Carta abierta a tu novio expresando tus sentimientos de dolor

¿Hay algo peor que un corazón roto? Y lo triste es que nunca lo ves venir.

Piensas que la persona que tienes delante siempre te dará la el amor que mereces.

After all, they’re YOUR person. You don’t doubt them.

And then, all of a sudden, they turn into a stranger who mercilessly tears you apart. You barely know what to do. You stand frozen… and all alone.

But, it’s okay to be lost. It’s okay to have problemas de pareja, too. Their actions can never be justified, but I do hope you know that it’s not necessarily the end…

Si te sientes mal, desahógate. Escribe una carta a tu novio expresando tus sentimientos.

If you’re doing it for the sake of your mental health, that’s fine. If you talk because you want to fix your problems, that’s also fine.

Whatever you feel is valid. But, if you’re not quite sure how to start expressing your feelings, take a look at the open letter below.

Una carta a tu novio expresando tus sentimientos de dolor

Mi amada,

Where do I even begin? What I feel inside is too overwhelming for words, but I still believe they’re necessary.

If I don’t tell you how I feel, we’ll never move past this, and we’ll just keep falling apart… silently… surely…

Me hiciste daño. Tú me rompió en pedazos. No por lo que hiciste sino porque fuiste TU quien lo hizo. Nunca esperé que fueras tú quien me tratara así.

Sabías que yo estaba mal, y aun así me dijiste cosas tan horribles, cosas que podrían asustarme para siempre. Esa fue la primera vez que quise romper contigo.

Tus palabras siguen resonando en mi cabeza, destruyéndome una y otra vez. Quería anteponer mi salud mental y sacarte de mi vida.

Pensé: ”How will I ever take care of myself properly when I have someone like this in my life? How will I ever become a better person if he keeps reminding me of everything I did wrong?”

I know what I’m guilty of. I’m not afraid to asumir la responsabilidad for my actions. But, aren’t we all guilty? Does that mean I am less deserving of love?

That’s all I really wanted – for you to love me, for you to hug me tightly when my world was falling apart. Instead, you were the one to make it fall apart.

But that’s not all… From that moment, Me sentí abandonado y sola en el mundo. Pensé que eras la única persona que me entendía, la uno que pudiera sacarme de la oscuridad.

I didn’t think you’d ever judge me for having a hard time, nor that you would make me perder mi autoestima.

¡Sabes cuánto lo he intentado! Sabes que combatir la depresión hasn’t been easy for me, yet you weren’t there for me. You just threw your accusations around when all I wanted was for you to tell me that it’ll be okay.

You made me a promise. You told me you would always support me no matter what I was going through. Why couldn’t you honor those words?

I tried to pretend that I was okay, that you didn’t hurt my feelings. But, when we talked the next morning, I knew that wouldn’t be so easy.

Incluso dudé de ti por un momento. Me dije a mí mismo: ”He’s not the love of my life. If he were, he wouldn’t treat me this way.”

But, the next moment, it all became clear – Sabía que tenía que decir todo lo que me ha estado agobiando.

I’m not writing you this letter to blame you for what you did. I just want you to know how much me haces daño because if I don’t let it out, it’ll ruin our relationship forever.

And, I don’t want that. I still think of you as mi alma gemela, the one I’m supposed to be with the rest of my life.

Do you feel that way, too? Don’t you think we deserve a segunda oportunidad? ¿Crees que serás más amable conmigo la próxima vez?

I know things haven’t been perfect lately, but have you really forgotten all the good times?

¿Has olvidado los años que pasamos haciéndonos reír y tú loving me when I’m at my most unlovable?

We’ve always had gran químicaY sé que parece una tontería, pero en cuanto te vi, supe que te querría para siempre.

Y aquí estoy, años después, y nada ha cambiado.

Yet… Te echo de menos. It’s only been one fight, but it tore me apart. It’s like we created a space between us, but neither of us has the guts to admit it even exists, let alone cross it.

That’s why I made this decision… writing a love letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings and heartbreak. After all, I’ve always been a mujer que lleva el corazón en la manga.

Creo que podemos solucionarlo. Lo último que quiero es perderte.

For God’s sake, I’ve never loved anyone the way Te quiero. And, I know you love me, too. We can solve any problem that comes between us because it’s not stronger than our bond.

I’ve never been very good at letting go. I’m someone who remembers every single bad thing anyone has ever done to me. But, this is you…

You’re the one person I would forgive anything, the one person I could look at only with loving eyes. You’re my one true love.

But, I know I have hurt you, too. In a moment of rage, I’ve said things I’m not proud of. Maybe you started the fight, but that’s still no excuse. We are both to blame.

¿Crees que tú también podrías perdonarme? ¿Crees que podemos dejar esto atrás?

After all, we are only human beings. We can’t be flawless. Making mistakes is what we do. Otherwise, how can we learn?

I believe that these trials and tribulations are necessary. I believe they’ll make our connection even stronger. I just believe… in us.

I can’t lose my best friend in the whole world. Who would I share my silly thoughts with then? Who else would understand my weird sense of humor?

Please… can we go back to how we used to be? It’s only been a few days, but it feels like an eternity.

I kept trying to tell you how I felt. I would sit down, start typing a message, and then thoughts would creep in… ”Oh, come on, he hurt you. He should be the one to apologize,” o ”Oh my God, you sound so desperate!”

But, here I am! Why? Because I don’t see this as desperation. I see it as fighting for the hombre que amo.

I don’t care that you haven’t said anything yet. I get it. I know it’s hard for you to be emocionalmente vulnerable. It’s been hard for me, too.

But, I had a moment of clarity last night – alguien tiene que dar el primer paso. I don’t mind that being me because this isn’t about that at all. This is about keeping our relationship alive.

This may be a letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings, but I also want to say that I’m sorry.

De verdad, ni mil disculpas podrían expresar lo mal que me siento.

It wasn’t my intention to make you feel unworthy. And I know your intentions weren’t bad either.

We may have said things we didn’t mean, but let’s not ruin the beautiful thing we have over a bad day.

We’ll just make sure to treat each other with love and respect in the future. But, we can’t do that unless we talk about the past.

Hell, why don’t we recreate that evening, erase it from our memories entirely?

I’ll talk about my troubles, and you won’t try to encourage me.

You’ll just take me by the hand and carefully listen to what I have to say. No judgment. No words at all, for that matter.

Just a soft, empathetic look and a gentle smile that says, ”I’m always here for you.”

Do you think we can do that? Do you feel the same way I do? As hurt as I am, you’re a man I don’t want to let go of. Creo que nuestro amor es tan fuerte que puede resistir cualquier tormenta.

People say that love isn’t enough, but they’re wrong.

It’s love that’s kept us together all these years. It’s love that made me write esta carta abierta. It’s a million little things that always make me find my way back to you.

We may have lost our way, but we won’t be lost forever. Todavía tienes mi corazón, even though it’s been bruised.

Besides, bruises heal. We can heal it… with our love.

Entonces, querida, ¿qué dices? ¿Seguimos siendo tú y yo? ¿Nos perdonamos? ¿Nos amaremos aún más ferozmente en el nuevo año que viene?

Si su respuesta es afirmativa, ya sabe dónde encontrarme.

Atentamente,

Tu niña

Cómo escribir una carta al novio expresando sentimientos heridos

If you’ve reached your punto de ruptura y quieres escribir tu propia carta a tu novio, intenta responder primero a las siguientes preguntas:

• In what way did your boyfriend hurt you?

• How did you want him to treat you?

• How does it all make you feel?

• Do you think your relationship is worth saving?

• If yes, what can you do to fix your problems.

Como tienes intención de escribir una carta a tu novio expresando tus sentimientos heridos, quizá sea mejor que respondas a estas preguntas en papel.

Piensa detenidamente en cada una de ellas. Y luego, deja que tus emociones hagan el resto.

Créeme, escribirás la mejor carta cuando te dejes abrumar por lo que sientes.

Reflexiones finales

Espero que esta carta al novio expresando sentimientos heridos te ayude a crear la tuya propia.

Nobody should bottle up their grief. You deserve to be heard, and it’s always best to talk directly to the person who hurt you.

I believe you can fix things. But, even if it all goes wrong, you will know you have tried, and you won’t look back with regret wishing you did more.