Life is too short for playing games and concealing feelings. We should be able to tell the people we care about how much they mean to us. We shouldn’t hide it.
Some of us don’t have any problem with saying the actual words, “I love you” or, “You mean the world to me,” for instance. Others have a harder time expressing their feelings regardless of whether it is with words or actions. They might feel a lot, they just don’t know how to express it. So oftentimes they get judged as cold-hearted or emotionless.
It’s especially hard when you are in a romantic relationship and your partner keeps telling you all these sweet little things that make your heart melt but you are unable to reciprocate.
If you have a hard time saying the actual words out loud, you can show it in lots of different ways. You can do wonders with all kinds of sentences that will show you have feelings but won’t make you uncomfortable. You can also express it with small gestures which will reveal more about your feelings than empty words that some people use ever will.
Also, if you are unsure of what your partner feels, pay attention to what he does. It will tell you more than enough. It’s not for nothing that people say, “Actions speak louder than words.”
This is how to tell someone how much they mean to you:
1. “Text me when you get home.”
It’s a great way to show genuine concern as it expresses a wish for somebody to arrive home safely. When you get an, “I am home. Sweet dreams,” only then will you be able to sleep properly.
2. “I understand how you feel.”
It shows that you’ve been listening closely and that this is something you can relate to. However, saying this when you actually don’t understand how a person feels will only make you seem stupid. Sometimes the best thing you can do is listen and offer support.
3. “You always make me smile.”
You can say it or you can just smile without holding back. If a person makes you happy, a smile will inevitably be on your face all the time. When you say the words it gives it that something extra that shows your affection and gratitude for their effort in making you laugh.
4. “It feels like I’ve known you forever.”
It expresses the closeness you feel to someone you don’t quite know yet. But you are comfortable around them and you find it easy to open up to them and you want them to know how much that means to you.
5. Checking if you are all tucked in before you both fall asleep.
If this doesn’t scream, “I care for you so much,” I don’t know what does.
6. Sending a cute emoji in the middle of the day.
Something as simple as sending an emoji, #kiss or #hug is enough to make anyone’s day. It means that even when you are too busy to think, you still want to let someone know they mean a lot and that you are thinking of them.
7. Silence feels good when you are together.
You are so comfortable with each other that there’s no awkward silences. Sometimes just being close to someone is enough. And sometimes a hug says more than words ever will.
8. Noticing things.
Noticing small changes, like when someone gets a new haircut or when they have some new clothes, is just a way of saying you are paying attention. The deeper level is noticing someone’s changes in behavior, which shows a better understanding between the two of you and that you are able to notice when something is off.
9. Introducing family and friends.
Making room for you in their life really says, “I love you” and, “You mean so much,” without using actual words. They want you to have a place among the people they care about the most. They consider you as an important part of their present and future life.
10. Including you in their life.
Sharing things that are a part of your daily routine is a nice way of showing a connection. You want to know about somebody’s day and you would like them to know more about yours.
Kissing is the sweetest form of expressing affection. It makes all the sparks go off. There’s nothing better than a tender kiss to show endearment. Kissing someone on their cheek, face, forehead, lips and everywhere, shows you are shouting out with action that you love everything about them.
12. Remembering something you said a long time ago.
People often underestimate the power of truly listening. It’s amazing to have someone who can remember something cute, important or deep that you shared with them ages ago. Paying attention is more than enough to say, “You mean the world to me.”
13. Being thoughtful.
Doing nice things you know they would like is a great thing to do, so make a surprise romantic dinner for just the two of you. Clean the house. Run an errand they would hate to do. Surprise them with movie or concert tickets for something that you know they are dying to see. It’s all about that small things that show you’ve been paying attention.
You don’t have to spend your time going on and on about how amazing they are but a little compliment now and then can go far. Tell them something that you love about them, like their face when they wake up in the morning or the dimple on their face when they laugh, anything that you find fascinating about them.
15. Making future plans.
When somebody is making plans with you for the future, it means that they can’t imagine life without you there by their side.
16. “I can be me when I am with you.”
It’s priceless to feel so relaxed and comfortable around someone you care about. When you feel accepted by someone with all your flaws and your blessings and strong points, you feel what it means to be loved in the right way.
17. Being there for better or for worse.
If you have someone who will be there through raging storms and sunshine days, you have something invaluable. You have somebody who knows that love is constant and unchanging no matter what. Doing this means more than any word ever said. That’s what true love is all about.
Leah Lee – Writer. Dreamer. Adventurer. Eternal Optimist.
I am an English language and literature professor and writing came naturally alongside that. It was something I did for me until I decided to share it with the rest of the world.
I write about love, emotions, relationship issues and ways to solve them and most importantly about empowering women to become the best versions of themselves.
My inspiration comes from all that I’ve been through in life, and it was a bumpy road but full of valuable lessons. I hope that my experience will do some good to all of those who like to read my work.