Dear Me,

I know you worry excessively about everything. I know that sometimes you feel like everything is too much, like you can’t take it anymore. I know that there are times when you just want to give up.

And I know you give yourself to people way beyond what you should—especially since most of those people end up hurting you. You feel like you give them everything and you get nothing in return.

Every boy you ever loved has brought you nothing but pain. They have used you, taken advantage of you and manipulated you. Every one of them has put you through hell. They’ve made you feel insecure and unlovable.

Your friends have betrayed you multiple times. All of them expected you to be by their sides all the time, but when you needed them—you were always alone.

And you ask yourself what you’ve done to deserve all of that. You’d like to change, but you just don’t know how. You are simply too sensitive and you don’t know how to say “NO” to someone in need.

All of this has made you feel stressed out and anxious. It has made you depressed, like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. You want to believe in the good in people, but you are simply scared. You feel like things will stay like this forever, like you’ll feel like this for the rest of your life.

But, I am here to tell you that you can’t be more wrong.

You know, life is not a fairy-tale. And it won’t ever be. You’ll always have problems and dark periods. And that is something you won’t have much impact on. Simply, there are life circumstances that are out of your reach. But, what you can do is choose how to let those circumstances affect you. I know you think it is impossible now, but trust me—with time, you’ll learn to stay indifferent to some things and people.

You’ll learn not to trust everyone that comes in your life. But, that won’t make you a bitter and negative person. It will just make you understand that sometimes, you can only rely on yourself. And that won’t cause you to be lonely or desperate. Instead, it will create a stronger you, much stronger than everything that’s bringing you down.

With time, you’ll learn to recognize who is worthy of your time and energy and who is not. You’ll learn who the people who deserve the place in your life are and who are the ones you need to kick out immediately. You’ll learn to cut toxic people out of your life, no matter how important you think they are. And no—you won’t feel guilty for doing so because you’ll know it’s for your own good.

You’ll learn to recognize the guys who deserve your presence and those who don’t. The guys who are loyal and players. Of course, that won’t happen overnight. Throughout the years, different types of guys will come across your way. And some of them will hurt you and some will make you happy. Some will make you feel you’ve hit the stars and some of them will make you feel like the saddest person alive. But, eventually you’ll know to differentiate the right ones from the wrong ones. And you’ll realize that even the wrong ones were just tough lessons.

You’ll grow to understand that there are some people who are simply not meant to be in your life. And that sometimes love is just not enough, no matter how hard you want it to be. You’ll have to learn to let go, even when you don’t want to.

But, most importantly, you’ll learn to be your own biggest priority. You’ll learn that nobody is worthy of you feeling bad about yourself and that nobody is worthy of your emotional pain. You’ll learn not to get upset about other people’s opinions. You’ll learn to value yourself over everyone else. And you’ll grow to be your own best friend.

Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean you’ll become a selfish person who doesn’t believe in love and who doesn’t trust anyone. No, you’ll always keep the piece of your old self deep inside you. But, you’ll learn to fight for that girl which you were. You’ll become stronger than you thought you’d ever be.

Because you’ll learn that you are the only one that can make yourself happy.

So, trust me—everything is going to be alright. I know you don’t think this way now and you probably think that everything you’ve just read is a bunch of clichés and empty phrases. But, just be patient and hold tight.

I should know. I was you, remember?