15 segni di simpatia per un ragazzo autistico (+consigli per uscire con lui)
Capire se si piace o meno a un uomo è già abbastanza difficile, ma individuare i segnali di gradimento di un ragazzo autistico può sembrare una missione impossibile.
Le persone sul spettro autistico are quite unique and often don’t behave the same as neurotipico persone. Questo è particolarmente vero quando si tratta di spunti sociali, linguaggio del corpo, espressioni faccialie altri manierismi.
With all this in mind, it’s no wonder that you’re having a hard time getting to the bottom of an autistic man’s intentions. Luckily, I’m here to help you out.
15 segni di simpatia per un ragazzo autistico
If a man with autism spectrum disorder behaves like this, one thing is for sure, he’s crazy about you:
1. He’ll become extra nervous
When you like someone, and you’re not sure whether ti ricambianoarrossite o vi tremano le mani. Questo è perfettamente normale per tutti. Tuttavia, questa sensazione di nervosismo si intensifica nelle persone autistiche (e in quelle con ADHD e Asperger).
Tenete presente che non hanno abilità sociali, il che significa che incontri con persone is not something they’re necessarily good at. Therefore, for this guy, being around his crush means stepping out of his comfort zone.
If you observe this man carefully, you’ll see that he gets extra nervous the moment you walk into the room. He gets all sweaty, has no clue what to do with his hands, and becomes tongue-tied.
La cosa più importante a cui prestare attenzione è il suo stimolo e i suoi movimenti ripetitivi. Potrebbe picchiettare, far oscillare le braccia o le gambe o muovere la testa avanti e indietro.
2. Evitare il contatto visivo
Let’s make one thing clear: not all people who display signs of autism have the same autistic traits. After all, autism is a spectrum, and it can be displayed in different ways.
It’s quite possible your autistic guy will avoid looking at you at all costs, despite having a huge crush on you. You try to maintain eye contact and give him a hint that you’re into him. However, every time you do that, he looks away in panic.
Naturally, you think that you’re doing something wrong. It’s not that he’s just not that into you – that he can’t stand looking at you – and that’s how much he doesn’t like you.
Well, I’m here to brighten your day and tell you that this doesn’t have to be anywhere near the truth. On the contrary, he is probably only panicking because he likes you so much. Merely looking at you triggers his anxiety, and that’s why he evita il contatto visivo con voi.
3. …or he will awkwardly stare at you
D'altro canto, potreste avere a che fare con un ragazzo autistico che si limita a fissarvi in modo imbarazzante e a usare contatto visivo prolungato all the time. No, he doesn’t check you out the way neurotypicals usually do.
He doesn’t say a single word, look at your lips, or smile. Whenever you run into him, he just stares at you as if he were surprised to see you.
If this is the case, it’s one of the clearest signs of his feelings for you. This man is so crazy about you that he becomes absolutely lost when you’re around.
Il suo cervello si blocca letteralmente. Vorrebbe dirvi qualcosa, ma le parole non gli escono di bocca. E proprio così, l'opportunità svanisce. Fino alla prossima volta che vi vedrà e, ancora una volta, vi fisserà.
4. He’ll ask for your opinion
Se un ragazzo autistico vi vede come partner per una relazione romantica, significa che his attraction to you is much more than purely physical. Don’t get me wrong, he’s attracted to your looks, but there is something deeper in his emotions.
He appreciates your intellect, attitude, and opinions and thinks of you as wise and intelligent in general. That is why he’ll frequently ask for your advice: because he values your thought process.
In the beginning, this could be a piece of advice on the most random and seemingly unimportant thing. But trust me, they’re important to him. This way, he’s assessing you and trying to figure out if you can be trusted.
Once he starts listening to your advice, you’re in his heart forever. Believe me when I tell you that this is a privilege not many people get.
5. He’ll offer you his help
The best part is that this guy is anything but selfish. Yes, he’ll ask for your advice or help, but at the same time, he’ll offer you his genuine support whenever you need it.
Before he actually helps you, he’ll probably ask if you need a hand. Typically, you’ll respond that you’re okay doing it yourself – not because you don’t need help but because you think it’s polite and because you don’t want to bother anyone else.
However, things don’t work that way with people who possess autistic traits. Devi essere in anticipo with him and admit that you need help. Otherwise, he’ll beat himself up for even asking.
But I have to warn you not to take advantage of his kindness. Just because he offers to give you a lift, help you move, or do another act of service doesn’t mean that you should use him as a personal assistant.
If you don’t like him back, just thank him for his kind offer and carry on with your day!
6. He’s overprotective of you
This guy is hypersensitive – you just fail to see it. If he likes you, he wants you to be happy all the time. He can’t stand the idea of something bad happening to you, and he is ready to protect you at all costs.
Yes, the truth is that, sometimes, he might even become overprotective. But trust me, he is behaving like this because he loves you. Congratulations, you’ve ha scatenato il suo istinto di eroe.
È pronto a combattere contro chiunque la guardi male, per non parlare di qualcosa di più. Questo include anche i suoi amici e le persone a cui tiene.
7. Rispecchiare il linguaggio del corpo
Le persone nello spettro autistico hanno difficoltà ad esprimere le proprie emozioni e i propri pensieri attraverso linguaggio del corpo. Preferiscono sempre la comunicazione diretta rispetto agli indizi non verbali.
In sostanza, il vostro uomo è abbastanza consapevole di questo. È ansioso che le altre persone, soprattutto voi, considerino il suo linguaggio del corpo imbarazzante e inopportuno.
Alla fine della giornata, non ha idea di cosa ci si aspetti da lui. Cosa deve fare con le mani e le gambe? Dovrebbe ridere? Era un commento sarcastico o qualcuno ha davvero cercato di offenderlo? Deve arrossire quando riceve un complimento? Va bene se si tocca i capelli così tante volte?
All of these things come naturally to you, and you don’t even give them a second thought. However, he has to think before making the smallest gesture.
So, in order not to chase you away with his “weirdness,” he decides to mirror your body language. Keep in mind that this is something neurotypical people do as well when they’re into someone.
But autistic people do it in a more obvious way. If you laugh, he’ll laugh. If you frown, he’ll frown, and so on.
8. Presta attenzione alle piccole cose
Uno dei tratti comuni delle persone con autismo è l'attenzione ai dettagli. Il vostro autistico noterà ogni piccola cosa di ciò che lo circonda e delle persone che lo circondano. Se si comporta così con le persone per cui non prova nulla, immaginate quanto sia attento quando si tratta dell'oggetto del suo affetto.
Questo è un uomo che non dimentica mai il vostro compleanno, che si accorge quando vi tagliate i capelli e che sa esattamente quale tipo di profumo indossate in quale occasione sociale. Non gli avete mai parlato del vostro gruppo musicale o del vostro attore preferito, ma lui l'ha visto su social media e ricordato.
No, he’s not some kind of stalker. He just wants to know more about your special interests. After all, isn’t this the way every guy who courts a girl should behave?
At first, you’ll probably be shocked by the amount of information he has on you. But if you’re smart, you’ll see it as the biggest compliment a woman can get.
9. He’s a great listener
If you ask his friends their favorite thing about this guy, they’ll all tell you that he is an amazing listener. And that really is the truth.
He is always there for others to offer them a shoulder to cry on, to give them advice, or just to hear them out. So you can only imagine how much he listens to you – the woman he is crazy about.
This man is anything but self-centered. He won’t have trouble talking about himself if asked and if he sees that you genuinely care.
In the meantime, he’ll only listen to what you have to say. Don’t worry, he doesn’t find you boring. On the contrary, he enjoys getting the chance to find out more about you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re having friend problems, if something is going on with your family, or if you’re just worried about work. It’s enough for you to call him, and he’ll be right there to hear you out. I’m only begging you not to talk about your boyfriend problems with this amazing guy because that would break his heart.
10. Si spinge fuori dalla sua zona di comfort
Social events and social interactions, in general, are this guy’s biggest nightmare. He doesn’t see the point in small talk or hanging out with his coworkers during lunch break.
However, all of this changes when it comes to you. Let’s say that you two work together. Your company has an upcoming teambuilding exercise in a few days. I can assure you that he didn’t even think of attending before finding out that you would be there.
In quel momento tutto è cambiato. Improvvisamente, è pronto ad affrontare la sua ansia sociale e a impegnarsi in interazioni sociali solo per poter stare vicino a voi.
The same goes for clubbing or doing other things he’s not comfortable with. This man is literally sacrificing his inner peace to spend time with you. He’s pushing himself out of his comfort zone, and trust me, he would never do something like that if he weren’t really into you.
11. Gli piace passare del tempo con voi
One of the biggest signs an autistic guy likes you lies in the fact that he adores spending time with you. You mustn’t forget that we’re talking about people who cherish their alone time over everything else. Usually, he enjoys being in his inner world, alone with his thoughts, and is quite a loner.
Tuttavia, tutto questo è cambiato quando sei entrato in scena tu. All'improvviso, siete diventati la sua persona preferita e ha capito che preferiva stare con voi piuttosto che stare da solo.
It doesn’t really matter what you two are doing as long as you’re together. For him, it’s enough just to sit with you in silence, peacefully, and he’ll be the happiest guy in the world. Your presence is what matters!
12. He texts you… A LOT
Okay, I’ll be honest with you: people with disturbo dello spettro autistico are terrible texters. No, your guy is not bad at texting in the sense of being a dry texter. On the contrary, he doesn’t know when to stop.
Uno dei primi segnali di un il ragazzo è interessato a te sono i messaggi di testo che continuate a ricevere. Un uomo neurotipico vi invierà un mucchio di messaggi di testo durante il giorno semplicemente perché ha l'impulso incontrollabile di mettersi in contatto con voi.
Tuttavia, un ragazzo autistico si fa in quattro per mandare messaggi. Sentirà il bisogno di condividere con voi ogni dettaglio della sua giornata, di inviarvi meme divertenti e di parlarvi di ogni argomento casuale che gli venga in mente.
He won’t take the hint. Even if you don’t respond, he’ll keep on texting you.
Ma anche se vi annoia, provate a vederlo da un'altra prospettiva. Questo è il suo modo di dimostrarvi quanto siete importanti per lui e quanto gli piaci.
13. Ti fa entrare
Uno dei segni più evidenti della simpatia di un ragazzo autistico è che vi dà accesso al suo piccolo mondo. Indisponibilità emotiva e la distanza sono tratti comuni alle persone con un disturbo dello spettro autistico.
Pertanto, quest'uomo di solito fa molta fatica ad aprirsi sinceramente con qualcuno. Ha una piccola cerchia di amici con cui passa il tempo e con cui parla. Per quanto riguarda tutti gli altri, costruisce intorno a sé mura spesse e alte, in modo che nessuno possa entrare nel suo cuore o nella sua mente.
Ma in qualche modo, you managed to break in. He shares everything with you and doesn’t hesitate to answer your domande profonde. Vi parla dei suoi traumi, delle sue paure, dei suoi sogni e delle sue aspirazioni e vi dà pieno accesso alla sua vita privata.
Se è così, dovreste sentirvi davvero speciali.
14. Vi chiede direttamente un appuntamento
We’ve already established one thing: people with autism are bad with social cues, and they’re not pros at dating people. Your guy is perfectly aware of that.
Quindi, invece di torturarvi entrambi, he might directly ask you out on a date. And he’ll put a label on it right away – he wants to take you out on a primo appuntamento che potrebbe essere l'inizio di un potenziale relazione romantica.
He won’t try masking it and asking you to hang out with his friends or suggest a casual get-together. You’ll know it’s a date from the very first moment.
At first, you might find this unusual, especially if you didn’t see the signs an autistic guy likes you. However, if you think about it, it’s actually the best way to start something new.
15. Ti dice che gli piaci
Se il vostro amico autistico o un collega è interessato a te, don’t be surprised if they just approach you and tell you how they feel. Yes, it will be out of the blue because they never showed any hints of attraction toward you. But that’s simply how most autistic people work.
Instead of laughing it off, appreciate his courage. I mean, most neurotypical guys wouldn’t have the courage to talk to you upfront while wearing their hearts on their sleeves.
So, if you like him back (and I suppose you do – otherwise, you wouldn’t be here), don’t play hard to get. This will probably be your first impulse because you don’t want him to think of you as desperate.
Nevertheless, if you hesitate, you’ll chase him away. Just accept his invitation as openly as he gave it to you.
Come fanno gli uomini autistici a dimostrare amore?
Una cosa è certa: persone sul spettro autistico mostrare l'amore in un modo piuttosto insolito. Il segno più forte del loro amore è lasciarvi entrare nel loro spazio personale.
People with ASD have strong boundaries, and if they don’t consider you extremely important, they’ll never give you a free pass into their inner world. On the other hand, if an autistic guy loves you, he’ll want to share all of his interests with you, even the ones he considers awkward.
Maybe he won’t outright say, “Ti amo,” but he’ll definitely perform some acts of service because this is their linguaggio dell'amore. Spesso si tratta di piccoli favori, come riordinare la stanza, buttare la spazzatura, versare da bere o cucinare il vostro cibo preferito.
Come si fa a piacere a un uomo autistico?
The biggest problem with getting an aspie to like you is that they’re terrible at taking hints. This guy is not likely to read your non-verbal clues and realize you’re into him.
Per questo motivo dovete essere il più possibile dirette quando vi rivolgete a lui. Siate dirette e ditegli che vi piace in modo romantico. Ditegli che sperate di diventare la sua ragazza.
Quando si effettua il prima mossa (o almeno fare qualcosa per aiutarlo a fare la prima mossa), he’ll start seeing you as a potential romantic interest. Until then, he’ll probably never think of you in that way.
Another way to get him to like you is to show interest in the things he’s interested in. However, you have to be extra careful while doing this because he might see it as an invasion of his personal space. That is why you have to find the perfect balance between showing him that you want to enter his world while respecting his boundaries.
Come flirtano le persone autistiche?
La maggior parte delle persone con ASD testimonierà che they’re completely unfamiliar with the concept of flirting. While neurotypical people usually flirt without even being aware of what they’re doing exactly, spontaneous flirting is nearly impossible for people with ADHD or ASD. They simply don’t feel the need to flirt.
Tuttavia, quando si avvicinano a qualcuno, di solito lo fanno attraverso social media. It’s easier for them to initiate contact outside live interazioni sociali.
Quindi, se si ottiene il la frase di rimorchio più strana from your autistic friend or coworker, know that they’re actually doing their best to flirt with you.
Per concludere:
Vedere i segnali che piacciono a un ragazzo autistico non è l'unica garanzia che voi due cavalcherete insieme verso il tramonto del vostro lieto fine. Devo avvertirvi: uscire con un ragazzo autistico è piuttosto impegnativo.
You’ll have to learn his love language, adapt to his social skills and special interests, get used to his touch sensitivity and sense of humor, and put in a lot of effort before figuring him out and learning how to deal with him.
What I am trying to ask you is to think things through before engaging in any kind of relationship with him. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that he’s not worthy of your love. On the contrary, he definitely is.
I’m just asking you not to give him any false hope if you’re not certain that you have what it takes to go through with this relationship. Don’t make him think that his feelings are reciprocated if you’ll break his heart along the way.
Trust me, he’s the last person who deserves that. If you do, you’ll be responsible for the emotional meltdown that comes afterward.
On the other hand, if you decide to jump into this adventure, I promise you that you’ll have the time of your life. You’ll feel more loved and respected than ever.
