You can recognize a lot about a man’s intentions from the way he is looking at you. Who would have thought that prolonged eye contact would be one of the best tell-tale signs of his true feelings? On the other hand, it’s not something to be surprised about because you know what they say—the eyes never lie.
Prolonged eye contact is not something a shy guy would use. He would probably lock eyes with you for a split second and then look away. But if a guy is not shy, he will want to show off his confidence by staring into your eyes for as long as he can. He is sending a message that he feels good about himself and that he is courageous enough to use prolonged eye contact as a sign of his interest in you.
When a man is making prolonged eye contact with you, it’s the ultimate display of his confidence. And confidence is sexy. Confidence is what keeps a woman interested, nine times out of ten. So if you are dealing with a confident guy and he is sending you some hidden signals by using eye contact, you would like to get to the bottom of his intentions.
These are some things a guy is trying to tell you by using prolonged eye contact:
1. Flirting One On One
Prolonged eye contact is one of the oldest and most common signs of flirting. Not to mention it’s probably the most effective way to flirt too. It sounds easy, but if a guy could get any girl he wanted, that would be really something. But prolonged eye contact demands a certain chemistry from both sides.
Let’s say you are out at a bar and you see a guy looking at you, and you might be reluctant to look back at him. First, you will scan him and see if there is something in him that sparks your interest. If a guy just looks once that doesn’t have to mean anything, as he might have noticed that you were looking and he is now scanning and assessing you.
If you look toward him a few more times after and your eyes meet, that’s a clear sign that he is trying to flirt with you. It’s like a cat and mouse game of who is going to look when. It even sounds silly but when you are experiencing it, it’s really thrilling and amusing.
Think about it. He looks at you, you look at him, one of you looks back. And then you don’t look for a while at all. Then you start looking again. It’s fun. Not to mention it builds sexual tension between you.
When you get to the point where your eye contact is prolonged and you feel like there is nobody else in that room but the two of you, it means that you established some kind of connection and one of you should really be bold enough to make the first move.
I am a bit old school so I would let him make the first move. If a man is confident enough to establish prolonged eye contact, he should be confident enough to approach you. But it’s always up to you so if you assess the situation like you should make the first move, go for it. In any case, you have nothing to lose.
2. Sexual Attraction
When a man and a woman engage in prolonged eye contact, they usually have this incredible sexual tension that makes them stare. Just by looking into each other’s eyes they feel hurricanes of lust rising from within, making them crave each other like crazy.
Eye contact tells you a lot. For instance, he might raise his eyebrows when he looks at you. At some level, men consider this to be a way they can get a better look at a woman. There is also a way to test this. Observe the actions of a group of men when a hot girl enters the room. Their eyebrows automatically go up.
A man might also be following your movements and display his interest in you in that way. He wants to know where you are going and what you are up to. During prolonged eye movement, you might notice that his eyes are sparkly and his pupils are dilated, and he accompanies that with a warm smile, which is one of the most subtle signs of sexual attraction.
Prolonged eye contact is not the only factor here. You have to pay attention to his other body language signs. Most of his focus might be centered on your eyes. However, that might mean that he is focusing on your eyes to avoid being rude because he actually wants to focus on the shape of your body or your boobs.
His body language speaks a lot. If he is leaning toward you it means he wants closeness. If he is sitting opposite you with his legs spread wide, he is thinking of you in a sexual way. If he touches his face more often than you would consider normal, you are probably seeing his subconscious at work. Without even being conscious of it, he is trying to hide that your presence is making him nervous in a good way. Body language speaks more than words ever could.
3. He Finds You Interesting
If his eyes hardly ever drift away when he is speaking to you, it means that he finds you and your conversational skills interesting. Prolonged eye contact, in this case, means that he has his sole focus on you and the topic at hand.
The thing to be careful around here is whether he is more interested in you as a person or you as a good, interesting and engaging conversationalist. When a man is really involved in some subject matter, he will really pay attention and look you straight into your eyes because that is something important to him.
On the other hand, if a man likes you, no matter how many times you change the subject of your conversation, regardless of whether the topic is important to him or something trivial, he will still pay attention to you and maintain eye contact. He will hang on to your every word because he likes you and he is interested in finding out more about you and about the way you think.
One of the things that can help you test this is when you are in a larger group of people, his eyes might drift away when somebody else speaks but every time you speak he will be so into it and try to lock eyes with you. You may notice that he often has a captivating smile in addition to the constant attention and gazes he is giving you.
4. Deep Affection
This usually goes for people in relationships. Regardless of whether they have been together for a long or short period of time, prolonged eye contact signifies their deep affection and a mutual sense of belonging.
Locking eyes also signifies that they have trust in each other, that they feel comfortable with each other and that they have no problem in or fear of looking their partner in the eyes. And there is no better foundation on which to build a relationship than with trust. When you are in the middle of an argument, your partner shouldn’t have any problems locking eyes with you, especially if he is being honest and has nothing to hide.
When it comes to long-term relationships, couples might even guess each other’s thoughts just by looking at each other. This happens when they know each other so well that they can guess what the other person will say next or is thinking at that exact moment. This often results in them finishing each other’s sentences from time to time.
Prolonged eye contact among couples can have sexual connotations too. While they are out in public they might have one long moment when they look at each other and both simply know that the temperature is going to rise as soon as they get home. So, we can see that prolonged eye contact can be a sort of a foreplay if your partner and you have the same kind of dirty imagination.
5. He Wants You To Believe His Words
When he wants you to trust his words he will want to maintain eye contact. Prolonged eye contact will also mean that he has your full attention and that is vital when you are trying to convince somebody about a certain matter or trying to change somebody’s fixed opinion. If your eyes stray all over the place, he will think that you don’t trust him and that he doesn’t have your undivided attention. If the matter at hand is something serious, this might cause some problems between the two of you. If it’s not that important then it won’t have any influence.
Think about it—if things were the other way around, and you were trying to convince him to put his faith in you, you wouldn’t want him looking sideways and not paying attention to something that is obviously important to you. In any case, when you speak to your partner about something serious, you should look each other in the eyes and listen closely to what they have to say. Communication is everything,
On the other hand, you have to be careful with who you are talking to. If your partner has a history of lying, he might be using prolonged eye contact to manipulate you into thinking that he is trustworthy. He knows you wouldn’t trust him any other way. Sadly, some people are able to look you straight in the eye and lie without any problem.
However, if you are just starting something, prolonged eye contact is a clear sign that you are involved with somebody who can be trusted and you are on the right track with this guy.
I hope you got a clearer view of what prolonged eye contact means. The way you interpret it depends on the nature of the relationship you are in and if you have been with somebody for a long or short period of time. If you are just getting to know that person and if that person is somebody you feel comfortable around, you know you can trust them when you look them in the eyes.
There is just one more important thing to mention here and that is the breaking of prolonged eye contact. There are a few reasons why this might happen. People get distracted by something in their surroundings that requires their attention which is quite normal and usual. They might be distracting themselves by thinking about something else, something that makes them unable to concentrate or keep their focus on just one person. One more thing is that they might be shy so they are unable to maintain eye contact for a longer period of time. So if somebody is not good at making prolonged eye contact, give him the benefit of the doubt, as it doesn’t have to mean he is not honest and trustworthy—he just might be distracted or shy.
Leah Lee – Writer. Dreamer. Adventurer. Eternal Optimist.
I am an English language and literature professor and writing came naturally alongside that. It was something I did for me until I decided to share it with the rest of the world.
I write about love, emotions, relationship issues and ways to solve them and most importantly about empowering women to become the best versions of themselves.
My inspiration comes from all that I’ve been through in life, and it was a bumpy road but full of valuable lessons. I hope that my experience will do some good to all of those who like to read my work.