7 segni mortali di un uomo immaturo e come riconoscerli

Voglio essere chiaro su questo punto fin dall'inizio, perché la maggior parte delle persone ha un'idea totalmente sbagliata al riguardo: la maturità emotiva non arriva con l'età!

So, if you’re wondering if you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man, you probably have every right to do so. However, you should check out these 7 deadly signs of an immature man just to make sure you’re right before making any moves.

Se il vostro partner mostra uno di questi segni di immaturità emotiva, dovreste prendere in considerazione l'idea di lasciarlo. Yes, relationships are hard work, and you can’t give up the first time you run into an obstacle; however, there is also no point in trying to save something or someone who doesn’t feel the need to be saved.

In fin dei conti, la vostra felicità e la vostra tranquillità devono essere sempre la vostra priorità. Se qualcuno la sta influenzando in modo negativo, dovreste trovare un modo per tagliarlo fuori dalla vostra vita.

7 segni mortali di un uomo immaturo

Ecco le bandiere rosse più comuni di ragazzi emotivamente immaturi. Se riconoscete qualcuno di loro, salutate il vostro uomo e lasciatelo indietro.

1. Sindrome di Peter Pan

If your man displays childish behavior and clearly shows that he doesn’t have the intention to grow up, it means he has Sindrome di Peter Pan.

The psychotherapist Marni Feuerman LCSW LMFT says, “If your partner is Peter Pan, you might be Wendy. At first, his behavior might have been fun and entertaining. Perhaps you were drawn to him because you felt that he was a ‘challenge’ or someone that you could ‘fix’ or change.”

There is a label for that, too, and it’s called Sindrome di Wendy. It’s when a woman feels obligated to take care of her uomo immaturo. Si comporta letteralmente come sua madre e sente il bisogno di aiutarlo a crescere.

The truth is, it’s hard to admit to yourself that your behavior and le vostre relazioni sono tossiche. However, you need to know that the sooner you accept and admit it, the sooner you’ll be able to work on finding the solution to it all.

2. Mancanza di responsabilità

Another red flag that shows you don’t have a man by your side but a man-child is his irresponsible behavior. If he can’t stand behind his words and his actions, if he can’t take responsibility for his deeds, that means è emotivamente immaturo.

He’ll never accept and admit his mistakes because he’ll always incolpare gli altri per loro. If you leave him no option but to admit his wrongdoings, he’ll try to make up an excuse to justify his actions.

You can never expect an apology from this kind of guy because you’ll never get it. In his eyes, he doesn’t make mistakes, and he feels he has no reason to apologize for anything.

The point is that having a healthy and serious conversation or discussion with him is impossible. And without it, without healthy communication, you’ll never be able to build una relazione sana… It’s a fact.

3. Problemi di impegno

Vi frequentate da un po'? Ha messo un'etichetta alla vostra relazione? Si è impegnato completamente con lei?

If he isn’t, and if he keeps avoiding una relazione impegnata, it’s obvious that ha problemi di impegno. E purtroppo questi problemi sono il segno più evidente dell'immaturità emotiva.

He doesn’t allow you to get too close and get to know him on a deeper level because he’s afraid it may make him vulnerable. He knows it might strengthen your connection, and that is precisely the thing he’s trying to avoid.

4. Modelli comportamentali di un narcisista

Avete mai notato qualche tratti di un narcisista in your man? It’s really the little things, for example, boasting, arrogant and self-centered behavior, selfishness, and the need to be the center of attention.

Se lo avete fatto, il fatto è che il vostro uomo probabilmente soffre di un disturbo narcisistico della personalità. La verità è che a volte è molto difficile distinguere il narcisismo dall'immaturità emotiva.

However, if your man has these narcissistic traits along with these 6 signs of emotional immaturity, he’s definitely an immature person.

5. Problemi di dipendenza

Se avete notato che ha problemi di attaccamento e dipendenza malsani con alcuni membri della sua famiglia, amici o persino colleghi, questo potrebbe essere un altro segno di immaturità emotiva.

Un uomo adulto ha relazioni sane con tutti coloro che lo circondano. He doesn’t depend on those closest to him, and he never stays in codependent relationships.

If he distanced himself from his friends or family members when you started dating and focused all of his attention solely on you and your relationship, it’s clear that he has dependency issues.

In the beginning, you’ll enjoy all that attention and affection, but with time, it’ll start bothering you because you’ll feel trapped in your relationship. He’ll invade your personal space and break all of your boundaries, and very soon, you’ll start feeling suffocated.

You may think that it’s all because ha paura di perderti, but the truth is, it’s only because of his unhealthy attachment style.

No matter how much you love him, you shouldn’t pretend like you’re okay with it all. Either find a way to make him understand his behavior and change or porre fine alla relazione IL PRIMA POSSIBILE.

6. Scatti d'ira

If your man isn’t able to have a healthy discussion with you, if it always ends in him screaming, hitting, or breaking things, it’s a huge red flag he’s emotionally immature.

He isn’t able to deal with his emotions in the right way, and that’s why he can’t have a healthy, serious conversation with you. He lets those emotions out in the worst possible ways, and of course, most of your issues and problems don’t even end up being resolved and dealt with.

Purtroppo, a causa dei suoi scatti d'ira, la vostra relazione potrebbe diventare violenta e lui potrebbe passare dall'abuso verbale a quello fisico. Se volete evitare questo scenario, chiudete subito la vostra relazione.

7. Non essere in grado di mantenere alcun tipo di relazione sana

Questo è l'ultimo e probabilmente uno dei più importanti dei 7 segni mortali di un uomo immaturo. If you’ve looked up his past and found out that he was never able to maintain any kind of healthy relationship, especially a romantic relationship, it’s definite… You’re dealing with un ragazzo emotivamente immaturo.

And no, don’t even think that you’ll be the one to change him and farlo impegnare. If all those people and women before you didn’t succeed, you probably won’t either.

You’ll fail because he doesn’t even want to change. He likes his way of life, and he doesn’t see a problem with it.

You’ll only waste your time and fall in love with him deeper, making your pain bigger once you become aware that you don’t have a future with that man.

Cosa causa la mancanza di maturità?

In my opinion, life circumstances are one of the biggest factors when it comes to emotional maturity and growth. If someone has had a hard time in life, especially in their love life, it’ll most definitely reflect in their emotional growth.

They’ll likely have problemi di impegno e problemi di autostima, che si tradurrà in un alto livello di immaturità.

Another factor is, of course, a person’s character and nature. Some people have childish personalities that don’t allow them to become emotionally mature.

Anche i traumi infantili sono un fattore importante per la crescita emotiva.

If someone was emotionally neglected as a child, they’ll probably lack emotional maturity when they grow up. If parents don’t teach their children how to be emotionally mature, it’ll be difficult for them to understand it themselves later on in their lives.

Come si comporta un uomo maturo?

It’s really not difficult to recognize a man with a high maturity level. The first thing (and probably the most important) you’ll notice is that you can always have a serious conversation with them.

They don’t have commitment issues. If they like a woman, they’ll be direct about it and try hard to win her over.

Gli uomini emotivamente maturi mantengono sempre le loro parole e non mancano mai di mantenere le loro promesse.. It’s all because they know the importance of it and how breaking their word and promises can hurt someone they care about.

Mature people also pay a great deal of attention to their self-care, mental health, and self-esteem. They’re perfectly aware of their qualities and flaws, but they never allow their insecurities and imperfections to affect any aspect of their lives.

A che età gli uomini maturano emotivamente?

La maggior parte degli studi ha dimostrato che gli uomini diventano mentalmente ed emotivamente maturi all'età di 43 anni.. Probabilmente accade una volta attraversano una crisi di mezza età perché quel periodo lascia cambiamenti significativi in un uomo.

However, my opinion is that we shouldn’t have such a general outlook on it all. Every human being is different in their own way – every man has a different nature and personality.

Quello che voglio dire è che dipende molto dall'uomo. A causa della loro natura e di alcune circostanze della vita, alcuni ragazzi maturano a 20 anni. Altri maturano davvero solo dopo la crisi di mezza età, e ci sono alcuni ragazzi che, purtroppo, non cresceranno mai.

Per concludere

I hope you didn’t recognize these 7 deadly signs of an immature man in your partner. On the other hand, if you did, my relationship advice is that you should end your relationship ASAP.

It’s not your job to help someone grow up, and you shouldn’t waste your precious time on an immature guy who doesn’t even want to grow up.

You can try to deceive yourself as much as you want, but sooner or later, you’ll understand that you can’t have a healthy adult relationship with an immature person. Lasciatelo, and save yourself from heartbreak before it’s too late.