Lettera aperta al fidanzato per esprimere i propri sentimenti di sofferenza

C'è qualcosa di peggio di un cuore spezzato? E la cosa triste è che non lo si vede mai arrivare.

Pensate che la persona di fronte a voi vi darà sempre la l'amore che meriti.

After all, they’re YOUR person. You don’t doubt them.

And then, all of a sudden, they turn into a stranger who mercilessly tears you apart. You barely know what to do. You stand frozen… and all alone.

But, it’s okay to be lost. It’s okay to have lotte relazionali, too. Their actions can never be justified, but I do hope you know that it’s not necessarily the end…

Se vi sentite male, sfogatevi. Scrivete una lettera al fidanzato per esprimere i vostri sentimenti.

If you’re doing it for the sake of your mental health, that’s fine. If you talk because you want to fix your problems, that’s also fine.

Whatever you feel is valid. But, if you’re not quite sure how to start expressing your feelings, take a look at the open letter below.

Lettera al fidanzato per esprimere i propri sentimenti di dolore

La mia amata,

Where do I even begin? What I feel inside is too overwhelming for words, but I still believe they’re necessary.

If I don’t tell you how I feel, we’ll never move past this, and we’ll just keep falling apart… silently… surely…

Mi hai ferito. Tu mi ha fatto a pezzi. Non per quello che hai fatto, ma perché sei stato tu a farlo. Non mi sarei mai aspettato che fossi tu a trattarmi così.

Sapevi che ero in un brutto momento, eppure mi hai detto cose così terribili, cose che avrebbero potuto spaventarmi per sempre. È stata la prima volta che volevo lasciarti.

Le tue parole continuano a riecheggiare nella mia testa, distruggendomi più e più volte. Volevo mettere la mia salute mentale al primo posto e allontanarti dalla mia vita.

Ho pensato: ”How will I ever take care of myself properly when I have someone like this in my life? How will I ever become a better person if he keeps reminding me of everything I did wrong?”

I know what I’m guilty of. I’m not afraid to assumersi la responsabilità for my actions. But, aren’t we all guilty? Does that mean I am less deserving of love?

That’s all I really wanted – for you to love me, for you to hug me tightly when my world was falling apart. Instead, you were the one to make it fall apart.

But that’s not all… From that moment, Mi sono sentito abbandonato e sola al mondo. Pensavo che tu fossi l'unica persona che mi capiva, la uno che potesse tirarmi fuori dall'oscurità.

I didn’t think you’d ever judge me for having a hard time, nor that you would make me perdere la mia autostima.

Sai quanto ci ho provato! Sai che combattere la depressione hasn’t been easy for me, yet you weren’t there for me. You just threw your accusations around when all I wanted was for you to tell me that it’ll be okay.

You made me a promise. You told me you would always support me no matter what I was going through. Why couldn’t you honor those words?

I tried to pretend that I was okay, that you didn’t hurt my feelings. But, when we talked the next morning, I knew that wouldn’t be so easy.

Ho persino dubitato di te per un momento. Mi sono detto: ”He’s not the love of my life. If he were, he wouldn’t treat me this way.”

But, the next moment, it all became clear – Sapevo di dover dire tutto quello che mi pesava.

I’m not writing you this letter to blame you for what you did. I just want you to know how much mi hai fatto male because if I don’t let it out, it’ll ruin our relationship forever.

And, I don’t want that. I still think of you as la mia anima gemella, the one I’m supposed to be with the rest of my life.

Do you feel that way, too? Don’t you think we deserve a seconda possibilità? Pensi che la prossima volta sarai più gentile con me?

I know things haven’t been perfect lately, but have you really forgotten all the good times?

Hai dimenticato gli anni che abbiamo trascorso facendoci ridere a vicenda e tu loving me when I’m at my most unlovable?

We’ve always had grande chimicae so che può sembrare sciocco, ma nel momento in cui ho posato gli occhi su di te, ho capito che ti avrei amato per sempre.

Ed eccomi qui, anni dopo, e nulla è cambiato.

Yet… Mi manchi. It’s only been one fight, but it tore me apart. It’s like we created a space between us, but neither of us has the guts to admit it even exists, let alone cross it.

That’s why I made this decision… writing a love letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings and heartbreak. After all, I’ve always been a donna che porta il cuore sulla manica.

Credo che possiamo trovare una soluzione. L'ultima cosa che voglio è perderti.

For God’s sake, I’ve never loved anyone the way Ti amo. And, I know you love me, too. We can solve any problem that comes between us because it’s not stronger than our bond.

I’ve never been very good at letting go. I’m someone who remembers every single bad thing anyone has ever done to me. But, this is you…

You’re the one person I would forgive anything, the one person I could look at only with loving eyes. You’re my one true love.

But, I know I have hurt you, too. In a moment of rage, I’ve said things I’m not proud of. Maybe you started the fight, but that’s still no excuse. We are both to blame.

Pensi di poter perdonare anche me? Pensi che possiamo lasciarci tutto alle spalle?

After all, we are only human beings. We can’t be flawless. Making mistakes is what we do. Otherwise, how can we learn?

I believe that these trials and tribulations are necessary. I believe they’ll make our connection even stronger. I just believe… in us.

I can’t lose my best friend in the whole world. Who would I share my silly thoughts with then? Who else would understand my weird sense of humor?

Please… can we go back to how we used to be? It’s only been a few days, but it feels like an eternity.

I kept trying to tell you how I felt. I would sit down, start typing a message, and then thoughts would creep in… ”Oh, come on, he hurt you. He should be the one to apologize,” o ”Oh my God, you sound so desperate!”

But, here I am! Why? Because I don’t see this as desperation. I see it as fighting for the uomo che amo.

I don’t care that you haven’t said anything yet. I get it. I know it’s hard for you to be emotivamente vulnerabile. It’s been hard for me, too.

But, I had a moment of clarity last night – qualcuno deve fare il primo passo. I don’t mind that being me because this isn’t about that at all. This is about keeping our relationship alive.

This may be a letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings, but I also want to say that I’m sorry.

In verità, nemmeno mille scuse potrebbero esprimere quanto mi sento male.

It wasn’t my intention to make you feel unworthy. And I know your intentions weren’t bad either.

We may have said things we didn’t mean, but let’s not ruin the beautiful thing we have over a bad day.

We’ll just make sure to treat each other with love and respect in the future. But, we can’t do that unless we talk about the past.

Hell, why don’t we recreate that evening, erase it from our memories entirely?

I’ll talk about my troubles, and you won’t try to encourage me.

You’ll just take me by the hand and carefully listen to what I have to say. No judgment. No words at all, for that matter.

Just a soft, empathetic look and a gentle smile that says, ”I’m always here for you.”

Do you think we can do that? Do you feel the same way I do? As hurt as I am, you’re a man I don’t want to let go of. Credo che il nostro amore sia così forte da resistere a qualsiasi tempesta.

People say that love isn’t enough, but they’re wrong.

It’s love that’s kept us together all these years. It’s love that made me write questa lettera aperta. It’s a million little things that always make me find my way back to you.

We may have lost our way, but we won’t be lost forever. Hai ancora il mio cuore, even though it’s been bruised.

Besides, bruises heal. We can heal it… with our love.

Allora, mio caro, che ne dici? Siamo ancora io e te? Vogliamo perdonarci a vicenda? Ci ameremo ancora più ardentemente nel nuovo anno che verrà?

Se la risposta è sì, sapete dove trovarmi.

Cordiali saluti,

La tua bambina

Come scrivere una lettera al fidanzato per esprimere i propri sentimenti di dolore

If you’ve reached your punto di rottura e volete scrivere la vostra lettera al fidanzato, provate prima a rispondere alle prossime domande:

• In what way did your boyfriend hurt you?

• How did you want him to treat you?

• How does it all make you feel?

• Do you think your relationship is worth saving?

• If yes, what can you do to fix your problems.

Dato che intendete scrivere una lettera al fidanzato per esprimere i vostri sentimenti, forse è meglio rispondere a queste domande su carta.

Pensate a ciascuno di essi con attenzione. E poi, lasciate che le vostre emozioni facciano il resto.

Credetemi, scriverete la lettera migliore quando vi lascerete travolgere da ciò che sentite.

Pensieri finali

Spero che questa lettera al fidanzato in cui si esprimono sentimenti feriti vi aiuti a crearne una vostra.

Nobody should bottle up their grief. You deserve to be heard, and it’s always best to talk directly to the person who hurt you.

I believe you can fix things. But, even if it all goes wrong, you will know you have tried, and you won’t look back with regret wishing you did more.