Una lettera alla donna che sente di non poter mai andare avanti

Cara ragazza dal cuore spezzato,

I know how you feel. I’m familiar with the torture of never-ending cycles of pain and crying myself to sleep.

Una volta ero come voi e voglio dirvelo: Passerà. Sembra improbabile ora, ma passerà.

Breakups sometimes feel like they’re the end of the world and, in a way, they are. The world you patiently built with another person has just crumbled down like it never existed.

You are hurt beyond words and nothing makes sense anymore. It feels like part of you is missing; you’re either in great pain or totally numb.

You’re experiencing the darkest time of your life and you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. But it’s there.

Before you’re able to move on, first you need to heal. Your trust has been broken, you have been emotionally hurt and used, you’re not sure who you are anymore.

Avete bisogno di guarire e la guarigione richiede tempo.

It’s important for you to not be hard on yourself. You need to let yourself feel what you need to feel: grief, anger, sadness… It’s all part of the healing process.

Don’t hold in emotions, because that’s going to have the opposite effect. A lot of our suppressed emotions come back to us in even uglier ways.

If you need to cry curled up in your bed – do it. If you need to punch something to release anger – do it. Just don’t suppress.

Talk with your friends. It’s easy to spiral down into isolation and depression, that’s why you need support and comfort from your friends. Trust me, they will be happy to help you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Be gentle with yourself. Don’t blame yourself for anything. You can’t control things that are not meant to be, no matter what your overthinking brain says.

The only thing you can control is how you respond to the situation. It’s hard to be fully rational, but it’s possible.

Maybe you feel like you lost a battle and will never get up. That’s not true. It’s just a temporary feeling.

You didn’t lose. In fact, the reality is you’re still adal vivo e voi volontà alzarsi. Questo vi renderà più forti.

People don’t get stronger by thinking happy thoughts, they get stronger through the pain. The process is hard, but the result is always worth it.

Vi libererete dal dolore e l'unica cosa che rimarrà sarà una persona ancora più sicura di sé e pronta per la vita.

Don’t underestimate yourself, ever. You are capable of everything you put your mind to. You will feel it every time you decide to spingere in avantianche solo un po', in ogni situazione difficile che vi trovate ad affrontare.

Your heart is whole, it just feels broken now. It has cracks, but it hasn’t collapsed.

Trust me, you won’t remain single forever or be scared to love. Nothing is meant to last forever and nothing is doomed.

Happiness is always found in the most unexpected ways. Don’t stop giving yourself the chance to find your own.
Dopo questo pasticcio, conoscerete voi stessi meglio che mai.

Knowing yourself will make you more aware and intuitive – when the right man comes your way, you will recognize him.

But before that, know that you will heal yourself. You don’t need anyone else to heal you.

Il vostro potere è dentro di voi. Sarete di nuovo fiduciosi. Tornerete a sorridere. Ve lo prometto.

You will get what you deserve because you’re enough as you are. Everyone has a different life story and everyone needs to go through hardships to find their own light.

Don’t give up. Don’t let sadness overwhelm you. Choose to fight. Choose yourself.

Lasciate che la vostra luce vi guidi e voi volontà andare avanti.