Lately, I’ve been wondering a lot about what makes a good man. What is it about him that distinguishes him from all those others male specimens? Does he look a certain way or act a certain way? Is there is anything that can help determine his qualities in time, so that we can just not waste our time anymore?
I’ve come to the conclusion than any good man who respects and cherishes his partner will indeed have certain traits that make him stand out from others. It’s not all too often that one can find all these characteristics in one person, so if and when you do, hold onto him. These men don’t come around often enough, and this is how you’ll recognize one.
1. A good man will never invade your personal space.
In any healthy, stable relationship there is absolutely no reason to hide anything. So, in case you leave your phone at home and leave the house, you know that your man will not be tempted to snoop through it. An insecure man who believes you are hiding something will not hesitate to take this opportunity, but a good man won’t feel the need to. He trusts you, and there is no reason to invade your privacy.
2. A good man will never dishearten you.
Only an insecure, immature man would ever make you doubt yourself, therefore projecting his own insecurities on you. But a good man is confident and sure of himself, and is therefore very encouraging of you and all your endeavors. He will support you fully, and you will never have to wonder what his honest intentions are because he offers you his support on a silver platter.
3. A good man will never make you prove your value to him.
A good, kind and decent man knows and appreciates your value. No question about it. If at any moment you feel like you need to prove your worth to the person you are spending your life with, that is the exact moment when it is time for you to walk away. Your partner is the person who needs to understand your value and never make you feel lesser than you are. A good man never will.
4. A good man will never make you feel like you are not a priority.
Granted, we are all individuals, and we all have our own lives aside from our relationship. But, every healthy couple finds that good balance between spending time together (which is extremely important) and spending time with other people in our lives we care about.
And a good man will never make you feel like less of a priority and go off for days somewhere without discussing it with you. It is important to never lose yourself in your relationship, yes, but it is also important to keep your partner updated on all your ideas and adventures, to make her feel like she is important enough to know and have a say in it. Because she is, and she does. And a good man knows that. Communication is key.
5. A good man will never make you feel like you are in this thing alone.
Relationships are partnerships. They are supposed to better your life and make it easier for you never to have to go through anything alone. There are always going to be rough patches, difficult situations to overcome and times you will be hard to love and find it hard to love him.
But, through it all , you need to know that, regardless of what you are going through, you two are a unit, and you are on the same side. Always.
A good man will never make you feel like you are alone, as he knows that it’s not always going to be easy, but he is always going to be there and keep proving to you that you two have what it takes and that you have found yourself a keeper in him— keeper who is never going to stop fighting for you and proving his love. And that is all you really need in life.