11 segni che la vostra famiglia non si preoccupa di voi e come affrontarli

Do you think you have some toxic family members who simply don’t care about you and your needs?

Here are some signs that your family doesn’t care about you, which will help you figure out whether you’re living in a dysfunctional, toxic environment or not.

Crescere in una famiglia bella, sana e funzionale influisce positivamente sulla nostra salute mentale e sulla nostra autostima.

Ci aiuta a diventare persone migliori e a stabilire obiettivi validi e realistici per il futuro.

D'altra parte, crescere in un disfunzionale La famiglia e le relazioni tossiche con i membri della famiglia influiscono negativamente sul vostro benessere mentale ed emotivo e sul vostro futuro.

Toxic family relationships will leave some scars on your mental health; scars that you’ll never be able to get rid of.

You’ll be left with fear about the future and your own family… the perfect family you have always dreamed you’d have one day.

The fact is that family relationships shape our lives. They play a major role in what kind of people we’ll become one day.

However, unfortunately, we aren’t all blessed with a caring, happy and healthy family that is always there for us no matter what.

11 Enormous signs your family doesn’t care about you

Of course, if you’re a teenager, this doesn’t apply to you because most teenagers think that their family doesn’t love them and wants to make their life miserable, but that’s just a phase.

Now, you’re probably asking, how do you know that your family doesn’t care for you?

Se riconoscete uno di questi segnali, vuol dire che le vostre dinamiche familiari sono tossiche e dovreste trovare un modo per affrontarle il prima possibile.

You don’t feel loved and respected

In a functional and healthy family, all family members should feel loved and respected. It’s the most important thing for a healthy family relationship.

If you’re away for some time, they should make a phone call or send you a simple email or a message on social media just to show they’re missing you and thinking of you.

Dovrebbero sempre sostenervi, qualunque cosa facciate.

You’ll disagree sometimes, which is perfectly normal and we all sometimes argue with our family, but you’ll overcome it easily and behave as if nothing happened.

They’re never there when you need them most

In all family situations, in good and bad times, you have to stick together and be each other’s biggest support.

If your family is never there for you or if they can’t make time for you and your needs, it’s simply a sign that they don’t care about you and your needs.

Just like you should make time for them even with your busiest schedule, they should do the same for you. By making time for someone, you’re actually showing them that you honestly care for them.

They don’t care for your opinion nor your feelings

La vostra opinione deve avere la stessa importanza della loro. Se tutti gli altri membri partecipano a decisioni importanti, dovreste partecipare anche voi.

If they don’t care for your opinion or your feelings, it means they don’t care for you at all. That’s not healthy and it will definitely affect you.

The important thing is that you shouldn’t accept that kind of mistreatment. You don’t deserve it, so don’t accept it. Tell them how you’re not okay with it and how your opinion should be as important as theirs.

Avete subito diversi tipi di abuso

You have to understand this – abuse is unacceptable no matter where it comes from. If a person cares for you honestly, they would never make you hurt like that.

And, I’m not talking about physical abuse only – there are different ways your family can abuse you, such as mental and abuso emotivo.

If they are able to hurt you like that, then that’s a good sign that your family doesn’t care about you.

Anche il gaslighting è un altro tipo di abuso. It’s mental abuse because it affects your mental health negatively.

Your family’s manipulation can make you reconsider some of your own life decisions as well as make you feel bad about your own choices.

Le vostre esigenze non sono mai importanti

First of all, understand that your needs are just as important as everyone else’s. If you’re trying to fulfill all of their needs, they should do the same for you.

If you feel like your family has never even cared for your needs, then probably (and I know this is very hard to hear) they don’t care for you at all.

This can make you feel sad and emotionally empty, but that’s something you should never allow.

There are other people in your life who care for you, and one day, you’ll find a person who’ll sacrifice everything for you and who’ll try to fulfill all of your needs.

Siete sempre criticati aspramente

Essere costantemente criticati dalle persone che vi sono vicine, anche per cose che non dipendono da voi, farà crescere la voce critica interiore.

Constant criticizing is one of the most common mistakes that parents make. Unfortunately, sometimes, they aren’t even aware of the consequences it leaves on their children’s mental and emotional health.

Anche quando fate qualcosa di sbagliato, ci sono tanti altri modi in cui la vostra famiglia può farvi notare il vostro errore.

Constant criticizing and punishments are never a way to encourage someone to fix their mistakes. It has so many bad effects, and it’s definitely not a good way to discipline children.

They don’t respect your boundaries

In ogni tipo di relazione, per rendere il rapporto sano e funzionale, devono esserci dei confini sani, che ogni parte deve rispettare.

Abbiamo bisogno di avere il nostro spazio personale anche nelle relazioni più strette.

If your family is constantly overstepping your boundaries, and if they don’t respect your need for personal space, then they don’t respect you at all.

You have to value yourself if they don’t want to. You’re important and you deserve to be treated well… to be treated with respect and dignity.

Learn to say ‘No’ to them. If your boundaries are being violated constantly, it may lead to developing a codipendente rapporto tra voi e la vostra famiglia, che permetterà loro di controllarvi completamente.

Tutto è sempre colpa tua

Do you have a feeling that somehow, you always get blamed for everything… all bad things that happen in your family?

Don’t worry, it’s not your fault. Don’t even dare to think that there is something wrong with you.

It only means you’re living in a toxic family with people who use you as the sacrificial lamb for all bad family situations.

They blame you for everything because it’s so much easier to put the colpa su qualcun altro piuttosto che assumersi la responsabilità dei propri errori.

I know it’s heartbreaking to live in such surroundings when people blame you for all the bad things that happen. But, it’s also your fault if you allow them to do so. You have to learn to stand up for yourself.

Non condividono mai nulla con voi

Esiste una sensazione più bella che condividere qualcosa di bello che vi è successo con le persone che amate e a cui volete bene?

That’s actually the whole point of life… to have dreams and goals to pursue and to share them with your loved ones.

If you feel like your family is constantly pushing you aside and rarely sharing anything with you, it’s one of the most obvious signs your family doesn’t care for you.

Siete esclusi da tutte le riunioni di famiglia

If you don’t live with your family and they never call or text you to simply check on you or they never visit or invite you to some important family gatherings, I’m sorry, but I have to break it out for you… they don’t care for you at all.

Le riunioni di famiglia servono a riunire tutti i membri della famiglia in un unico luogo, in modo che possano ritrovarsi e mantenere un forte legame.

If your family doesn’t invite you to their gatherings, it’s only because they don’t want you there (obviously) and they don’t care about you, your life, or your well-being.

I know it’s heartbreaking to be so estranged from your family, but trust me, it’s better for you, and one day, you’ll realize this yourself.

Don’t force anything, and don’t go to places where you’re unwanted. If they don’t want to be in your life, then open the doors for them and escort them out of your life.

You have yourself and that’s more than enough, please trust me on this one.

Also, one day, you’ll meet the person who’ll never want to spend a day without you, and you’ll have your own family one day who’ll make up for everything you missed with your family.

You’re generally disappointed with how your family treats you

If your family constantly makes you feel like you’re the black sheep of the family and you feel disappointed by the way they treat you, that’s toxic and unhealthy family dynamics.

However, that’s not a reason for you to start thinking about how you’re less worthy than other members of your family.

Don’t allow their toxicity to affect your autostima e vi fanno dubitare della vostra autostima. Smettete di dare loro potere sulla vostra vita.

And, don’t ever think that all of the things that are happening are somehow your fault… that you deserved it somehow…

Alcune persone sono semplicemente tossico, and no matter how much we love and try to save them, their toxicity just can’t be fixed.

What do you do when you realize your family doesn’t care about you?

If you’ve recognized any of these signs above, then you should react immediately and put a stop to your family’s toxic behavior and mistreatment. Here is how you’ll handle it effectively.

Prima di tutto, fate di voi stessi una priorità

Prima di iniziare a trattare con i membri tossici della vostra famiglia, dovete spostare l'attenzione su voi stessi e fare in modo che se stessi come priorità. Dovreste imparare a diventare indipendenti e autosufficienti.

One of the most beautiful things in the world is to have a happy and functional family, I agree, but it’s also not the end of the world if you don’t.

You have yourself and that’s the most important thing.

Even if you fail to make them realize that they’re being unfair to you, and even if you don’t succeed in fixing your relationship, you should accept it and move on with your life.

Think about yourself, your future and your own family you’ll have one day. Practice cura di sé and don’t allow their toxicity to affect your mood, your vibes and your happiness in life.

Stabilire dei limiti salutari

Dovete portare con voi un po' di sano confini nella vostra relazione. Questo vi aiuterà sicuramente a liberarvi della loro tossicità o almeno a non permettere che influisca così tanto sulla vostra vita.

I limiti sono buoni e necessari per qualsiasi tipo di relazione. A volte è necessario tracciare una linea di demarcazione e dire che questo è sufficiente; questo è il punto in cui il tuo narcisistico comportamento e la mancanza di rispetto cessano.

Parlatene con loro

Sit down and talk honestly with your family. Tell them how you feel about everything and how it’s high time for them to reconsider their behavior towards you.

Tell them also how their mistreatment is affecting and ruining your mental health. Set an ultimatum for them… either they’ll change their behavior towards you or you’ll tagliare ogni contatto con loro.

Costruire il proprio sistema di supporto

Find comfort in your friends or some ‘normal’ family members. You should set up your own support system that will help you go through all of it.

Find a shoulder to cry on. You shouldn’t go through all of this alone. There are still so many people who honestly care for you and those people deserve a place in your life the most.

Smettere di normalizzare l'abuso emotivo

L'abuso è abuso, and trust me, it’s even worse when it comes from people close to you. It’ll leave some marks for life on your physical, emotional, and mental health.

Non importa quanto si ami una persona, non si dovrebbe mai sopportare di essere maltrattati in alcun modo. Affrontate la vostra famiglia e dite loro di smetterla e di iniziare a trattarvi come meritate.

Permettete a voi stessi di provare tutte le emozioni

Proverete sicuramente tutta una serie di emozioni e avete tutto il diritto di sentirle come volete. Piangete quando ne avete bisogno. Urlate pure quando ne sentite il bisogno.

You have the right to feel angry at them because I know you didn’t deserve to be treated the way they treat you.

However, please don’t allow that anger to consume you. It will take the best out of you and turn you into a very cold person.

Interrompere i contatti per un po' di tempo

I know this is hard. I know it’s hard to cut off contact with your loved ones or to get them out of your life forever.

However, in order to preserve your sanity, you’ll have to do it. If they are treating you badly, forget they are your family and know that there are some toxic people, abusers and narcissists in this world.

Narcisismo può davvero distruggere completamente una famiglia.

Conclusione

We are all aware that we aren’t all blessed with a healthy and happy family, and I really hope these common signs your family doesn’t care about you helped you realize this so you’ll be able to deal with it as soon as possible.

Inoltre, questi metodi molto efficaci sopra descritti vi aiuteranno a gestire i membri tossici della vostra famiglia, ma dovete davvero seguire con attenzione tutti questi passaggi.

You should never allow anyone, no matter how much you love and care for someone, to treat you the way you don’t deserve.

Emotional (and even worse, physical) abuse will leave some consequences on your mental health and well-being, and you’ll never be able to heal from it completely.

If you can’t deal with those toxic members of your family, then you have to cut off all ties with those members once and for all. Don’t allow anyone to control you and affect your happiness.

The most important thing you really have to be aware of is that it’s never your fault. They’re just toxic people who aren’t pleased with their own lives and want to make you feel the same.

Don’t allow them to do that. I know it’s awfully hard to cut off contact with your family, but for the sake of your own well-being and your future, you just have to do it.

Love and take care of yourself first because (I’m sure you’re well aware of this by now) you’re all you have at the end of the day.