15 segnali d'allarme che il vostro partner sta perdendo interesse

Let’s be honest: being the other woman or the other man is bad enough. But having to doubt your partner’s feelings in mezzo a questo caos è di per sé un incubo.

However, before you jump to any conclusions, you have to be sure what’s really happening. Are you really seeing signs your affair partner is losing interest, or is there something else hidden behind their change in behavior?

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15 segni che il partner della vostra relazione sta perdendo interesse

Se si possono riconoscere tutti o la maggior parte di questi segni, il vostro partner è disinnamorarsi di te.

1. Nessun progetto futuro

Ogni esperto di relazioni vi dirà la stessa cosa: la prima bandiera rossa a cui dovreste prestare attenzione è che voi e il vostro partner non avete più progetti per il futuro.

Or, to be exact, they’re the one who avoids the topic.

Vi ricordate come erano le cose all'inizio? Entrambi sognavate come sarebbero andate le cose quando avreste iniziato una relazione vera e propria.

Probabilmente avete parlato di un posto dove stare, avete pianificato un viaggio insieme e avete pensato a tutta la vostra vita insieme.

Tuttavia, tutto questo sembra essere scomparso da un giorno all'altro. Il vostro partner è rimasto in silenzio, come se non fosse mai accaduto nulla di tutto ciò.

Anche quando cercate di affrontare il problema, vi ignorano completamente.

And I’m not only talking about long-term piani futuri. I’m talking about short-term plans as well.

You can’t get them to sign up for a weekend getaway or a coffee date tomorrow night, let alone anything else.

Isn’t this fact alone suspicious? If you’re being honest, you’ll admit that it is definitely one of the signs your affair partner is losing interest.

2. … at least not with you

However, when you come to think of it, you’re the only person they don’t make any plans with. It’s not that they’re too busy. They have time – just not for you.

They keep on making plans with their significant other and the rest of their family. Of course, they wouldn’t even inform you of those plans, but they have to warn you not to send them text messages or call them when they’re with them.

When you ask them about their vacation plans, they’ll tell you that they’ve already booked everything with their primary partner.

The hell with it, they’re even planning on doing things with their best friends and coworkers. It looks like there is a place in their future for everyone. That is, everyone but you!

Of course, when you confront him about this, he’ll tell you you’re imagining things.

Il loro partner ha prenotato i voli a loro insaputa, oppure devono partecipare a una funzione familiare.

But you’re not foolish enough to believe in these lies. After all, how come similar things didn’t happen before?

That’s right, the harsh truth is that your cheater doesn’t see your relationship as qualcosa di duraturo.

3. Evitano di parlare di divorzio

When you engaged in this affair, there were some promises made. You know the usual lines: their marriage or long-term relationship is falling apart, and they’re about to break up or divorziare.

Hanno fatto in modo che tu credessi che voi due sareste stati insieme per davvero prima che tu te ne accorgessi.

Ma ora, quando non provano più nulla per voi, everything changed. They’ve stopped bringing their divorce up completely.

Anche quando glielo si chiede, si trasforma in un'enorme litigata.

Let’s get one thing straight: probabilmente stavano mentendo a voi fin dal primo giorno. Volevano solo farvi innamorare di loro e sono riusciti nella loro missione.

However, as funny as this might sound, they no longer even put effort into deceiving you. It’s like they don’t give a damn whether you stay or leave.

Or, to be exact, they know that you’ll stay, so there is no point in persuading you that they’ll end things with their SO. I know you’ll have a hard time accepting this, but it’s one of the most surefire signs your affair partner is losing interest.

4. You’re nothing but a booty call

L'intimità fisica è fondamentale in ogni relazione sentimentale; nessuno può metterlo in dubbio. La vostra relazione ha maggiori possibilità di successo se andate d'accordo in camera da letto.

However, it can’t be the only basis of a relationship. If it is, then you’ve got yourself a un accordo senza legami. Non ha senso cercare i segnali rivelatori che il vostro partner sta perdendo interesse, né tantomeno i sentimenti.

Ma la situazione con voi è che avevate divertimento incredibile tra le lenzuola. Nevertheless, it wasn’t the only thing your relationship revolved around. However, that has changed.

Lately, you’ve been feeling like this person’s chiamata di cortesia. Why? Well, because that’s exactly cosa siete.

They call you in the middle of the night, asking when they can stop by. They don’t arrange any activities whatsoever except those that involve a hotel room.

You don’t talk, you don’t travel, you don’t watch movies together. You’re only spending time with one another when you’re sleeping together.

What does this tell you? That they’re still very much physically attracted to you, but that’s about it.

5. … or they avoid physical intimacy altogether

Let’s get one thing straight: we’re not talking about an emotional affair here, are we? That is why it’s quite unusual for your partner to avoid physical intimacy.

I just told you that it’s bad if vogliono solo andare a letto con te. And now I’m telling you that it’s bad if they don’t want to sleep with you either. What’s going on?

Well, the trick is in finding balance – one of the things your relationship clearly doesn’t have.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s one thing if they’re tired or if this is just a phase. You can’t expect anyone to be turned on 24/7 or for your sex life to always be at its peak.

It’s also understandable if you know that they’re going through something. Maybe they’re dealing with additional stress at work or something similar. In that case, this is not a red flag you should pay attention to.

Tuttavia, se il loro disinteresse in physical intimacy lasts for some time and there is no valid explanation behind it, you’ve got yourself a problem.

What’s even worse is that they refuse to talk about it. Whenever you tackle the issue, they accuse you of having only one thing on your mind.

Che cosa significa?

Well, that they’ve probably stopped seeing you as their emotional partner. Instead, you’ve become something like a best friend to them.

Potete provare a ravvivare lo splendore o accontentarvi di una relazione emotiva.

6. Nessuno sa di voi

Keeping your relationship a secret is what an extra-marital affair is all about, I know. However, it’s impossible to keep something like that a secret for so long from literally everyone.

Quando avete iniziato a frequentarvi, il vostro imbroglione showed you off. Of course, they made sure only people they trusted knew about you, which didn’t include anyone who would tell on them to their spouse.

Tuttavia, ora sembra che nessuno sappia più nulla di voi, nemmeno i loro migliori amici.

Does this mean that they’ve become more careful? But for what reason if they’re planning to file for divorce?

Either way, that’s not hidden behind this change of behavior. I hate to break it to you, but they simply don’t feel the need to talk about you anymore. Yes, it’s as simple as that.

At the same time, they don’t plan to keep you around for much longer, so they don’t see the need to bring you up in conversation.

7. Lavorare sul proprio matrimonio

Avete notato che il vostro partner si sta impegnando per salvare il proprio matrimonio, o è solo una mia impressione?

Whenever you try to reach out, they’re always with them. They started mentioning their SO more, even though they try not to do so.

Maybe they haven’t told you anything about their reconciliation outright. However, I’m sure you stalk their social media accounts or have mutual friends.

You found out that they’re living their lives like every other married couple. It looks like they’ve just had a crisis, and now, they’re doing everything to overcome it and rebuild the healthy relationship they once had.

They’re traveling together, going to the movies, and attending social functions. Basically, they’re doing everything your partner isn’t doing with you.

Of course, you’ve never had a problem with them trascorrere il tempo con altri membri della famiglia. However, it seems like they’re using this as an excuse to get closer to their SO.

È una pillola difficile da ingoiare. Sembra che lei sia stato solo un condimento per il loro matrimonio. Ovviamente hai dato loro il supporto vitale di cui avevano bisogno.

But hey, it’s better to realize it in time before you lose any more time with this person.

Terapeuta familiare

La più grande bandiera rossa che indica che il vostro partner è lavorare sul proprio matrimonio is that they’re seeing a family therapist. You have to understand that they consider their relationship so important that they want to make it work at all costs.

Both them and their SO are aware that they have problems – nobody can argue against that. These problems are above their area of expertise.

However, they’re so willing to work on them that they involve a professional to give them a hand.

8. Accampare scuse

Uno dei segnali che indicano che il vostro partner sta perdendo interesse si nasconde nelle scuse che continua ad addurre, qualunque sia la situazione.

You ask them about divorce? They will tell you that they can’t leave their spouse because they’re emotionally blackmailing them, because they have a mortgage together, or for the kids’ sake.

You ask them why they spend so little time with you? They keep telling you that they have to work extra hours, that they’re busy at work, that they’re tired, or that they just can’t fit you into their schedule.

Vi suona familiare? La verità è che potrei continuare all'infinito, perché ci sono infiniti esempi di comportamenti simili.

Perché sta accadendo?

Ma cosa hanno in comune tutti questi modelli? That’s right – they’re all excuses.

E si finisce sempre con un grande e grosso nulla. Sapete che they’re lying to you, but the worst part is that they’re getting away with it.

This is not something you want to hear, but they’re giving you these excuses just so you leave them alone. It’s easier to deceive you to get back off their back than to tell you that they don’t want to spend time with you.

9. Promesse vuote

Excuses never come alone. They’re always followed by promesse vuote. And you’ve been getting a bunch of those as well.

Quando divorzieranno? Presto. Quando otterrete il posto che meritate nella loro vita? Ce l'hai già.

Vi ameranno per sempre? Certamente. Vi vedono come la loro anima gemella? Chi altro potrebbe essere?

Tutti queste parole sarebbero perfetti se fossero sostenuti da azioni reali. But when it comes to your relationship, that’s definitely not the case.

Each one of these lines and promises are empty. Your partner’s words don’t match their deeds. And that’s the whole problem.

Of course, it hasn’t always been like this. On the contrary, it started happening once they started losing feelings for you.

10. You’ve become their last resort

Whether you like to admit it or not, the truth is that you’ve become this person’s ultima scelta.

Quando avete iniziato a frequentarvi, erano pronti a mollare tutto pur di passare del tempo con voi. Uscivano di casa di nascosto per vedervi, annullavano riunioni e appuntamenti di lavoro per stare accanto a voi.

Eravate la loro priorità e chiaramente occupavate il primo posto nella loro vita. Tuttavia, con il tempo tutto questo è cambiato.

Lately, they’ve only been calling you when everyone else stands them up. Everything and everyone has become more important than you.

Their family (including their spouse), work, best friends, hobbies… you name it.

And you don’t have a problem with them having a place in their life. After all, you know what you signed up for.

Il problema è che ovviamente non c'è più posto per voi.

11. I sentimenti vengono per ultimi

Avete provato a parlare con il vostro partner di tutte queste cose che vi preoccupano? Assolutamente sì!

È mai stata una conversazione proficua? No, per carità.

Why is that so? Well, isn’t it obvious? At the end of the day, your feelings don’t matter to them.

Per quanto sia doloroso afferrare questa idea, they don’t give a damn se ti spezzano il cuore o meno.

They don’t care if they leave you hanging, waiting for them to show up as they promised. They don’t care if you cry yourself to sleep.

They don’t give a damn about the fact they’re ruining your future. They don’t care how you feel.

D'altra parte, si assicurano di non ferire il loro SO. Si assicurano di non sconvolgere la loro vita apparentemente perfetta.

It seems like everyone’s emotions, needs, and well-being are significant. Everyone, except yours, that is.

12. It’s all about them

Isn’t it clear? Your entire relationship revolves around your partner. It’s pretty obvious that you two aren’t equal here.

It’s not just about the fact that you two are spending less and meno tempo together. It’s also about the quality of that time.

Quando è stata l'ultima volta che avete parlato di voi? Quando i vostri sogni, le vostre paure e i vostri problemi sono stati il principale argomento di conversazione?

That’s right, you can’t even remember.

Anche quando vi impegnate in una comunicazione significativa, finisce sempre che loro si lamentano e voi siete la loro spalla su cui piangere.

You’re very understanding of all their troubles. You even listen to them talk about their marital problems.

You’re there to give them advice, hear them out, or give them a hand even when they don’t ask for one.

Ma restituiscono mai il favore? Certamente no!

Whenever you need them, they’re nowhere to be found. They’re too busy to listen to you, let alone help you out with your issues.

It’s time to ask yourself this: Am I this person’s emotional partner or a pro-bono therapist?

13. They’re annoyed by everything you do

What are some of the first signs your affair partner is losing interest? Well, this one doesn’t have a lot to do with affairs in general – it also answers the question of how to tell if your il partner sta perdendo i sentimenti.

Quando tutto ciò che fate infastidisce il vostro partner, una cosa è chiara: l'infatuazione è finita da un pezzo!

I’m mostly talking about those piccole cose they used to find interesting and cute. But now, they’re literally bothered by the way you breathe.

That’s exactly what’s going on in your affair.

Per esempio, una volta eravate gelosi. Il vostro partner lo vedeva come un segno del vostro amore per lui. Si sentiva lusingato dalla vostra natura possessiva.

Now, all of a sudden, they can’t stand this side of you.

It’s like that with everything. They’re annoyed by the way you kiss them and make love to them, your text messages, how you look, talk, and behave.

I hate to break it to you, but this person’s disinterest is quite visible – you’re just refusing to see it.

14. C'è qualcun altro

Okay, so they’re cheating on their spouse with you – we’ve got that covered. But once they start cheating with a third (or should I say fourth?) person, it’s time to pick up what’s left of your dignity and walk away.

I mean, come on, you won’t allow yourself to be cheated on by a person who’s cheating on someone with you, will you?

If this is the case, the truth is that you’re dealing with a imbroglione seriale. These people don’t care who their lover is – as long as they are in a position to commit adultery.

Mi dispiace dirtelo, ma non si è mai trattato di te. Volevano solo imbrogliare, e tu eri comodo.

You obviously no longer give them the thrill they were getting at the beginning of your affair. Of course, this has nothing to do with you – this person is just moving from one victim to another.

E purtroppo il vostro tempo è scaduto.

Why didn’t they leave you?

Well, why would they? If they have a chance to jiggle between the three of you, that’s exactly what they will do.

15. Il vostro intuito vi dice

At the end of the day, there is something even stronger than all of these signs your affair partner is losing interest. That’s right, I’m talking about your gut feeling.

Possono provare a ingannarvi quanto vogliono, ma in fondo sapete che le cose non sono più le stesse.

Lo si nota dal modo in cui ti guardano, dal modo in cui ti guardano. il modo in cui ti bacianoe, in generale, nel modo in cui vi trattano.

As much as you’re trying to tell yourself that you’re imagining things, you know the harsh truth. You’re aware that your intuition is showing you signs you can no longer ignore.

L'unica domanda da porsi è: cosa farete al riguardo?

Come si fa a capire se una relazione è finita?

If your affair partner has reconnected with their spouse as if nothing happened, your affair is over, even if they didn’t break up with you outright. Don’t expect them to be brave enough to end things with you directly. Instead, they’ll let you make the conclusion yourself.

Come finiscono di solito le relazioni?

La maggior parte dei tradimenti si conclude con il ritorno della coppia coniugale, anche se di solito questi matrimoni finiscono con un divorzio, seguito da una relazione impegnata con la terza persona. Secondo alcune ricerche, solo una piccola percentuale di partner che tradiscono lascia effettivamente la moglie o il marito per costruirsi una vita con l'amante.

Per concludere:

I know that it was heartbreaking for you to relate to most of these signs your affair partner is losing interest. But they’re here, and they’re very much real.

I don’t mean to judge you, but this affair would’ve ended one way or another. And it’s definitely much better for you to know where you stand.

To be honest, you have no other option but to leave even before seeing all these signs. However, now after you’ve seen them, you know what your only choice is!