La rabbia non uccide l'amore, ma il non interessarsi abbastanza sì
Perché tante persone imbottigliano e reprimono le loro emozioni negative quando hanno una relazione sentimentale? Perché molte persone hanno paura di litigare con il proprio partner?
I’m not talking about those apocalyptic fights after which it is almost impossible to save the relationship. I’m talking about having disagreements over little things.
Perché la maggior parte delle coppie ha paura di confrontarsi e di parlare direttamente e onestamente delle cose che li preoccupano?
Even if those disagreements provoke some negative feelings, such as anger or frustration, it’s not a bad thing. It’s a sign you care for your partner and your relationship, too.
La rabbia è un'emozione umana del tutto naturale e normale.
We all have our differences, and it’s perfectly normal for you not to agree with all of your partner’s actions and decisions.
If they do something you aren’t okay with, you have every right to be angry about it.
L'unica cosa importante è il modo in cui lo si affronta. Dovreste abbracciare la lotta in your relationship but be careful, don’t allow your anger to control you and say something you’ll regret afterward.
There is something way worse than anger…
Indifferenza. That’s something that will damage the connection between you and your partner to the point you won’t be able to fix it and save your relationship.
It is the leading cause of many broken relationships. It happens when one or both partners simply cool off. They don’t have any kind of feelings towards their partner anymore, neither good nor bad.
La rabbia è un chiaro segnale che dimostra che ci tenete sinceramente.
If your partner’s actions upset you or make you angry sometimes, it’s a clear sign that you honestly care for them because you’d never allow a person who means nothing to you to upset you that way, right?
L'indifferenza è una vera e propria assassino di relazioni, not being upset over some of your partner’s actions.
The moment you stop worrying about your partner’s actions and stop getting upset about things that are bothering you is the moment you should start worrying about your relationship.
It’s better to feel anger than nothing at all
Avete mai pensato a quale sia il contrario dell'amore? For most people, it’s hate or anger. For me, it’s indifference. It’s when you feel nothing at all towards your partner.
Anger is a temporary emotion. You’ll calm down, deal with it and forget about it as if it never happened, while, on the other hand, indifference is a permanent emotion that will be stuck in your heart forever.
Once you become indifferent towards someone, you will never be able to change your emotions again. You won’t even want to try because you won’t care for that person at all.
Accogliete la vostra rabbia perché ha uno scopo.
Don’t look at your anger as just an emotion because it’s much more important than that. Relationship anger comes with so many purposes.
Viene per insegnarvi alcune lezioni importanti. Viene per approfondire la connessione emotiva tra voi e il vostro partner.
Most importantly, embrace it because it’s there to show you how much your partner means to you and how big the love you feel for them truly is.
La rabbia a volte è davvero un dono
Even though many people consider anger a bad and negative emotion (some may even say it’s a curse), it can sometimes be a valuable gift.
It’ll shake things up in your relationship. It’ll keep the flame burning. It’ll remind you how special and strong your relationship is and how you can overcome all obstacles and challenges in life as long as you’re together.
Vedi anche: Ecco come abbiamo ucciso l'amore
Tuttavia, fate attenzione: usate la rabbia come uno strumento, non come un'arma.
La rabbia può essere uno strumento molto potente che può aiutarvi a salvare la vostra relazione. Tuttavia, se permettete che vi controlli, può anche essere un'arma molto più potente per rovinare completamente la vostra relazione.
It’s really up to you how you use it. Will you allow it to control you and weaken the bond between you and your partner or to learn a valuable lesson and strengthen the emotional connection with your partner?
Ricordate che la rabbia è sempre accompagnata dall'amore. You can’t have one without the other; it’s an all or nothing situation.
