What you think and how you feel about yourself dictates your life. Levels of confidence and self-love (or lack of the same) determine the relationship you have with yourself as well as with other people. And they are something you have to work on and build.
Imagine how much easier your life would be if you had enough confidence not to care what other people think of you and just do your thing. If you stopped overthinking things and accepted life as it comes with its ups and downs. When you love yourself and accept yourself for who you are, things get easier. Self-love gives you an inner peace that will be the most valuable thing you will ever possess.
Your love life will improve. The opposite sex will pick up on a new vibe of self-love and confidence you have within you. Your outlook on the world will change—you will be radiant and easy to talk to. You won’t make problems where there are none and drama won’t be a part of your life. This will improve all your relationships, not just your love life.
If your confidence is getting low and your self-love is not so easy to detect these days, there are some ways in which you can improve things:
1. Surround yourself with positive people and avoid the toxic ones.
We are really unaware of how our surroundings can influence our self-image. If we are surrounded by toxic people who are always telling us we can’t do something, that we are not good enough, that we are incompetent, eventually, we will start to believe them. What we have to understand is that they are projecting their low self-esteem onto us. If we surround ourselves with positive people, our self-image will improve
2. Stop chasing perfection.
Acknowledge that there is no such thing as perfection. Don’t expect it from anybody and don’t expect it from yourself. Go easy on yourself—everything you say and do doesn’t have to be flawless. All people are flawed. The important thing is that you stay true to yourself. To accept yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.
3. Don’t compare yourself to others.
We are all completely different individuals, so it makes no sense to make comparisons. Just because someone is good at one thing doesn’t make him an expert in the thing you are good at. For instance, if somebody is a great accountant, it doesn’t automatically make him a good cook. We all have our own thing that’s incomparable with others. So, the only one you should compare yourself to is you. Always strive to be better and do better than you did yesterday. You should be your own challenger.
4. Think about your strong points.
You must have them even if you are unable to see them at first. Life gets better when you concentrate on the positive. Maybe your surroundings are clouding your judgment. If you are unable to find some, a good friend can show you what your strong points are to put you at ease.
5. Embrace the good and the bad that life throws at you.
When you go through so many bad things in life, you are bound to concentrate on them. So even when the good days arrive, you are unable to enjoy them because you are still recovering from the bad ones. All the good and all the bad are parts of life. The bad is there to teach you a lesson so you could appreciate the good more. It’s inevitable to go through both.
6. Your circumstances don’t define you.
Your rough patches are not you. Your tears are not you. Your tough and complicated life is not you. These are all circumstances you have no control over. What you do have control over are your thoughts and the way you choose to see yourself. All the hardships of life made you stronger. All the tears made your eyes more beautiful and your smile more genuine. You are more powerful than you think. Don’t let the circumstances bring you down. We all get as much as we can handle. Never doubt yourself.
7. Motivate yourself.
Remember why you want to build your confidence and discover self-love. You must have your own reasons. Write them down. Write down your goals. Write down some words that inspire you. When you see it all in black and white it will be easier to achieve. Never give up on yourself. You deserve to be loved but you have to start by loving yourself.