“How to radiate feminine energy?” Maybe you asked yourself this question after realizing that many supposedly empowering things for women simply didn’t work for you.
If you ever felt inauthentic while doing some of those things, chances are they didn’t align with your feminine side.
To radiate feminine energy, a woman has to be in tune with her intuition, which will lead her to feel compassion, practice nurturing and care, embody magnetic feminine charm, and have authentic self-expression.
Throughout history, femininity has become associated with weakness, neediness, and hypersensitivity.
Unfortunately, that led to the suppression of feminine energy and glorification of traditionally masculine traits, which then led to women feeling ashamed to admit and express vulnerability.
Instead, they strived to fit in and be successful in the masculine world.
To better understand the difference between the two energies, let’s take a closer look.
The polarity of masculine and feminine
Masculine energy is traditionally connected with decision making, action, focus, drive, logical thinking, assertiveness, and protection.
Even symbolically, the man is depicted as the sun, day/light, fire, up-pointing triangle, etc. An attitude that reflects these traits is valued more in general and especially in the job environment.
Masculine energy is more visible because it’s extroverted, penetrative, and in your face.
On the other hand, feminine energy is traditionally connected with receptiveness, feelings, nurturing, creativity, compromise, and gentleness.
Contrary to masculine symbolism, feminine symbolism is connected with the moon, night/dark, water, down-pointing triangle, etc.
It’s associated with mystery, allure, sensuality, and sometimes the subconscious.
Naturally, all of these traits fall more onto the introverted and hidden side, and that’s why it’s not as visible as masculine.
The world’s evolved in such a way that the obvious, visible, easily grasped, and material approach is the norm.
There’s nothing wrong with appreciating those things, but the problem is ignoring and shunning everything else.
Just because something isn’t aggressive, structured, and penetrative doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value.
If anything, we learned and confirmed throughout history that emotions and nurturing have a huge impact on human well-being, and the ability to successfully perform tasks and live a good life.
What blocks feminine energy?
Women’s oppression is a terrible example of an imbalance that occurred in society led by men.
During the last century, equality of the sexes became a very important topic. Thankfully, women stood up and fought for their rights as they continue to do to this day.
In order to fight for their rights, women had to embrace assertiveness and other traits traditionally considered masculine.
While necessary, later on, it became clear that embracing some of those things also meant abandoning the feminine principle.
What started as a fight against oppression turned into accepting male standards instead of emphasizing the value of feminine energy.
If a woman wanted to be accepted, she was expected to act more like a man.
Abandoning the feminine led to another imbalance.
In a masculine-dominated world, women have to adjust and compete in a way that, for many women, is not innate.
That’s what causes great exhaustion and stress, and makes women feel disappointed and undervalued.
This kind of constant alertness and rigidness makes women lose their natural flow and get stuck proving themselves as capable and good enough when they already are.
There’s a struggle to meet our true needs and maintain our image of an independent woman who can do everything by herself.
So, the answer to what blocks the feminine energy is allowing and accepting rules made by and for men to define self-worth, and ignoring and sacrificing one’s needs in the process.
Your self-worth and self-esteem shouldn’t be valued based on wrongfully selected rules that support only one side of a human being.
In order to reach our full potential, we must balance both sides and stay true to our nature.
How to activate feminine energy?
1. Lessen restriction
Give yourself some freedom. Try to relax your mind and body by doing something unplanned and spontaneous.
Don’t overthink everything you do and every word you say.
Try to be less critical of your emotions and reactions, and just let them be. Women’s nature is cyclical and it’s associated with water. It’s meant to flow freely, go through changes, and restore.
Giving yourself a chance to step out of strict routines is a form of self-care. If you have a hard time relinquishing control, do it little by little.
Give yourself permission to do little things that make you happy without thinking why they make you happy.
Indulge in things you love, loosen up your inner critic, and accept imperfections. Be girly, be excited over the small things, don’t over rationalize.
Remind yourself of the present moment, seize it, and give yourself some self-love.
Another thing a lot of women have a problem with is receiving, for example, gifts or other types of attention.
Whether they’re too proud or too shy, the problem is the same.
Considering the concept of masculine energy as giving in nature, sometimes it is best to be open and receptive to energy that’s been given to us in various ways.
It’s important for women to understand that there’s nothing wrong with this. It’s okay to allow yourself to receive gifts, attention, and energy, and let yourselves feel excited and happy.
Allowing both man to tap into his energy and woman to tap into hers will bring nothing but balance, joy, and feelings of acceptance.
2. Tap into your creativity
“When you feel you are being moved by the creative spirit, you are in fact being moved by the divine feminine.” – Teri Degler
Women are life-givers and nurturers. They give form to a life force energy and one of the most sacred ways is giving birth to a child, but that’s not the only way.
Divine feminine energy can be used in many ways.
Creativity is individual and can be expressed through many mediums, for example through painting, dancing, singing, writing, crafting, cooking, clothing, etc.
There are many unconventional ways to express creativity and everyone has their own way. Thinking traditional art is the only way to express creatively is outdated and untrue.
Creative energy can be directed and helpful in all aspects of life. The feminine woman sees potential in everything she encounters and can make great things out of the ordinary. She is a creative force.
3. Allow vulnerability
“Vulnerability is the most transformative, life-changing, and life-affirming aspect of the Divine Feminine.” – Freya Dwyer
Allowing vulnerability is important for all the people who have been hurt and scarred by a society that portrays emotions as a weakness.
Unfortunately, a lot of women feel like they can’t fully express themselves without being judged, ridiculed, or not taken seriously.
There’s an awful stereotype of a needy, nagging woman who can’t control her emotions.
Instead of tuning into female energy and expressing themselves fully, women choose to silence themself or minimize their emotions, which only leads to more misunderstanding.
Did you know that greek word kosmos (universe) is related to the verb kosmeo, which means to adorn or to arrange harmoniously?
Cultures across the world figuratively described the universe as a beautifully adorned woman.
The feminine craves to create and embody beauty – internal and external. That includes not only the soul and body, but also the places we live in.
Things like jewelry, clothes, perfumes, and skillfully applied makeup are things that most women enjoy yet sometimes put aside for various reasons.
Decorating the house and changing up your living space can lift up your mood immediately.
Beautifying things with intention is the easiest answer to how to radiate feminine energy.
Wearing clothes you save for “that special occasion” will make you feel more feminine. Not every woman likes to wear flowy dresses, skirts, and high heels, and that’s not what feminine is about.
Every woman can access her unique style by noticing what’s beautiful to her and then recreating it.
There are so many small things that can instantly make you feel like you’re the most attractive woman in the world.
5. Have fun
Relax your body, silence your mind. Spend time doing things that make you feel good. Try whatever you like.
Sometimes it’s enough to dance to your favorite music when no one is watching or call your girlfriends for a night out.
Listen to your favorite music more often, take pampering baths, drink more wine, go to the movies, or find a new hobby. Notice what brings you joy and do it often.
6. Enjoy your sensuality
Women are powerful beings and it’s no surprise that many cultures believe they embody goddess energy. They create life and they inspire life.
We are connected to our bodies and we can feel how it’s changing. Isn’t that amazing? Our intuition is strong and we’re aware of our feelings.
Usually, when we think about the body, we think about restricting it instead of listening to it. Feeling our bodies strongly allows us to listen to it.
Sensuality, the same as sexuality, is natural and normal. It should be enjoyed freely without guilt or shame (which is another recurring theme in the history of womanhood).
It’s important to mention that sexuality and sensuality aren’t the same things, but can be part of each other.
Every woman possesses her unique allure. By nurturing our feminine traits, we attract men – more specifically, masculine men.
Maybe you came across the terms such as masculine men or alpha males and it made you wonder what kind of men you attract in life?
Personally, I don’t care about labels. All I care about is if I feel like he’s the right man for me. Good sex life doesn’t hurt either. In fact, it’s very important.
Allow yourself to be playful and flirty. Allow yourself to be a seductress. Tap into your feminine fully.
7. Be grateful
This is a very simple and small thing that makes a big difference.
Gratefulness makes us radiant because it promotes a good mood, makes us think of everything we have in life, and reminds us to stay humble and happy.
Practicing gratefulness regularly makes us all-around better people and it’s noticeable in interaction with others.
It’s scientifically proven that it can improve physical health, enhance empathy, reduce aggression, and increase mental strength.
8. Connect with your female tribe
Think about the people you surround yourself with. Is there a lot of men around you on a daily basis?
That can be a great thing, but it can also affect your femininity. Think about all the things you just can’t talk about with men. Those things are important too.
Sometimes we just need someone to understand us on a level men can’t. That’s why we need healthy female company.
Spending time with other women will recharge your energy because, let’s remember – women are the nourishers.
They care for each other and they’re compassionate. Here are the words of actress Jane Fonda that depict the importance of female friendship:
“Friendship between women is different than friendship between men. We talk about different things. We delve deep. We go under, even if we haven’t seen each other for years. There are hormones that are released from women to other women that are healthy and do away with the stress hormones. It’s my women friends that keep starch in my spine and without them, I don’t know where I would be. We have to just hang together and help each other.”
9. Leave things that no longer serve you
Sometimes changing our lives and our beliefs can be scary.
If you’re used to being the boss woman who has everything under control, you’ll probably have a harder time allowing yourself to just stop and learn to trust your instincts, let go of schedules, and enjoy your feminine side.
Don’t be afraid that emotions and vulnerability will make you weak. In fact, they will make you less stressed and in tune with your inner self. You’re doing yourself a favor.
Don’t cling onto things society told you you need to be or practice; instead, listen to what you feel. You’re not less worthy if you change up your priorities in life.
Maybe a job or career isn’t your priority anymore and that’s okay.
Letting go of the things your heart doesn’t approve of will make you feel better and at ease.
What happens after you learn to radiate feminine energy?
After learning (or remembering) how to radiate their female energy, women feel whole and at peace.
They welcome the lost part of themselves that wasn’t even lost but hidden under the pressure of being whatever society wants a woman to be.
Women who are in touch with their femininity have a balanced life, and attract things and people that help them be their authentic selves.
They express themselves effortlessly and tend to intuitively recognize energies that surround them.
They don’t cling to things that don’t align with their heart or seek safety in the approval of others.
They’re not afraid of their mystery and wild side, but happy to experience everything that makes them distinctively feminine, even when that’s not approved and accepted by standards of our time:
“This is why the wisdom of the feminine is so important, because the feminine understands the dynamics of relationship, how to listen and be receptive. Feminine consciousness is more attuned to the life of the body, and so knows the rhythms that belong to the cycles of life, rather than the systems imposed by will that are presently strangling our world. The feminine is more instinctively and naturally attuned to life, its patterns, and powers. And feminine consciousness is less dominated by reason, more open to the mystery of the symbolic inner world. The feminine is vital in this work of awakening.” – Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee