There is nothing more difficult than deciding whether the person you once loved is still the right person for you. Saying goodbye is a painful emotional break, but love sometimes makes us blind and we can’t see the person for who he or she really is.

Relationships are hard things to maintain, and seeing only the good sides and ignoring the things you find unsettling will only lead to confusion and make you feel miserable.

Many times, we leave a relationship because we don’t feel loved anymore, we feel no affection from our partner, or one of you have been unfaithful. But if your partner is still truly in love with you and wants to continue, there are only a handful of excuses to leave that person and here are 5 of them:

1. When you have lost trust in your partner

Many times this has been said, but it is still not enough—Trust is the foundation upon which all relationships are built. If you have a problem with trusting people in general, then you’re doing something wrong.

If you don’t trust your partner because of some repeated things in the past, then it’s not likely that you’ll restore that trust. Without a trustworthy partner, a relationship is completely worthless, and no matter how much he loves you, you need to move on.

2. Your partner is not treating you well

Being in love with you doesn’t mean that he is going to treat you the way you deserve. Maybe he doesn’t realize that and you should talk about it. Talk it out and make sure you’re not being taken for granted. Many times people do exactly that and don’t value and respect the things they have.

If even after talking about it your partner refuses to treat you with high respect, to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, then the choice is pretty easy to make.

3. Your partner cheated on you

Let’s face the truth—if your partner ever cheated on you and you gave him/her a second chance, you will most likely never truly move forward and forget what was done. If you can’t live with that, no one would blame you for leaving your partner.

4. The partner doesn’t want to change

If you’re reading this article, then there is a high chance that you’re currently on the verge of breaking up with your partner. You’re not sure about leaving the person that clearly loves you, and you don’t really know how.

Think about what the problems are. Present them to your partner and try to solve the issues.

If he refuses to accept your criticisms, suggestions and the things that bother you, then you can leave that relationship without a feeling of guilt. At least you know that you tried.

5. You know you will never be able to give the love back

Your partner might love you with all of his heart but you know that you can’t be the person your partner deserves to be with. You will never be the one he always dreamed to be with and loved by.

People evolve and change all the time, and we’ve all witnessed cases in which people learned how to love someone, but you just know that will never happen. A relationship needs to be carried out by both sides equally, and if it can’t—no matter how hard and painful it is—let it go.