Andare avanti non significa non amare più una persona

When people tell you to ‘move on’ it sounds so easy. Like it’s something that could be done overnight. They make it sound like a magic trick, you just wish for that person to disappear out of your life and they just do. They make it sound like moving on is all about walking away from them and erasing tutte queste emozioni you had for that special someone, when in actuality it’s nothing like that. Moving on isn’t about not loving someone anymore!

Andare avanti è molto difficile. Potreste voler affrettare i tempi, far sparire subito tutto il dolore, ma lasciate che vi dica che non è questo il senso del voltare pagina. Quindi, salvate il vostro cuore spezzato dal rompersi ancora una volta, salvate i vostri occhi dal piangere e salvate voi stessi da questa idea sbagliata che è stata messa nella vostra vita senza che voi l'abbiate mai accettata.

Moving on is about still being able to say that you love someone, saying that you regret the things that you have done wrong, saying that you would love for things to have turned out in a different way, but still not wanting to go back. This is what moving on truly is because you’re able to say:

“I still love you but you do not deserve me because you weren’t able to treat me right!”

It’s that feeling of melancholy that makes you remember your heartbreak the moment you realized that they didn’t love you as purely as you loved them. Andare avanti da quella sensazione magica quando sapete di essere stati abbastanza forti da allontanarvi da una persona che vi era estremamente cara e continuate a mettere un piede davanti all'altro mentre vi allontanate, per quanto possibile.

That’s why you should feel sad about not having them in your life anymore. They were there, by your side when you needed them the most, and now they simply do not deserve to be there and hold your hand any longer. You have put too much time and effort into this person and their love that now you have for yourself is a much bigger priority to you than they are.

It is better this way. It’s better for you to stop something at the right time instead of waiting per cambiare e convincersi che un giorno tutto sarà come dovrebbe essere, anche se non si vede questa persona fare nulla per migliorarsi e dimostrarvi il suo amore e il suo affetto. So why stay any longer and try to fix something that’s broken beyond repair?

Just because something ends, doesn’t mean that it should have never happened. You loved in a way that you didn’t think to be possible. You loved him so purely, so kindly and gently. You loved him like you never loved anyone before him and that was your success because you were able to look past everything and still love him. He has taught you a lesson. He has made you stronger, because he made you come to these conclusions and make these decisions. It should have happened just the way it did.

So do not beat yourself up about the fact that you still love him. Your heart is big enough to hold the love you have for him inside. It doesn’t mean that you should hate yourself for doing so, it means that you will just need more time. Lo ami e lo amerete ancora per un po', ma va benissimo così.

È stata in grado di allontanarsi da un uomo che amava. I can’t even describe how impressed I am! I love the way your strength has increased, so do not stop here! Keep on walking, keep on building a road that leads away from him. One day you can say that you have let go for sure.

Ma per il momento, andare avanti continuando ad amarlo è sufficiente. Non fatevi prendere la mano. Non colpevolizzarti. Non sentirti in colpa per averlo amato. Hai semplicemente un passato che ti fa ancora pensare a lui e questo va benissimo. Abbracciatelo e lasciate che vi ispiri a continuare a camminare!