Como lidar espiritualmente com um narcisista: 13 métodos comprovados

A religião deve ser o seu principal aliado quando lida com pessoas com um distúrbio de personalidade narcisista. I know you think you’ve tried everything, but I bet nobody told you how to spiritually deal with a narcissist.

Well, that is about to change. Here’s a detailed tutorial on using spirituality while handling narcissism.

Como lidar espiritualmente com um narcisista?

If you follow these steps, you won’t allow a narcissist to destroy your spirituality. On the contrary, you’ll ser mais esperto que eles e, pela primeira vez, sair vencedor desta relação.

1. Consciencialização

If you’re a spiritual person, I’m pretty sure you know very well what self-awareness is. You know how important a sense of self is for your spiritual awakening.

No entanto, ninguém lhe falou do outro tipo de consciência: a que diz respeito ao que o rodeia. O que é que isso significa?

Well, isn’t it simple? If you’re dealing with a abusador narcisista, é preciso estar consciente disso. Sem mentiras e sem auto-engano.

Sim, isto aplica-se mesmo à situação com o seu pai narcisista. I know this one is hard to grasp, but just because someone is your mother or father who should be giving you unconditional love, it doesn’t mean that they can’t suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder.

Instead of closing one eye to this fact, you have to face it and embrace it. Be as realistic as possible and understand that you’re a victim of narcissistic abuse.

2. Estabelecer limites

A próxima coisa importante quando se tenta descobrir como lidar com um narcisista é definição de limites. Yes, the best thing would be to cut all ties with your abuser, but you’re clearly not ready for that move.

Por agora, se quiser preservar o seu emocional e bem-estar mental, it would be great if you could make it clear that you won’t put up with some of their behavior.

There are things you won’t tolerate any longer. Behavior patterns that hurt your feelings and make you feel uncomfortable.

Find the strength deep inside of yourself and make sure your narcissist realizes that you’re putting some kind of limitation on it. Your patience has come to its end, and you demand respect!

Be as firm as possible when you start setting boundaries. Make sure your abuser understands that you’re not playing and that they must never cross these limitations if they have the intention of staying in your life.

3. Manter-se fiel aos seus valores fundamentais

Se se envolver com um narcisista espiritual, they’ll do their best to impose their values on you. They’ll try and convince you that God Himself sent them on your path. According to this narrative, they’re exactly what you need for your despertar espiritual.

Aparentemente, devemos dar-lhes ouvidos e seguir cegamente as suas orientações. Quando tentamos confrontá-los, eles usam a religião contra nós. Utilizam versículos da Bíblia, a palavra de Deus e outros textos religiosos e distorcem-nos para provar o seu ponto de vista.

In this case scenario, it’s crucial for you to stick to your core values and spiritual practices. Don’t let them tell you what’s right or wrong.

Trust me, people suffering from spiritual narcissism use religion as a way to control you. They’re actually limiting your spiritual growth under the disguise of being your spiritual leader.

4. Amor-próprio

When you’re trying to figure out how to spiritually deal with a narcissist, there is one thing you mustn’t forget, and that is amor-próprio.

O que é comum em todas as pessoas que sofrem de NPD? Todas as pessoas com tendências narcísicas querem que você perca a sua sentimento de autoestima. Quando conseguem convencer-nos de que não temos qualquer valor, tornamo-nos um alvo fácil para o gaslighting e outras formas de manipulação.

They count on your insecurities and lack of self-esteem and use it as a way to destroy your mental health. Well, it’s your job not to let them do this.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advising you to be selfish or anything like that. However, being aware of your qualities and putting your own needs in front of your abuser’s well-being is not selfish— it’s an act of self-love.

Besides, don’t forget that you can’t go through your spiritual awakening until you learn how to love yourself!

5. Ser cuidadoso com a sua energia

A maioria dos narcisistas são vampiros emocionais. Sim, isso inclui também os narcisistas espirituais.

Sugam-nos deliberadamente a vida. Destroem a sua vontade de viver e transformam-no numa pessoa negativa e amarga.

Afinal de contas, é esse o seu objetivo final: fazer com que nos tornemos iguais a eles. É por isso que tens de ter muito cuidado com a tua energia.

Sei que lidar com um narcisista é desgastante e cansativo. Isto é especialmente verdade se you’re an empath who picks up your abuser’s emotions.

Lembre-se: o seu narcisista quer que fique nervoso e pessimista. Ele quer que pense demais e quer destruir o seu humor.

That’s why you have to protect your positivity at all costs. If you don’t have enough strength to leave your narc for good, at least take a break from the relationship.

Whenever you feel overwhelmed, surround yourself with whatever and whoever makes you happy. Find the positivity inside yourself and in God— you’ll need it.

6. Concentrar-se no seu crescimento espiritual

Em vez de investir toda a sua energia na sua relação narcísica, concentre-se na sua crescimento espiritual. This is also a part of the self-love journey— a way to prioritize yourself and put your spiritual well-being over everything else.

Para começar, quebre os padrões de comportamento tóxico. Passa todos os dias a analisar a sua relação e a pensar demasiado em cada movimento do seu par.

Em vez de fazer isso, concentre-se em estar atento. Medite, vá ao fundo de si próprio e descubra a pessoa que já foi.

Don’t seek your abuser’s validation— do the things that make you feel and be better. This is the chance for you to become the best possible version of yourself.

There are other things you can do to accelerate your spiritual growth. For example, connect with nature, find the artistic side of your personality, and most importantly— don’t forget to do good deeds.

Before you know it, you’ll start noticing spiritual progress.

7. Envolver-se na oração

A oração é uma das formas mais fortes e eficientes de se livrar de pessoas com comportamento narcisista. Quando nos tornamos um com Deus, nada nem ninguém nos pode parar.

Mas, por favor, tenham cuidado com o que rezam. Sabes o que se diz: pode tornar-se realidade.

Deixem-me dizer-vos a verdade: sometimes, you have no idea what’s best for you. Poderá pedir a Deus que mude a sua relação tóxica, enquanto deveria estar a rezar para ter força para acabar com ela.

I’m sure you understand exactly what I’m trying to tell you. O que importa é pedir a Deus que lhe dê o que Ele sabe que é melhor para si.

Also, no matter what happens, don’t forget to be grateful. I know that you must think you’re going through the worst hell right now, but if you refresh your memory, you’ll remember tons of blessings God sent your way.

Just like that, you’ll realize there is so much to be thankful for. So, instead of focusing on the things you don’t have, start counting your blessings.

8. Encontrar o seu sentido de identidade

Qual é o seu objetivo na vida? Porque é que acha que foi trazido para este mundo em primeiro lugar?

Quem és tu? O que faz de si a pessoa que é hoje? Quais são os seus valores fundamentais? O que é que o faz feliz? Quem queres ser no futuro?

E o seu sistema de crenças? O que é que o motiva? O que faz de si um ser humano único?

No, I can’t give you the answers to either of these questions. Actually, nobody can. Nobody but you, that is.

When you’re involved with a narcissist, they make you lose yourself. They make you forget who you are, and they make you lose your purpose.

Por isso, da próxima vez que se perguntar como lidar espiritualmente com um narcisista, a resposta é que tem de encontrar o seu sentido de si próprio. Dê sentido ao tempo limitado que tem nesta Terra e faça com que cada dia conte!

9. Concentrar-se em relações saudáveis

Ter um parceiro ou familiar narcisista é extremamente difícil. No entanto, não deve permitir que esta relação seja a única na sua vida.

I’m not talking about the relationship you should build with yourself right now. I’m talking about the relationships you have with your friends, other family members and the people you care for.

Em vez de gastar toda a sua energia com o seu agressor narcisista, concentre-se nas pessoas que merecem o seu tempo e esforço.

Once you start building more healthy relationships, you’ll realize why you should deixar a sua relação tóxica as soon as possible. Besides, you’ll be more positive and your mental health will drastically improve.

Rodeie-se de pessoas que se preocupam com o seu bem-estar. Passe tempo com aqueles que lhe dão amor e apoio incondicionais.

Quando o fizer, a cura tornar-se-á muito mais fácil!

10. Afirmações positivas

Afirmações positivas are an excellent way to deal with a narcissist. We’ve already established that your abuser is doing everything in their power to destroy your sense of self-worth.

They’re trying hard to put you down and to destroy your self-esteem. As much as you try to fight this, sooner or later, they get to you. They persuade you that you’re completely worthless without them.

Bem, a melhor maneira de combater as suas inseguranças e de recuperar a sua auto-confiança é através de afirmações positivas.

Principais afirmações positivas

Todas as manhãs, ao levantar-se e antes de começar a preparar-se para o dia, coloque-se em frente ao espelho. Olhe para si e repita alguns dos seguintes mantras:

I’m worthy.

I’m attractive.

I’m intelligent.

Eu vou melhorar.

Estou a fazer tudo bem.

Eu sou amado.

Eu sou corajoso.

Eu sou forte.

Estou confiante.

Nada me pode parar.

These are just examples— you’re free to add your own positive affirmations. You’re free to say whatever will make you feel better.

Just imagine that you’re your own friend who needs encouragement. What would you say to that friend? Well, say those exact words to yourself.

At first, all of this might sound silly to you. Nevertheless, after a while, you’ll start believing these affirmations, and you’ll notice significant progress.

11. Rodear-se de paz

Estar numa relação narcísica é stressante. Sim, no início, uma relação tóxica pode dar-lhe a emoção e as borboletas, mas ao fim de algum tempo, torna-se a sua principal fonte de ansiedade.

É exatamente por isso que se deve rodear de paz, pelo menos fora da sua relação. I know that you live a busy life but if you can’t fit anything into your schedule, at least try listening to relaxing music every night before going to sleep.

Dê um passeio sozinho sempre que tiver tempo para o fazer. Isso ajudá-lo-á a organizar os seus pensamentos e dar-lhe-á o tão necessário equilíbrio e paz interior.

When you go on vacation, don’t choose a crowded place. Instead, go somewhere quiet, where you won’t be disturbed.

Take every chance you get to be near water. You don’t have to swim or engage in any other activity— sometimes, it’s more than enough to just stare at a water surface to feel better.

When you surround yourself with peace, you’ll find peace within as well!

12. Encontrar a força para perdoar

If you’re Christian, you know what the Bible says about anger.

Ephesians 2:3 says, “All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.”

I know that you’re just a human being and that perhaps you have no força para perdoar o seu agressor. After all, it’s the last thing they deserve after all the hell they’ve put you through.

Mas acredite em mim quando lhe digo que guardar rancor só o vai afetar negativamente. O ódio e o ressentimento acabam por o comer vivo, mais cedo ou mais tarde. É exatamente por isso que deve encontrar a força dentro de si para perdoar.

Antes de mais, perdoe-se a si próprio por ter escolhido mal. Deixe de se culpar por não saber mais e por não ter sabido lidar espiritualmente com um narcisista mais cedo.
After that, do your best to forgive them. Don’t let them see this forgiveness as a green light to keep on hurting you.

Remember: you didn’t do it because of them. On the contrary, you’ve done it because it’s the only way to let go of the past and finally heal in a healthy manner.

13. Aprende a tua lição espiritual

If you’re into spirituality, you know that everything in this life acontece por uma razão. Maybe you still haven’t reached the level of consciousness to understand the bigger picture, but that doesn’t mean that the Universe sent you this toxic relationship without a higher cause.

Don’t forget that Deus tem sempre um plano e momento perfeito. Trust me when I tell you that there is a hidden spiritual lesson behind everything you’re going through right now.

Let’s look at things this way: if this narc wasn’t sent into your life, would you go back to God? Would you engage in all of these spiritual practices that have now become a part of your life?

Ao mesmo tempo, o seu agressor foi-lhe enviado para lhe ensinar a importância da sua própria autoestima. Por vezes, estas pessoas aparecem na nossa vida para nos ensinarem a não nos contentarmos com menos do que merecemos ou para nos ajudarem a aprender a defendermo-nos.

O que é que Deus diz sobre como lidar com os narcisistas?

Even though the Bible doesn’t use the word “narcissism”, it is clear that there are numerous descriptions of narcissistic personality disorder. Not only that— there is also advice on how to handle this type of person. Aqui estão alguns dos versículos bíblicos mais proeminentes que tratam deste tema.

Romanos 16: 17-18

“I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery, they deceive the minds of naive people.”

Gálatas 4:17

“They make much of you, but for no good purpose. They want to shut you out, that you may make much of them.”

Timóteo 3:2-5

“People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”

Provérbios 26: 25-26

“Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. Their malice may be concealed by deception, but their wickedness will be exposed in the assembly.”

Timóteo 3:6-9

“They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, always learning but never able to come to a knowledge of the truth. Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so also these teachers oppose the truth. They are men of depraved minds, who, as far as the faith is concerned, are rejected. But they will not get very far because, as in the case of those men, their folly will be clear to everyone.”

Qual é a raiz espiritual do narcisismo?

Pride is the spiritual root of narcissism. In fact, the Bible refers to this as “insolent pride”. According to Christianity, pride is the original sin— the one where all sins come from.

One of the most common narcissistic traits is hubristic pride, meaning that they have too much self-confidence. A narc thinks that they’re better than everyone else. They possess a characteristic sense of entitlement, which often causes them to be boldly disobedient to God.

They’re egocentric, arrogant, and have no sense of humility. At the same time, they have little or no self-awareness, and therefore, they can never reach spiritual enlightenment.

A narcissist can never grow as a person due to this pride. Even though deep down, they are actually struggling with numerous insecurities, their pride doesn’t let them show their fragile side to the world, nor does it allow them to ask for help.

Para terminar:

I won’t lie to you— figuring out how to spiritually deal with a narcissist takes time, energy, and effort, even when you have a step-by-step guide like this. Things won’t change overnight, and you won’t be able to adopt all of these practices in a blink of an eye.

But that doesn’t mean that you should give up on the first sign of trouble. Just because you’re not feeling better instantly, doesn’t mean that progress won’t come.

O mais importante é ter fé. Remember: God gives the toughest battles to His strongest soldiers. Besides, He would never send you something you couldn’t take.

Whatever happens, never lose faith in His plan. One of these days, all the pieces of the puzzle will fall into their place, and you’ll realize why everything had to happen the way it did.