Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano? 19 ragioni

Hmm… Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi and then start again? I’m sure it all starts like this:

Congratulazioni! You’ve been texting for weeks/months now and you’re 99% sure your relationship is on its way to becoming something more. E poi BOOM!

Non vi risponde più. Ha smesso improvvisamente di mandarvi messaggi senza dirvi il perché, in modo che sappiate se dovete andare nel panico o prendere la cosa alla leggera.

Come donna, so bene che il panico è la prima cosa che ci viene in mente in queste situazioni. I mean, it’s really a BIG DEAL when someone you really like suddenly stops texting you for no reason!

Do you know what’s even more confusing? Quando ricomincia a mandarvi messaggi dopo un certo periodo di tempo (tempo che di solito passiamo a pensare e a drammatizzare).

Yes, in our head there isn’t one valid reason for such a selfish act but today, we’ll try to look at things from a different perspective.

Today we’ll answer the famous question: Why do guys stop texting and then start again? Take a deep breath and let’s get to work! ?

Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano?

I would be more than happy if there was only one reason why guys stop texting and then start texting you again. Unfortunately, there is a list of common reasons why they do that. I’m sure the following reasons will bring you some clarity:

1. He’s mentally preoccupied with other things

One of the most common reasons why guys suddenly stop texting is that they are bad at multitasking! I can confirm the validity of this statement because the guy I’m seeing right now is going through this.

He’s preoccupied with other things and that’s why we no longer text as frequently as we did before. A volte mi scrive dopo due o tre giorni, o addirittura dopo una settimana.

He admitted that he’s really bad at multitasking and he needs to redirect all his focus on the thing he’s doing at the moment. He also told me that, once he’s done with it, he’ll go back to his normal texting behavior. ?

2. He’s scared of how much he likes you

Sei preoccupato per il suo abitudini di invio di SMS? Forse è preoccupato per i suoi sentimenti. I suoi alti livelli di affetto verso di voi lo spaventano.

Yup, that’s actually possible. There are guys who are afraid of their feelings because vulnerability is not their strongest attribute. They’re simply not ready to admit to themselves that they are crazy about you.

Per questo motivo, scelgono di ignorarvi per qualche tempo e poi tornano. Molto fastidioso, sono d'accordo.

3. He’s testing you

Why do guys stop texting for a few days, back off, and then start texting you again? It could be that he’s actually testing you. Aspetta, perché avrebbe dovuto farlo?

Because he’s not sure whether you like him or not. Then, why doesn’t he simply ask you? Perché gli uomini. ?

So, if you show concern when he stops texting you, he’ll take this as confirmation that you like him. He knows that a woman who is not interested in a man would never bother about him not texting her any longer.

4. Giocare duro per ottenere

We all know that playing hard to get is primarily a woman’s sport but men are not excluded either.

Sta facendo il difficile? Pensa che non mandandoti messaggi per qualche giorno ti farà inseguire?

Well, he’s probably right about it. We women are really suckers for men who shower us with attention and then make us beg for it.

If he’s playing hard to get, you can do the same! Fortunately, two can play this game and it’s only a matter of time before someone will admit that they’ve had enough. That’s when the real game begins!

5. He’s busy texting others

Or maybe the reason why he’s ghosting you is that he’s busy texting other ladies. That and him being a player are the two worst reasons for his selective texting.

Let’s say that he no longer texts you because he suffers from the La sindrome dell'erba più verde.

In other words, he thinks there are more attractive and prettier women out there and he doesn’t want to miss out.

Because of that, he’s sitting on multiple chairs until he falls down. Poi si alza di nuovo e ricomincia a mandarti messaggi. Il consiglio del giorno: Don’t be anyone’s second choice.

6. A causa di qualcosa che avete fatto

Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano? Può darsi che il motivo sia tu. Forse avete detto qualcosa che lo ha fatto arrabbiare o lo avete involontariamente insultato.

Literally, it could be anything, and since I’m not a seer by profession, you’ll have to find the reason on your own. You’ll do that by evaluating previous communication and any arguments that you might have had.

If you find out that you’re the reason why he stopped texting you, make sure to apologize to him. And remember that this is totally okay. We all make mistakes because we’re human beings, right?

7. Vuole rallentare un po'

Every single one of us has our own pace when it comes to dating and relationships. What’s fast for him may not be fast for you and vice versa.

Quindi, uno dei motivi per cui ha smesso di mandare messaggi è che ha deciso di rallentare con i messaggi e tutto il resto.

Inoltre, fate attenzione ai tempi. Un nuovo ragazzo che ho conosciuto interrompeva spesso i messaggi a metà conversazione. Quando gli ho chiesto perché lo facesse, mi ha risposto che voleva rallentare le cose.

8. Avete esaurito gli argomenti più interessanti

“He texted me every day, and then he stopped.” What’s up with this guy? Why did he suddenly decide to ghost you after so many interesting conversations you had?

Può darsi che si sia semplicemente a corto di cose interessanti e stimolanti di cui parlare. Se al vostro uomo non piacciono le chiacchiere, lo capisco perfettamente.

Forse alcuni testi flirtanti will tickle his imagination and you’ll no longer have to worry about him stopping texting you.

9. Ha bisogno di spazio

Ha bisogno di spazio? Maybe that’s the reason why he decided not to text you for a couple of days.

Tenete presente che non tutti i ragazzi fanno così quando desiderano un po' di spazio. Alcuni ragazzi te lo dicono davvero (come uno dei miei amici).

Shout out to all those guys who tell honestly what’s on their minds!

10. He’s just not that into you

I always say: If he’s not that into you, his texting behavior will show it.

Or maybe you went on a date but it didn’t go well. If that’s the case with you, then you know he’s just not that into you.

And yes, he’s kind of a coward for not telling you honestly how he feels but he chooses to ghost you. That’s why you’re better off without him anyway.

11. Vuole che desideriate la sua presenza

Cosa significa quando un ragazzo smette di mandarti messaggi ogni giorno? Potrebbe significare che vuole che tu senta la sua mancanza.

Because of that, he no longer texts you, and he’s no longer responsive on social media (he no longer likes your posts) and things like that. Fa tutto questo per farvi desiderare la sua presenza.

He wants you to miss him because he’s either unsure about your feelings for him or he’s seeking attention.

12. He’s unsure of your compatibility

"Ha smesso di mandarmi messaggi.” “I have no idea why and what I should do about it.” Maybe you should give him some time because he might be unsure of your compatibility.

Do you think that you’re compatible? Is there any reason why he would think otherwise?

I’ve noticed that, when men are unsure of their feelings or your overall compatibility, they immediately pull back.

Vanno a trascorrere del tempo nella loro caverna maschile per chiarire le cose. After doing that, they either text you back or subtly let you know that you’re simply not meant for each other.

13. Tentativi di convalida e di ricerca di attenzione

Sapete qual è il tipo di uomo che di solito cerca conferme e attenzioni? Uomini con bassa autostima. Ragazzi che cercano costantemente l'attenzione femminile può essere un vero peso.

Sono letteralmente pronti a fare qualsiasi cosa per ottenere una dose di convalida e attenzione dagli altri. Non mandarvi messaggi e poi ricominciare a mandarveli dopo un po' di tempo è uno dei loro metodi preferiti per cercare attenzione.

To us, it’s one of the most annoying things we have to deal with but that’s just how it goes. We’re talking about a vicious cycle that isn’t easy to break.

I’m talking about one of the verità psicologiche sul ghosting by Psychology Today: “People who are ghosted become more likely to do the same to someone else.”

14. He’s intimidated by you

Is it possible that he doesn’t text you back because he feels intimidated by you? Sure. There are many guys nowadays who feel intimidated by a successful and independent woman.

Here’s what I have to say to them: “If you feel intimidated by me, then you definitely don’t deserve me. If you play texting games with me, I won’t be interested in you.”

Only weak men are intimidated by powerful women. Don’t fall to their level. Find a man who is strong enough not to be intimidated; someone who is proud of you.

15. He’s bad at texting

Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano? Il mio primo incontro virtuale con un ragazzo che è non è bravo a mandare messaggi was truly annoying. I thought the guy didn’t like me at all!

Voglio dire, come si può essere attratti da qualcuno e non avere il desiderio di mandargli un messaggio? A me sembra contraddittorio, ma per loro ha perfettamente senso.

If that’s what’s happening to you at the moment, then face-to-face communication or phone calls are great alternatives.

Whatever you do, just don’t force him to text you back because this can only make things worse.

16. He wants to see how you’ll react

Seriously? Are you telling me that he wants to see how my reaction will be once he stops texting me? I bet that’s what you’re thinking right now. ?

Cosa significa quando un ragazzo smette di mandarti messaggi? Sometimes it means that he wants to see whether you’ll become overly needy or clingy.

When he no longer sends you good morning texts or those random texts he used to send you, he wants to see whether you’ll notice it. He wants to see how you’ll cope with it.

Andrete avanti immediatamente? Vi arrabbierete con lui? O diventerà disperata?

Come sempre, la scelta è vostra.

17. Vuole essere misterioso

Why do guys text less after a while? Well, one of the reasons is that they want to add some mystery to the equation. Perhaps he’s scared that he’ll start boring you; hence all those disappearing acts.

I know this is one of the weirdest reasons why a guy would stop texting you, but it’s definitely one of the possible reasons.

Advice to guys: There are other ways to preserve the mystery. You don’t need to ghost a woman in order to get her attention.

I hope they’ll understand the absurdity of their actions.

18. Indisponibilità emotiva

You’re being ghosted because he’s emotionally unavailablee quindi non è pronto per qualcosa di serio.

He’s not ready for a new relationship, he has some major overthinking sessions in the background, and that’s when he decides to stop contacting you.

I’ve had a fair share of dealing with emotionally unavailable guys and my only advice to you would be: CORRERE PER SALVARSI LA VITA.

Don’t even think of texting him until he figures out exactly what he wants at the moment. If he’s not ready for something serious at the moment, don’t wait for him.

19. He’s a player

Perché i ragazzi smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano? Un giocatore ti manderebbe un messaggio ogni giorno?

Se he’s playing mind games with you, chances are he’ll text you intensely in one moment, and in the other, he’ll ignore you completely.

Molte donne finiscono per messaggiare con un giocatore senza nemmeno saperlo. Una cosa è certa: If you’re dealing with a player, heartbreak is inevitable.

This kind of guy will text you only when it’s convenient for him because he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. You deserve better.

Cosa fare quando smette di mandarti messaggi

Bombarding him with “I love you” texts is not a solution. Doppio sms non è una soluzione, perché potrebbe causare un mucchio di messaggi senza risposta da parte sua.

I won’t make this complicated because there’s no need for that. Instead of offering you a list of possible things you could do when he stops texting you, I’ll summarize it all into two choices:

• Talk to him.

Sappiamo tutti che una comunicazione sana è la chiave per evitare i drammi. You’re two adults and if your affection is mutual, I don’t see a reason why you couldn’t solve this through an honest and open conversation.

Digli come ti senti quando ignora i tuoi messaggi. L'ho fatto con un ragazzo e lui era assolutamente d'accordo con me. Ha capito!

So, what you need to do is let him know what he’s doing is just not right (unless he has a valid explanation for it). After you’re done talking, then it’s up to him how he’ll take it.

Deciderà di cambiare? Riuscirete a trovare un compromesso?

Naturalmente, questo dipende molto dal livello di affetto che lui nutre nei vostri confronti. Credetemi, se lui ci tiene davvero a voi, farà di tutto per rendervi felici. (Non proprio qualsiasi cosa, ma hai capito cosa intendo).

• Walk away from him.

If talking to him doesn’t bear fruit and his reasons for ghosting you are not valid, then consider walking away from him. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice.

Ti meriti un uomo che trovi sempre il tempo di risponderti. Un uomo che non voglia farvi preoccupare o pensare troppo. Un uomo così vale la pena di essere mantenuto.

If he stops texting you for no apparent reason, his message to you is very clear: “I stopped texting you because I don’t really care about how this will make you feel.”

Don’t give him the benefit to stop texting you whenever he wants. Instead, allontanarsi e fargli implorare la vostra attenzione.

Perché improvvisamente mi ha mandato un altro messaggio?

The most common reason why guys suddenly text you again is that they’re interested in what’s going on in your life. They want to know about your love life, future plans, you name it. They text you again to see whether they have a chance with you or because they’re legit players.

Detto questo, ecco due sotto-ragioni per cui i ragazzi improvvisamente ti mandano di nuovo messaggi:

• Because he likes you.

Ovviamente, un ragazzo che è interessato a te ti manderà un messaggio perché gli piaci e vuole far parte della tua vita.

Depending on the reasons why he stopped texting you, now he wants to see whether you’re still available. More importantly, he wants to see whether you’re still interested in him.

If you’re interested in him, then feel free to text him back. Still, you shouldn’t ignore the fact that he ignored you for some time. Chiedetegli di giustificare il suo comportamento e poi decidete se dargli o meno una seconda possibilità.

• Because he’s playing with you.

Another reason why a guy might text you again is that he’s playing games with you. He doesn’t like you but he needs you to like him.

È un narcisista sotto mentite spoglie?? It’s definitely not excluded. What he’s doing is soffiare caldo e freddo. Ti dà abbastanza per mantenere il tuo interesse e poi scompare.

As you’re craving his presence, he comes back again. I’m pretty sure every single woman on the planet is sick and tired of such behavior from men. Prima io.

If he’s playing with you, don’t think twice about cutting off all communication because life is too short to be surrounded by persone tossiche.

Non preoccupatevi!

Vi invito a non preoccuparvi troppo di questa domanda, “Why do guys stop texting and then start again?” Let me explain…

If he likes you, he will text you back or he will have a valid explanation why he didn’t. If he isn’t into you or he’s a player, he will text you when it’s convenient for him and he won’t care about how you feel.

Invece di preoccuparvi dei ragazzi che smettono di mandare messaggi e poi ricominciano, preoccupatevi del vostro benessere. Make sure that you’re living your life to the fullest and everything else will fall into place (including your love life).

E sì, meriti di ricevere un messaggio di risposta and if he doesn’t know it, then he’s not worthy of being with you. It’s as simple as that.