Vibes don’t lie. When you get that intricate feeling that your feelings toward a person are not being reciprocated (even though you’re not 100% sure), never ignore them.
Your gut feeling is here to warn you about the red flags you’d normally brush off to help you not waste time by finally seeing the signs that some people don’t like you!
Have you been having a hard time connecting with certain people around you, to the point of even small talk being difficult?
Have you started noticing some body language signs (in this case, negative body language signs) that those around you are avoiding you?
In order to be sure that it’s time to let go of a certain person (or even certain people), you need to first be sure that the telltale signs you’ve been noticing are in fact there. And that is where I come in.
Look, there’s no sugarcoating this. When someone doesn’t want to spend time with you, you’ll simply feel it and see it.
Even if this is someone you’ve known since high school and you were sure they were the kind of person who’d stay by your side.
People leave, feelings get hurt, and life goes on. Some people just don’t deserve to have a place in your heart and it’s better to realize this now and avoid staying around them for the wrong reasons.
The last thing you need is a fake friend who keeps making you feel unwanted.
Since some people don’t have the decency to have a conversation with you and explain how they feel in person, it’s up to you to figure out how they truly feel about you.
It really sucks being and feeling left out. I’ve been there and I’m sure so many people have been in the same boat.
But for your own sake, it’s time to let go of those unworthy people and focus on those who give your life meaning.
How Do You Know When People Don’t Like You?
It sucks to admit this to yourself, but you’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Even your oldest friend might come with an expiration date.
Sometimes, friendships come to their natural end, and as hard and heartbreaking it is to admit it, life goes on!
Real friends remain with you even through your bad days – especially then!
They don’t have a hard time keeping eye contact when you’re going through a rough patch and they never shatter your self-esteem.
They don’t put you on blast on social media and they never let things feel awkward between you two.
Real friends always invite you to happy hour and call you first after a fight (texting is also okay) because they consider your friendship a big deal!
But if there are no positive signs and you haven’t really been successful in maintaining a healthy relationship with them for a while, it’s time to reevaluate their place in your world.
Letting go of people who have been a vital component of the story of your life is heartbreaking, shocking, beyond sad, and weird to say the least.
Having to get used to not being around someone you used to go to for everything is the worst reality check ever.
Human beings are complicated and flawed, but that doesn’t give them an excuse to ice you out and ghost you. Your feelings matter.
So the next time you start making excuses for someone who’s been very cold and aloof in your presence, think twice about who this person is.
In this article, I’ll point out to the biggest telltale signs of someone not liking you.
I’ll explain all the red flags behind someone’s sketchy behavior and help you understand whether it’s time to let go of someone who has already let go of you.
Chances are you’ve already picked up on some of the signs that things have taken a turn for the worse, otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article.
What you need right now are two things: assurance and acceptance.
My advice is to always be alert. Observe their body language and pay attention to the vibes they’re sending out.
You’ll feel it all yourself. But to help you determine if this is, in fact, the case, here are some definite signs that someone doesn’t like you.
10 Telltale Signs People Don’t Like You
Let’s start dissecting your relationships with those around you and help you weed out toxic individuals who have already decided that you’re not good enough for them but don’t have the balls to tell you in person.
If you have any qualms about who likes you and which people don’t (even though you’re fond of them), here’s your reassurance once and for all.
People who manifest these signs in your company, unfortunately, don’t like you:
1. They shut you off with their negative body language
A person’s body language will tell you a lot without them even realizing it.
When you’re drawn to a person, you’re more likely to stand in close proximity to them, lean in, and maintain eye contact because you’re intrigued by what they have to say.
That’s what experts call positive body language.
On the other hand, if a person has decided to shut you off, their negative body language will instantly give them away.
It’s challenging and against one’s nature to act opposite of how they feel, so you can always count on body language to relay the message loud and clear. Here are some examples of negative body language:
– Their arms and legs are always crossed when they’re around you.
– They aren’t able to maintain eye contact with you for longer than two seconds.
– They physically turn away from you (perhaps even totally subconsciously).
– They use their bag or any other accessory to hide away from you.
– Looking anywhere but in your direction (oftentimes looking down).
These are some of the most common red flags their body language will showcase that clearly let you know that something’s not right.
If this is the case, more often than not, it’s time to either ask them openly about it or simply accept that things are never going to be the way they used to be.
2. They fake a smile around you
A smile is the body’s natural and genuine reaction to someone who makes you feel welcome and pleasant.
An honest smile includes the muscles around your eyes (called orbicularis oculi) and you can tell when it’s genuine because their eyes will be engaged too.
But a fake smile is a completely different thing. You can tell it’s not genuine simply by looking them in the eye.
If the muscles around their eyes are disengaged and their mouth is the only thing moving, they’re fake smiling at you.
This is a telltale sign of a person who doesn’t like you. And yes, it is a big deal. If someone you consider a friend cannot offer you a genuine smile, who will?
We all have our bad days that make us fake a smile when we’re not able to offer a real one (due to our own personal issues) but if this isn’t a one-off, then you know you have a problem.
3. Things just feel awkward and the vibe is off
The vibe is no longer the same. Being around this person feels forced, unpleasant, and just wrong.
It never used to feel this way, but now, things feel all shades of awkward.
When you’re around genuine people who enjoy your company and encourage you to be open around them, you feel it in your gut.
There are so many positive signs about them and you never have a hard time keeping the conversation going.
But when people don’t like you, they’ll make the environment feel like real torture. Just being in their presence won’t feel right.
Small talk will be short and forced and a lot of time you’ll be the only one initiating the conversation.
Awkwardness and unpleasantness are never signs of a healthy relationship – quite the opposite.
If you’re no longer feeling the vibe, there’s something shady going on and for whatever reason, this person doesn’t like you anymore.
4. Your conversations are short and devoid of emotion
When people like you, the conversation feels like a breeze that could go on for ages.
But when they don’t, they are short with you and the conversation is quick and devoid of any sentiment.
You’ll ask them about how their weekend went and they’ll say ”It was fun.” You’ll ask if everything’s okay and they’ll reply with ”Yeah, it’s all good.” You get the gist.
Nothing’s really okay and things are clearly not how they used to be, but you’ll have to be happy with their short, clipped replies.
When people don’t like you, they are short with you and make the conversation end as quickly as possible.
They always have somewhere to be or another call to take (but not really).
They just don’t have time for you, so they offer a one-syllable answer at best and they’re on their way.
5. Lack of physical touch
When people don’t like you, they hold off on all touchy-feely stuff.
They don’t ever get physically close enough to tap your shoulder, give you a fist bump or a high five. They try to minimize physical touch as much as they can.
It doesn’t matter if this is a romantic partner or a close friend. In all cases, these telltale signs are valid.
People who enjoy your company and feel comfortable around you will touch you at some point. Touch is how people maintain social stability.
But when there’s a palpable lack of physical touch from a person who used to be very touchy-feely with you, that’s a sign that they’re not interested in nurturing any type of healthy relationship with you.
Pay attention to this when you’re around certain people and you’ll notice what I’m talking about.
No touching whatsoever points out to an expired relationship devoid of any type of connection.
6. They no longer make plans with you
Are you the only one texting them to make plans? Can you remember the last time this person (or people) made plans and invited you?
If this is all vague and you can’t seem to remember the last time they were the ones to initiate plans, that’s a red flag.
Sure, you’ll have a good time when you’re all out together (or just the two of you), but if it always has to be initiated by you, start thinking if you’d ever see them unless you asked first.
This will tell you everything you need to know. When they don’t make any type of effort to maintain your friendship (or whichever type of relationship), that’s a bad and not-so-subtle sign.
Friendships and relationships take two people in order to stay alive.
If one person keeps giving and the other one keeps staying passive, you know what the deal is, you’re just too scared to admit it to yourself.
7. Your communication is at an all-time low
Texting and calling used to be a regular thing for you two, but now, it’s come down to a bare minimum.
They don’t really text you anymore unless they need something from you.
They have completely stopped calling. If you’re being honest, your communication is virtually non-existent.
If you didn’t text them every now and again to check up on them or make plans (as stated above) you’d never hear from them.
You used to have the best and longest conversations about anything and everything, but now… They don’t even ask how you are.
I don’t know who this person is, but I do know one thing. People make time for who they want to make time for.
Even the busiest individuals will make sure to check up on someone they care about for 5 minutes.
If they don’t, it’s because they don’t care. But you don’t need people who don’t make time for you.
For me, it’s better to know now than to keep faking a relationship whose flame has withered a long time ago.
8. They often disappoint you
They don’t seem to care about your feelings. They often bail on your last-minute and don’t even have a convincing excuse.
They don’t give a shit how it makes you feel and you end up disappointed on a regular basis.
People who like you will always make sure to respect you and your time.
They’ll avoid bailing on you to the best of their ability and if something comes up, they’ll always make up for it later.
But people who don’t like you won’t even try to sound like they’re sorry.
They’ll just be ”Sorry, something unexpected came up so I won’t be able to come.” and that’s it! No explanation and no promise to reschedule.
People who disappoint you more often than they make you happy aren’t good people to be around.
As painful as it is, it’s time to stand your ground and tell them how shitty they’ve been and end it once and for all.
It’ll hurt for a second but then it’ll feel like so much weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
9. They never listen to you
How do you know that someone doesn’t like you? When they don’t even pretend to listen when you’re talking.
Be it in a group of people or one-on-one, they just don’t listen. When you care for someone, you’ll be engaged in the conversation even if the topic doesn’t interest you one bit.
Heck, people who love you will remember the smallest, seemingly irrelevant details about you simply because it’s in their nature to listen to you and ask for your thoughts and opinions. You listen to people you care about!
A person who loves you and values your input will never turn their back on you, no matter what.
But those people who can’t even pretend to be fazed by what you’re saying are huge red flags all by themselves.
Nurture relationships with people who make it easy to keep a conversation going. When you feel like you’re constantly talking to the walls, stop talking.
They don’t deserve your effort, anyway. Save it for people who enjoy what you have to offer.
10. Your gut feeling tells you that something’s wrong
What’s your most trustworthy sign of how things really are when all else fails? Your gut! It will always tell you how it is.
Even if sometimes it’s a little painful and heartbreaking, your gut feeling always knows what’s up.
You know those moments when you really want to be wrong about someone, but you just feel it in your gut that something’s wrong? Yeah, never ignore it.
It’s your only voice of truth when the reality becomes too difficult to accept.
When someone doesn’t like you and is faking niceness toward you, your gut feeling will point it out. Listen to it.
Don’t bet against yourself. If you feel something in your bones, act accordingly. Life is too short to waste time on bullshitters and fakers.
Choose happiness over people who don’t like you. You don’t really need them in your life anyway.
It might feel weird and uncomfortable now, but when the dust settles, you’ll see how much better your life is going to become.
Whether this is a romantic partner who’s slowly slipping away from you or a close friend who feels so far out of reach, the truth is always better than faking something that’s no longer there.
Yes, it hurts and yes, it profoundly sucks.
But when someone stops liking you, there’s not much you can do other than accept it and find ways to move on.
People will hurt you and leave like it’s nothing. But how you choose to deal with that is how your life will ultimately turn out.
After finally coming to terms with the fact that certain people simply don’t like you anymore, how the hell are you supposed to accept this new, heartbreaking reality and move on seamlessly?
Is life supposed to stay the same and are you just supposed to pretend like this person was never important to you?
Of course not. You are entitled to your feelings and nobody has the right to tell you how you’re supposed to feel now.
That’s up to you. But the sooner you learn that some people will never be good for you, no matter how much you cherish them, the sooner it’ll become easier to deal with heartbreak.
So some people don’t like you. What can you do anyway? You can’t tell a person how to feel. Sad but true!
One acceptable option is trying to have an honest conversation about what went wrong. With no agenda other than having some closure.
When you hear their side of the story, it’ll provide you with the peace of mind you need to accept it and move on.
It might be brutal or it might be sad, but ultimately it will set you free from something that ended a long time ago and make it easier to embrace it with no resentment.