most of us women would prefer to have someone to pursue us, court us and give us that old school kind of love.
On the other hand, it’s important for a man to know that feelings are mutual and that he is on the same page as the woman he likes so he would have enough courage to do something about it.
The good news is that a woman will show some subtle signs she likes you that will reveal her true feelings. The even better news is we can help you read them.
How to know if a girl likes you over text?
There is one sign that precedes all the other signs, which by default makes it more important and it goes like this: If a girl gave you her phone number, there is a huge chance she likes you.
Simple right but that alone means that she wants to receive your text messages so all you have to do now is keep the conversation going.
1. She reveals that she has been snooping through your social media or talking to some of your mutual friends about you
She will ask you about a vacation you were on a few weeks ago because she saw pics on Instagram.
She will ask if that girl on your profile photo is your sister, friend or girlfriend.
She’ll ask about your last birthday party because your friends bragged about what an awesome time they had.
She’ll run by you some information a mutual friend or acquaintance told her about you, to see if it is true.
The question isn’t as important as her desire to know more about you. She will reveal that she knows things about you that you didn’t tell her yourself.
She snooped or she asked around because she is interested and that is pretty clear.
2. She is trying to bond over texts
Texting has become an integral part of romance today and it can give you a sensation of real-life conversations.
If a woman likes you, she will try to establish an emotional connection through texting.
For starters, she might start a conversation about things you have in common. It can range from hobbies to personal problems you share.
Sure, this is also a great sign of friendship but there is one little thing that will make it lean more toward romance and that’s nicknames.
If they are part of your normal texting routine, the odds are she likes you more than a friend.
3. She always finds a subtle or not so subtle way to pay you a compliment
Compliments are like little displays of admiration. It’s only normal that a girl who likes you thinks highly of you and wants you to know that.
Compliments may come in all different shapes and sizes and they can be more or less direct.
For instance, she might directly say that you have dreamy eyes, that you are a great listener or that your wardrobe was on point the other day.
If she chooses a less direct approach, she will, for instance, ask for your advice, which by default means she values your opinion. She will confide in you, which means she trusts you.
4. Pay attention to the text length
This one is pretty easy to spot and the most reliable one. The fact is, if a woman likes you, her texts are going to be a bit longer than usual.
She will want to tell you about her day and her life in general. She will make an effort and allow you to get to know her.
On the other hand, if she is sending you brief and effortless texts, she’s letting you know she is not interested.
5. Pay attention to the emojis she sends
Although convenient, non-verbal communication can be a bit tricky.
Since you can’t see the other person’s face or body movements when she talks to you, you might interpret something in the wrong way.
That’s where emojis kick in. They help to send the right message across.
If she is sending you hearts and kisses and if you know she wouldn’t send them to just anybody, it’s an obvious sign she likes you.
6. She often sends you photos
You know how the old saying goes: a picture is worth a thousand words.
If a girl wants to get your attention and check if you are into her, she will definitely send you selfies.
She’ll want to hear your reaction and she knows that by sending you a cute pic of herself, she is ensuring that she is on your mind the entire day.
She will also send you a pic here and there about her current whereabouts and actions as an attempt to include you more in her life.
What does her body language say about her feelings for you?
1. Eye contact is a must
We all know that the eyes never lie. If a girl is genuinely interested, she won’t be able to take her eyes off of you.
She will follow your every movement with her gaze and may even mirror some of your moves.
It might take her a while before she manages to make eye contact but that’s only normal because her nervousness will kick in. It’s not easy to stare into the eyes of the guy you like.
2. She will lean in when you are talking
Let’s say you are just having a normal conversation with this girl and you notice how her body is slowly approaching yours, leaving you with minimal personal space.
This is one more great sign of attraction because you can literally read her body language.
3. She finds excuses to touch your arm
A woman will touch your arm for various reasons; not all of them mean she has romantic feelings for you. She might naturally be all touchy-feely.
She might want you to pay attention to what she is saying because it’s something important or something she wants you to remember.
On the other hand, if her touching your arm looks more like caressing and at the same time she smiles and flirts with you, she definitely wants your closeness and to let you know that she likes you.
4. She touches her hair
This sounds like a stereotype but it’s like a natural reflex for a girl to twirl strands of her hair and play with them in any way when she is talking to you.
She subconsciously wants you to notice her beauty and her feminine traits.
So, yes, if a girl is touching her hair, there is a good chance she is flirting with you.
5. She lights up around you
A smile will tell you all that she is hiding. A girl can’t help but smile with joy every time she sees someone she is into.
Your presence alone is enough to make her flash her pearly whites. In addition, if she laughs loudly at your jokes while everybody else is without a reaction, she is surely into you.
She either has the same sense of humor or is laughing to show support.
6. She has a habit of running her hands through your hair
If a girl is crazy about you, she will find any excuse to be physically close to you.
Running her hand through your hair seems easiest and it can be interpreted as both innocent and naughty; it depends.
That desire to touch you is the ultimate sign of attraction. In any case, a girl who is not interested will have absolutely no interest in being so close to you or your hair.
7. Hugs can give her away
Just like with the previous sign, this kind of proximity and desire for physical contact is an indicator that a girl is into you.
There are different types of hugs and they can range from romantic to friendly, so it’s vital you take the context of the situation into consideration.
Whether she’s hugging you and everybody else just to say hello or she is hanging in there for a bit longer than necessary, holding on a bit tighter will make all the difference.
8. She’ll be nervous or fidgeting
She will want to make a good impression but your proximity will probably turn her into a nervous wreck.
Her words won’t always make sense, her cheeks might blush and her hands tremble.
She will make small movements with the intent to make you notice some parts of her body.
She might bite her lips, touch her neck, cross her legs, etc. Fidgeting is an obvious sign of attraction.
How to tell if a girl likes you based on her flirting style?
1. She loves to compliment you
She always finds a more or less subtle way to let you know that she likes you.
She will tell you that your eyes look amazing, ask you if you work out, admire your intelligence or something along those lines.
The important thing here is that she picks up on all the details that make you you and she wants to let you know that she is interested.
2. She finds excuses to talk to you
A girl wanting to talk to you is not necessarily a sign that she likes you.
On the other hand, if she finds absurd excuses and the most random topics to talk to you about, there is definitely something there.
The way to know for sure is if she combines these conversations with compliments, flirty texts and body language signs.
3. She teases you
Witty comebacks and funny comments might just be the things that separate love from friendship. Teasing might be a part of her flirting style.
If that’s the case, she may twist your words, jokingly mock your clothes, tell some embarrassing story about you in front of a group of mutual friends… Basically, she will say things that will make you blush.
All she is trying to do is make you laugh and make you notice and remember her.
4. She wants you to help her out with something
It will be something more along the lines of, “I am cold,” which is a subtle sign for you to give her your jacket.
Or she will whine about how her feet are killing her because she is wearing heels and she is waiting for you to offer for her to lean on you.
She might also have trouble at work and need your help, even though you know she is more than capable of handling it herself.
Basically, she is tapping into your inner desire to feel needed and get close to you.
5. Relationship status questions
She will let you know she is single and she will want to know your relationship status.
Sure, it might be a random question but why would a girl who is not into you want to know if you are available?
She might directly ask you but she could also randomly mention it in conversation. “I hate going to weddings because I never have a plus one. I guess you don’t get it because you are in a relationship, right?”
6. Hanging out suggestions
She is always interested in hanging out with you and she is less interested in the activity involved. She will go on a hiking adventure, even if she is not very outdoorsy.
She will go to a concert, even if she doesn’t know any of the songs. Whatever you suggest, it sounds great and she is the first to sign up.
She might even make some plans of her own and ask you to join. A girl wanting to hang out with you is also a good sign that she enjoys your company and might like you as a friend, so make sure multiple other signs from this list are included.
A girl is into you if…
1. She opens up to you
If a girl wants to bond with you, she will confide in you. She will tell you about the things that happened to her in the past or some problems that she is experiencing right now.
She knows that the only way to make this into something more is to open up and she hopes you will do the same.
This is the hardest part for most because it makes them feel vulnerable.
But if you manage to do that, you won’t be just an ordinary couple, you will be best friends.
2. She asks personal questions
It’s not just about her telling you her life story, it’s also about wanting to know you better.
That’s where the personal questions come in. For instance, she might ask you about your last breakup to make sure you are not still hung up on your ex.
She will ask all sorts of questions you will sometimes have a hard time answering but answer them anyway. If she lets you in, show her the same courtesy.
3. She makes future plans for the two of you
Most of the female population are big on making future plans but if she makes future plans for just the two of you, there might be something more there.
So, listen to what she has to say, such as: “We’ll talk about it the next time we have coffee,” or, “We have to check out that new Chinese place,” or, “I can’t wait for this movie to come out.
Will you watch with me?” or, “ Coldplay are performing next month so clear your schedule,” etc.
Yes, I know these all sound like things you would ask your best friend or one of your coworkers to do and you might be scared she’ll friend zone you.
But the more effort she makes to meet up with you, the surer you can be she is into you.
4. She forgets she has a phone when she is with you
Most of the population today are addicted to their phones. If she puts down her phone, forgets to check her texts or browse through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and whatnot, she is either definitely interested or an old school kind of girl with good manners.
The best indicator that she likes you will be if forgetting about her phone is accompanied with a flirty and interesting conversation that flows naturally.
5. She is connecting with you through social media
She tags you in memes, sends you some videos that will make you laugh, she likes your posts and comments on them and tags you in her own posts, etc.
This is a good indicator that she’s into you and if it’s combined with multiple other signs, there’s no room for doubt—that girl is crazy about you.
6. The reactions of her friends are letting you know that she is into you
They suddenly stop talking or start giggling when you enter the room.
That’s like silently saying, “Whoops, we were just talking about you and you almost overheard us.” Her friends might also help you hook up by telling you openly about some sweet things they told her about you.
If they do that, there is no room for doubt and you don’t need to look at any other telltale signs as this is a major one.
7. She gets jealous of other girls
Her face changes color when she hears you say some other girl is hot. She leaves the room when she sees you talking to another girl because it pains her to watch.
If a girl wants you to be hers, she won’t look fondly on any other women around you.
Even if you tell her they are just friends, she won’t be at ease and she won’t be able to help feeling like someone is standing in her way.
What to do when you know a girl likes you back?
If you have come to the conclusion that your crush is into you, you must be wondering what to do next.
You don’t want to rush things or look like an idiot by coming on too strong. Don’t worry, we have your back:
1. Keep the conversation going
Show her that you are interested in what she has to say. Talk about ordinary everyday stuff but don’t be afraid to ask personal questions.
The more personal the questions are, the more she’ll open up to you.
Don’t rush anything and make sure she knows she doesn’t have to answer if she feels uncomfortable.
2. Make sure you initiate a conversation over texts too
A girl you are into will definitely appreciate your efforts. She doesn’t want to chase you, she wants to be chased.
Initiating texts is the simplest way to do just that. Let her know you are thinking about her every now and then.
Send her an occasional text message; it doesn’t matter what about, she will appreciate the attention.
Don’t overdo it though, you don’t have to text her 24/7; a text or two a day will be plenty.
Also, let her initiate the conversation too; if she does that you don’t have to worry much because the odds are she likes you back.
3. Let her know you like her
Tell her this is the first time a girl got you so intrigued. Tell her you can’t wait for the next day to see her again.
Tell her that when you talk to her it feels like high school all over again because her presence makes you a bit nervous.
And if you feel the timing is right and your feelings are reciprocated, tell her you would want to take her on a date or admit that you like her and you want to see where this goes.
Women respond well to honesty. It’s refreshing in this modern dating world.
4. Flirt back
If she starts flirting with you, don’t block her efforts by ignoring her every time she gives you compliments or says something daring to you. Respond to her flirts.
Reciprocate her body language, make her smile, send her a good morning or a goodnight text, show her that you are interested in being more than friends.
5. Ask her out
The best way to know if a woman likes you is by asking her out. You don’t have to overdo it, keep it casual.
For instance, you can say you saw some new movie playing in theaters and you can’t wait to see it and ask her to come along.
You might have also heard of some great bar or restaurant, so say you are dying to go and ask her if she would like to go with you.
It’s not that complicated, you are casually asking her out and if she says yes, great.
If she says no that’s OK too; you didn’t declare your eternal love, you just asked a girl out, that’s all.
6. Don’t overanalyze
What’s the worst thing that can happen? She will say NO. Well, that’s not so bad.
At least you will be certain of where you stand and you won’t end up with regret that you hadn’t been bolder.
Good things never come from comfort zones or playing it safe. So take a risk and don’t even think about it.
I hope things are a bit clearer now and that I managed to answer the million dollar question of ‘How to know if a girl likes you?’ And I hope you got the answer you wanted.
Don’t waste your time, reciprocate her efforts, make a move, ask her out and see where this takes you.