Una donna rivela le 5 regole non negoziabili che il suo fidanzato deve rispettare
Ognuno ha aspettative diverse quando si tratta del partner dei propri sogni. Forse a un certo punto ne ho avute anche troppe. Tuttavia, ho sempre pensato che it’s good to be direct with what you want and communicate your boundaries so there’s no room for misunderstanding.
Anche se a volte pensiamo che alcune aspettative siano normali e comuni, per alcuni potrebbero essere oltraggiose. We differ in our opinions of what’s right and wrong and therefore it’s important to be clear from the very beginning.
Taylor Donoghue si è fatta sentire in modo chiaro e forte mostrando la sua lista di 5 regole a tutto il mondo su TikTok! Now guys can’t say they didn’t know what they got themselves into!
1. Niente migliori amicizie femminili!
Ha iniziato il video affermando la sua prima e principale regola:
“First is super obvious, but I would never allow my boyfriend to have a girl best friend. I don’t believe in them.”
Before anyone gets pissed off, she explained that it’s okay if he has female acquaintances, but il posto di migliore amico è riservato agli uomini! Ha aggiunto che avere una migliore amica femmina potrebbe creare problemi e nessuno lo vuole.
Some agreed with this and one woman even said she didn’t think this would be a problem so she allowed her boyfriend to have a girl roommate. Let’s just say it didn’t end well.
2. La posizione deve essere sempre attiva!
Questa è una grande bandiera rossa per alcune persone. Lo considerano un'invasione della privacy del partner ma Taylor thinks it’s more a safety measure. Ha detto:
“I feel like you get to a point where when you’ve been dating someone for so long, having each other’s like locations on like “Find My iPhone” is more of a safety thing. I just want to make sure he’s okay.”
However, she’s not purely concerned with safety because she also thinks not letting your partner know where you are is shady. Others think she just has trust issues.
I kinda agree because me and my partner never have our locations on. If he tells me he’s going to some pub with the boys, I know he’s going there. But we’re also grown-ups who have free will to go where we want without someone breathing down our neck.
3. Gli strip club sono un grande NO!
Ha proseguito con la terza regola dicendo che potrebbe essere controversa ma her record is set straight – no strip clubs! Come ha spiegato lei stessa:
“The third thing I never allow my boyfriend to do is go to strip clubs. And I feel like this is a controversial one, and some couples go to them together. But nope, not our scene. You can go to bars, you can have a guys’ night, but strip clubs… Absolutely not.”
Are there really people who allow their significant others to go to strip clubs? Couldn’t be me, but you do you.
4. Le finanze sono divise al 50%!
I feel like guys really loved this one…wonder why. Le donne dall'altra parte avevano opinioni diverse. Pensano che gli uomini dovrebbero almeno pagare per i loro appuntamenti. Tuttavia, Taylor ha detto:
“The fourth thing I would never allow my boyfriend to do is pay all the bills. I feel like the men paying for 100% of everything is just like wrong. And I’m not even trying to sound ‘pick me.’”
I think paying 50-50 is slowly becoming a standard set for women. They want us to be homemakers but also contribute financially. And while this would be fine if men did the same, they mostly don’t participate in the homemaking part at all.
5. Le foto in bikini sono off-limits!
Taylor thinks liking provocative pictures of girls on Instagram is a major red flag saying it simply doesn’t look good from the perspective of others:
“I feel like there’s been so much more awareness on this, but it always makes me sad when I see someone that’s like married with kids or just in a relationship and they’re like, liking girls’ photos, especially very like provocative ones. I’m just like, it’s not a good look.”
Per lei si tratta di un'aspettativa piuttosto ovvia that doesn’t need further explanation. And while some agreed with everything she listed, others said it doesn’t make sense to have these rules.
È dispotica o ragionevole?
Uno ha detto che queste sono le basi:
“I agree with you on every one of these. It is basic respect and for the health of the relationship.”
Qualcuno si è dichiarato d'accordo dicendo:
“These are all completely normal things everyone should expect in a relationship. How is it a red flag? Basic respect has just gone…”
Un uomo è rimasto scioccato dai commenti negativi:
“What are these comments!? it’s not controlling or being insecure. It’s called being reasonable and having standards.”
A lot of people said Tayor is controlling and they wouldn’t set these rules:
“I hope this works for you cause there’s no way I’m telling my man what’s allowed and what’s not… he’s an adult.”
Some think we shouldn’t have any rules:
“I have one rule … you won’t tell me what I can and can’t do and vice versa. Been happily married for 25 years.”
Mentre la gente discuteva se questo fosse normale o meno, altri volevano sapere se il suo ragazzo aveva delle regole per lei e ha fatto volentieri un altro video a questo proposito.
Her boyfriend said he only has 4 simple rules – no flirting with guys, no liking pictures of other men, and no lip fillers. He also said he wants her to update him every hour or two when she’s out without him.
Everyone seemed more chill with his boundaries and said this is a bare minimum. Of course, everything’s fine and nothing’s “controlling” or “insecure” when it comes to men sharing their rules.
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