If you hardly had any sleep last night because you spent the whole night looking inside yourself for the main culprit for your getting rejected…Hi! Nice to meet you. I’ve been there and please… join the club.
There are a lot of us out there, and don’t even for a second start to think that you are alone. Rejection does that to you. It fills you with loneliness. It makes you believe that the other person pushed you away because you are not good enough.
So, you keep thinking that you could have done or said something differently to change the outcome. That if you were just little less like you, it would all be different now.
Don’t drown in your thoughts. You haven’t made a mistake. You were always supposed to stay true to yourself.
It’s time you silence that negativity and see the real truth about rejection…someone failed to see what you are made of and all your potential, and them leaving you is an absolute gift.
The truth is life has better things in store for you than the person who chose to leave.
And if you are being completely honest with yourself, you were never truly happy with them. You just felt like you are close to happiness and held on to the idea of them being the right one for you.
It’s not the end of the world even if it feels like that. Your heart gets broken and every crack hurts like hell. You just can’t make peace with what happened so easily.
That is more than ok. Nothing happens overnight. You need time, but you will build up the courage to deal with all the things that scare you and that are standing in your way.
You will open your eyes and see that there was nothing wrong with you. The only wrong here is the person you invested in so selflessly who didn’t know how to reciprocate.
The only wrong here is the person who underestimated you and took you for granted. The person who showed clearly that they don’t respect you, and they don’t deserve a place in your life.
The behavior of that person towards you burdened you with a subconscious belief that you are not worthy of love and respect. That’s why you started picking at your flaws and belittling yourself.
Stop. Don’t do that. Your self-worth has nothing to do with getting rejected, and it has everything to do with yourself. Validate yourself because what matters is how you see yourself, not how others see you. Trust me—half of the time they aren’t really paying attention because all they care about is themselves.
Respect who you are and what you’ve accomplished so far in life. Love yourself. Treat yourself right, so someone else would know how to treat you.
At the end of the day, we set the example. We alone determine what we deserve, so be nice to yourself, and never allow anyone to treat you poorly.
Rejection isn’t something that determines your value—it’s just the sign that you deserve more. That you’ve got options in life, so you can start writing a better story than you were in—a story that never ends but begins and lasts in happiness.
You see, you learn from your pain. We all do. It’s what makes us grow and evolve. It’s what makes us discover ourselves and what we are made of.
So, embrace the rejection as a part of life that pushed you out of your comfort zone, and it started forming the stronger, wiser, and self-loving person you are yet to become.
Embrace it as a chance for real love because a person you are supposed to end up with will do their best to keep you in their lives, and they will fall in love with every tiny virtue and flaw that is you.