11 segnali rivelatori che non è più innamorato

We all crave that romantic, passionate love that burns our lips and lifts our soul. But what to do when we find ourselves caught up in doubt about our man’s feelings?

Ci allontaniamo o rimanere in lotta? Siamo sicuri che non ci ami più?

Per rispondere almeno ad alcune di queste domande, abbiamo raccolto dei segnali che potrebbero aiutarvi a capire se vi ama e se vale la pena lottare per lui.

1. You can’t remember the last time you heard, “I love you”

It’s been ages since you heard him express his feelings toward you. You can’t even remember the last time he said he loved you after you said it first.

All you can remember are uncomfortable silences, looks off into the distance and him changing the subject. Trying to force the love, or the words to express it, doesn’t work.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t force yourself to roll those words off your tongue if you don’t feel them. This is the first and biggest sign that he’s no longer in love.

2. Non ride più con voi

Un tempo vi divertivate insieme, ridevate insieme, passavate del tempo insieme. Ma ora ride da solo, con il telefono in mano.

Ride dei suoi programmi televisivi, assordandovi con il silenzio che rimane dopo che ha smesso di ridere.

And when you gather enough strength to ask him to share it with you, he simply replies with, “You wouldn’t get it.” But you can still clearly remember the times when you just had to look at each other and you would start laughing.

Quei momenti in cui pensavate, i cuori battevano e ridevate in sincronia, ma sembra che lui non li ricordi più.

3. I discorsi sul futuro si affievoliscono

All'inizio, sembrava che voi due parlaste solo del futuro.

Le future vacanze, i viaggi, i film che avreste visto insieme e l'aspetto che avrebbe avuto la vostra casa un giorno.

It’s natural for guys to talk about the future when they’re excited to share it with someone. But now, you can’t even remember the last time he mentioned a future for you two.

That could be because he doesn’t see you as a part of it anymore.

4. La relazione sembra una routine

There’s no more passion and excitement in his eyes. He doesn’t wait up for you when you’re working long hours. He doesn’t welcome you home.

Invece, guarda la TV, a malapena consapevole della vostra presenza.

Quando ti bacia, la sua mente è lontana.

When he holds you, he doesn’t hold you as tight as he used to. Instead, his arms are just there, wrapped around you, cold as ice.

Everything he does, he does it like a machine, with no emotions, simply doing them because he’s used to doing them, not because he enjoys them.

5. You don’t communicate as much as you once did

He no longer talks about his life, how he’s doing at work, how his day was and he isn’t interested in yours.

Your communication is only about chores around the house, the chores you’re obliged to do together and even communication feels like a chore, something you have to do, instead of something you want to do.

6. He doesn’t seem to care about the little things anymore

Notava quando cambiavi il modo di pettinarti, quando indossavi un vestito nuovo.

Ti preparava la cena, ti portava il caffè a letto e ti baciava sulla fronte ogni volta che ti passava accanto.

He was funnily annoyed by the way you eat cookies like Cookie Monster and when you make faces when eating Indian food. But now, he couldn’t care less.

No matter what you do, the way you do it and how hard you try, he just doesn’t seem to notice at all.

7. Cerca di evitare l'intimità

Non vi bacia più e non vi abbraccia più. Quando andate a dormire, ognuno di voi sta dalla propria parte del letto.

When you try to make love to him, he suddenly remembers he has something to do, or he’s tired or busy.

La mancanza di sesso è di solito il problema principale di una relazione e un segno che qualcosa non va.

If you notice that your sex life is lacking, but your man refuses to talk about possible causes, that’s because he already knows why.

8. Ha iniziato a spegnere il telefono

We all crave some rest from our phone after a long day at work, but most of us will just silence it. But if he starts turning his off, and you’re not able to get in touch with him, that’s a sign he just doesn’t want to talk to you.

On the other hand, if he starts taking his phone wherever he goes, including when taking out the trash, that could be a sign that he’s hiding something or someone from you.

Either way, that’s a sign of a doomed relationship.

9. You’re the only one trying

Una relazione richiede due persone per avere successo. Ci vogliono due persone che si impegnano, che si amano, per far sì che il matrimonio prosperi.

But if you’re the only one trying, if you’re the only one loving, what’s the point?

You’re only postponing the inevitable. Unless he’s ready to sit down with you and discuss the issues you have and what to do to solve them, there’s no point in fighting for something that’s long gone.

Otherwise, you’re only suffering more, hoping that if you try a little bit harder, it will work out.

But until he puts in a little bit of effort too, there’s no way that relationship can work out.

10. You’re exhausted after spending time together

I vostri nervi sono costantemente tesi, pensando a cosa dire dopo, a cosa fare. Pensate a come avvicinarvi a lui, sperando che non scappi.

Le cose che prima vi venivano naturali ora vi spaventano.

Dopo la separazione, vi sentite esausti per aver cercato di fare la cosa giusta, per aver calcolato ogni singola mossa che farete. E credetemi, anche lui si sente così.

11. He doesn’t care about spending time with you

No man enjoys his woman out there partying without him, without letting him know where she’s going or at least making sure he knows she’s okay.

But if he doesn’t show any interest in where you’re going or for how long, that’s because he doesn’t really care.

He enjoys spending time without you, probably hoping that you will meet someone else because he’s already made up his mind about this.