25 Signs He’s Scared Of How Much He Likes You (Without Realizing It)
Have you ever wondered why he’s acting all distant? You immediately think that he’s not that into you. But believe me, that doesn’t have to be the case.
Guys are not like us. Most of them aren’t used to expressing their feelings, and they are actually scared of these new emotions that are bottling up inside of them. Guys would be all like: “I’m a macho man, love can’t conquer me!” and then BOOM, all of a sudden they find themselves completely and utterly in love with you.
And bear in mind, he’s not being distant—he is just facing new emotions and maybe he doesn’t know how to deal with them. So, with this being said, pay attention to what I’m about to write.
These are the clear signs he likes you, but is scared as hell to just listen to his heart and give in.
1. He’s staring.
You know that feeling when you sense that someone is watching you? That he is watching you? You know that he’s staring at you and that he is thinking about how lucky he is that he scored you. Yeah, you know, and it feels soooo good.
You don’t want to lift your head up because you will ruin the moment. If he realizes that you are onto him, that you know he’s watching you, he will stop because he is afraid of admitting to you and himself that he likes you.
2. He’s been hurt before.
Every now and then he mentions he was hurt once before, and he will do anything in the world to avoid that. That’s the reason he’s not giving himself all the way in to your relationship. He is afraid that you will break his heart as the one before you did.
And that’s completely normal. Put yourself in his shoes. If a guy broke your heart, would you trust someone else right away or would you play it safe until you were positive that scenario is not going to happen again?
3. Should I, or shouldn’t I?
This is an obvious sign that he cares but is scared. One moment he is all loving, kind and caring and the other moment he’s distant and cold. This seems like some endless inside battle of his. Is he going to let you in or not?
He’s sending you mixed signals, and you are not sure how to react. Are you going to leave him because you think he is leading you on, or are you going to stick with him long enough to make him just come out and say – I LIKE YOU! It’s up to you!
4. He hangs out with you.
He is taking you out, he is inviting you over for a movie, and so on. This means he likes you. If he wouldn’t want to hang out with you or if he is interested in you just because of other things like sex, for example, he wouldn’t call you to go out and want the two of you to spend that much time together. He feels good being around you but he won’t admit it to you yet.
5. He won’t take the first step.
You are convinced he likes you. All the signs are crystal clear but he won’t make that first move. You just know that this is the truth from the way he looks at you, from the way he talks to you. Let’s face it. When a guy likes you, you just know it, you feel it.
And as I have already said, if he doesn’t make his move despite the fact that he really wants to, he is definitely scared to do so. Someone broke his heart, maybe he is intimidated by you, or maybe he thinks you are too good for him. As soon as you realize which one of these it is, let him know it is ok to approach you and that you want him to do so.
6. He’s nervous around you.
Has it ever happened to you that he’s blurting things out or just that he is acting weird? He is nervous about something but you are not sure what. Well, my darling, this is a sign he likes you but is scared. He is just afraid that he is going to do or say something that will screw things up.
He wants to do everything perfectly. It’s like you have to do something that is of great importance, you care for that something, so it’s normal that you will feel nervous and your palms will be sweaty because you care so much about the outcome. It’s the same thing with him but that outcome is you.
7. His friend knows it, but you don’t?
This is the last and most obvious sign that he is scared of how much he likes you. If you are the “hot topic” among his friends, girl, you nailed it! If he is talking to his friends about you, that means he really likes you because guys aren’t going to talk seriously about girls if they aren’t planning to be with them. If his friend tells you this, you are one lucky lady.
8. He blushes when you are around.
I know you all think women are the only ones that blush. Wrong! Men tend to do this in front of a girl they like. If you catch him blushing while telling you his life story, this is a sign he likes you but is scared to admit it.
It means he really cares about what you are going to think of him and he wants to leave the best impression. What you need to do is try to make him feel comfortable and ask him questions. It will lead your first date in the right direction!
9. He is sweating.
We all tend to be sweaty when we are faced with some new things. So, you can imagine how your guy will be anxious and sweaty when you go on a first date. He will try to be the best version of himself in front of you, but at the same time, he will show all the symptoms of nervousness.
Don’t be too harsh on him. Try to calm him down by smiling at his jokes or asking new things about him. He is just giving you a sign that he cares but is scared to admit it. Please, respect this. Maybe he is your soulmate after all.
10. He is complimenting you.
You all know what this means. If a guy compliments you it is a sign that he likes you. He is just doing that so he can see your reaction. And admit it, it feels great when a guy you are on a date with tells you how amazing you look like in that tight dress. Oh, I could listen to this all day long. And you?
11. He opens the door for you.
This is a sign that he likes you, but it is also a sign that your guy is a real gentleman. Let’s face it ladies—there aren’t that many gentlemen anymore. All the guys around us are just jerks who want to get laid. If your guy does this on a first date and all the dates after that, you can consider yourself lucky because he is a keeper.
12. He laughs at your jokes.
You don’t even need to be good at telling jokes, he will still laugh at them. This is a proven sign that he likes you but is scared to admit it. He is just trying to make a pleasant atmosphere for the two of you and laughing at your jokes is a first step towards that.
If you see positive feedback, you will be able to relax and enjoy the rest of the night. Some people were just born to make our day, right?
13. He listens to your problems.
A man who will listen you talking about your life problems will eventually be a good partner. This is a sign he cares but is scared to tell you that because he thinks you will freak out.
He is just showing that no matter what happens, he will be there and protect you from bad people and things. You can be blessed to have a man like this in your life, so make sure that you support him too.
14. He breaks eye contact.
Body language is very important, especially if we have just started dating someone. In those moments we don’t know if a guy likes us or not. If you see him looking at you and all of a sudden breaks eye contact, it is an obvious sign he loves you but is scared to tell you so.
In fact, maybe he will never be brave enough to tell you those words in person. Maybe he feels a lot better if he just texts you that he loves you and that he cares. This is a sign of true love but also a sign that he still feels nervous around you. I bet you know some good tactics to make him relax, right?
15. He doesn’t ask you out.
You are probably thinking how this can be a sign that he likes me, right? Well, dear girls you must understand that sometimes the best guys are those shy ones. Maybe he has been trying to ask you out for days, but somehow he can’t find the right moment for that. Don’t cross him off immediately. Give him a chance. Maybe he is the cutest guy you will ever meet. And maybe, he will make you the happiest woman on earth.
16. He acts protective.
If you have a problem, he will do even the impossible to solve it. That’s how he shows his love to you. This is one of the most obvious signs that he loves you. He just needs some time to put his feelings in order. And trust me, it will take a lot more time to actually admit it that he loves you. Guys are like that, and we need to understand it. But hey, that’s why we like them after all!
17. He texts you.
A guy who likes you will want to know how your day was. Maybe he will text you to wish you good morning or he even may ask you out for breakfast during your break. The thing is that he will want to spend as much time as possible with you. This is a sign he likes you but is scared to admit it. He just wants to know you better before he breaks out and tell you those most beautiful 3 words: “I love you!”
18. He is being jealous when another guy is near you.
Even if the two of you are not a couple officially, he will be jealous when another man comes near you. He sees a potential beau, and he doesn’t feel okay about it. He is trying to protect you from all those carnal looks and wants you to be his girl only. This is a sign of how much he likes you but is too chicken to admit it. He will rather chase away guys around you than admit his emotions. What can I say, guys are complicated.
19. He didn’t put a label on your relationship but it is obvious he likes you by the way he looks at you.
When you are around him, he always has those puppy dog eyes and he can’t take them off of you. He thinks that you are a perfect woman and he wants you to be a part of his life. He loves all the way from your smile to your eyes and your cute voice. In fact, this man is head over heels in love with you but he is scared to admit that even to himself.
20. He doesn’t mention other women.
It looks like he has found what he has been looking for and he doesn’t have any need to mention other women. Actually, he is currently only interested in you and he can’t help it. His friends tease him that he is a wuss but he doesn’t give a damn about that. He only wants one woman in his life and that woman is you!
21. He gives you all of his support.
Whenever you have a problem or if you are just experiencing a difficult phase of your life, he is there to give you some comfort. He knows that it is really important to be with a loved one so he does his best to be with you anytime you need him. He is truly a man you can trust and he doesn’t mind going the extra mile for you.
22. He pays attention to the details.
If he can remember your dog’s name or the last time you went on a vacation, it means that he has some feeling for you. If a man is not interested in you, he won’t even make any effort to remember things like that but this is an obvious sign that you really mean a lot to him and that he is really interested in you.
23. His friends reveal his secret.
If his friends tell you that he likes you, there is no doubt that it is true. He will tell them if he likes someone and in this case, that person is you. So, it is now up to you if you will give him a chance or if you will just break his fragile heart. P.S. hope you are not that soulless.
24. He is sad if you are sad.
If you are sad because of something bad that happened to you, he will share your sadness as well. If he likes you, he won’t be able to be happy and to laugh while you are all depressed and sad. This is a man who really cares about the girl he likes and he is definitely worth giving a chance to. Not to mention that he is hubby material and that he would probably do anything to make you the happiest woman alive.
25. He tells you that he likes you.
He can’t stand anymore to be with you all the time, not letting you know what his real feelings are, so he breaks the ice and admits them to you. He tells you that he is into you and that he would be flattered if you could give him a chance. He likes you so much that he forgets how shy he is next to women. And I don’t have to tell you that this is the most obvious sign that he really fell hard for you, right?
These are just some of the signs that he likes you but he is scared. The best way to find out if a guy likes you is to ask him. But if you are not brave enough to do that, you can rely on some proven signs of men’s attraction.
The bottom line is that you will feel whether he is truly into you or not. This can help you if you are having trouble deciding if he cares about you or not. If you are completely positive he DOES like you, hang on just a bit more and he will crack that shell and release those emotions. It’s just a matter of time!
I started writing just as a hobby, but in the end, I decided that it is something that fulfills me. I find inspiration in life’s everyday problems and every article that I write tells something about my past. In this way, I want to tell women all around the world that even though we are miles away, our pain makes us close. My articles were written to comfort those who need it the most and to tell them that they are not alone. I am a full-time mom, and I like spending time with my son, good people, sunny days and beer.