How have you been lately? Even if you pretend that you are okay, I know that your world is falling apart and I also know that it happens because of different problems that come without invitation in your life. I know that you are trying to look good in front of the people but when I look a little bit deeper into your eyes, I can see all the sorrow that has been haunting you all this time.
I am not near enough to give you the warmest hug and kiss but that doesn’t mean I can’t comfort you with my words because even if we are miles apart, we are close in our pain. I just want you to know that it will pass and that you need to hang in there. You don’t need to do that because others can see how strong you are. You need to do that for yourself only. You need to accept that life is full of shit and that things like this will happen. And it doesn’t get better when time passes. You just learn how to deal with it.
There will be times when you will feel like you are less than you actually are. There will be time when friends will betray you and when your loved one will turn out to be not the right one in the end. And that is more than okay because how else could we learn to be strong if we don’t go through various problems? Things like this need to happen to make you stronger, to show you that you are so strong and that you will fight for yourself when you feel danger coming. So, don’t be desperate.
Don’t cry and ask God why He is doing all that to you. Just remember that the teacher always remains silent during the test. Consider this to be just one more test, one experience that you need to go through in order to make yourself complete. Because nobody is complete just because they went through some good things. You are complete once you experience both good and bad things and you still firmly stand on your feet. You get complete once you refuse to go with the flow and when you fight for your rights, telling people all that is on your mind no matter if they will get along with that.
You get complete when you are faithful to yourself, your feelings and your emotions. And that is what you need to strive to.
So, next time he hurts you, just let him go because it is better to see in time that he is not the right one. When your friends betray you, don’t fight with them, telling them that you are desperate and broken, but go outside into the world and find a new, real friend. When people disappoint you, just get over it because holding onto grudges is simply not your cup of tea.
You are much more than that. You are above your problems and you just need to believe in that. You just need to believe in yourself. So, I want you to do one things right now: Just put your hand on your heart—what do you feel? Is it still beating? Hell yeah! Because that heart won’t be broken simply like that. Your heart can endure so much more than a shitty boyfriend and dishonest people around you. So, baby, please don’t fall apart because of someone who doesn’t deserve that. And the one who deserves it will never do any harm to you.
And when you feel that you can’t take it anymore, do anything to release the stress. Scream. Cry. Get drunk. Destroy things. But let all the pain and anger go out. If you just keep your mouth shut to all the mocking and insulting, you will explode one day. You won’t be able to take all that shit anymore and you will just break. So, please don’t let that happen to you. Don’t let be broken into pieces so small that they couldn’t be glued together anymore. You have a choice, so choose smart. This is your life and you can affect most of the things that come to your life.
So, never, ever surrender or fall apart because of something that can be solved with just a little bit of effort. Don’t give up on all the good things that life gives you just because you have been sad about those bad ones. The sooner you accept a life like that, it will be easier for you. So, put your head up, put a smile on your face and walk proudly in this world. Because baby, you deserve it. And nothing less than that!
The one who has been there
I started writing just as a hobby, but in the end, I decided that it is something that fulfills me. I find inspiration in life’s everyday problems and every article that I write tells something about my past. In this way, I want to tell women all around the world that even though we are miles away, our pain makes us close. My articles were written to comfort those who need it the most and to tell them that they are not alone. I am a full-time mom, and I like spending time with my son, good people, sunny days and beer.