Do you find it hard to decipher whether your partner is your true soulmate? Here are 10 definite signs he is not your kindred soul and that you should reconsider your priorities.
I understand that every single girl on this planet would want her love relationship to last, but unfortunately, that is not possible every time. Sometimes, girls have high expectations and when they get the guy who turns out not to be like their dream man, they get disappointed.
On the other hand, there are girls who think that they don’t deserve love, so they think any guy who likes them is good for them. And that is when they become trapped in an illusion, thinking that their partner is actually their soulmate.
So, the most important thing in a relationship is to be one hundred percent sure whether the man you are with is truly your soulmate or you are just living in denial. I know it hurts letting someone go, but it is better to do that than to live in less-deserving conditions.
For all of you who are not sure whether you are dealing with the love of your life or with just one more man, here are a few signs that the man you are dating is not your soulmate, even if you thought differently.
1. He doesn’t put you first
A man who doesn’t put you first is definitely not someone who is worthy of your love. If he doesn’t consider you a priority, chances are he won’t eventually start loving you like you deserve. A man who truly loves a woman will put her first and her happiness will be more important to him than his own.
If your man continues doing things that you don’t like and always puts you last, maybe it is time to sit down and talk to him about your future plans. At least you will then know whether he is serious about you or you are just a fling to him.
2. There is no sexual attraction
Sexual attraction is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you feel like there is zero sexual attraction between the two of you, you should know that something is not right. Couples who love each other can’t take their hands off of each other, but if you feel that there is no more fire in your bedroom, you should be worried.
Maybe your partner is seeing another girl who gives him all that you don’t. Or maybe he wants to break up with you, and he doesn’t want to have sex with you so that you don’t get extra-attached. Whatever the reason is, it is not good, so you should be open about it with him.
3. You don’t feel comfortable around him
Even if you are constantly telling yourself that you are a true match and that you should feel comfortable with him, you don’t. When you come home to him, you feel like all your positive energy has drained away and you rapidly start to feel down.
You also feel that with him, you can’t be who you truly are and you feel much better when he is not around. This is a red flag sign that the two of you are not meant to be. The sooner you break up with him, the happier you will be in the long run.
4. You feel that he is not your person anymore
If he is not the one who you call when something good happens or things go wrong, it means that he is not that important person in your life. And we all know that your love partner should be the most important person in your world.
If you feel that you can’t trust him and that he won’t keep your secrets safe, then you should talk to him openly about your relationship. You should share with him all that bothers you and if he is not willing to change, tell him that you’ll have nothing to do with him anymore. If he doesn’t react to this wake-up call, pack your bags and find your happiness in another place.
5. He doesn’t put any effort into your relationship
If you feel like you are the only one trying, it is definitely a bad sign. Both partners should make an equal effort in a relationship and if one of them doesn’t do that, there is definitely a problem.
So, if you’ve noticed that he doesn’t care about making you feel special or doing those little gestures and surprising you from time to time, it means he is not putting any effort into your relationship. It means he’s not willing to make you smile and feel happy because you are obviously not his priority.
A man who doesn’t want to make an effort for you and for your future is someone who is not interested in you and who doesn’t see you as a permanent partner. Maybe he doesn’t want to commit and the only things he wants are sex and fun. If that is what you want too, then okay, but if you want something more, it is time to talk to him.
6. He never compliments you
If you feel that your man never compliments anything that you do, something is not right. A man should compliment his woman from time to time, especially when she dresses up or when she achieves some of her goals.
Every gentlemen out there knows that complimenting a woman is one of the most important aspects to treating you like a lady. And if your man never does any of these things, but he wants you to compliment him, you can conclude that he is just narcissistic and that a relationship with him is just a waste of time.
He will never give you the love you deserve and you will never be a truly happy woman with him. So, keep in mind that in order to be genuinely fulfilled, sometimes you just need to let go of things that are preventing you from living the life you should.
7. You think about another man
If you are thinking about another man and all the things he could do for you, that is definitely a sign that your current partner is not your soulmate. It means that you are merely stuck in that relationship and you are afraid to move on. If another guy is on your mind, it’s time to reconsider your decisions and make some changes.
You may think that it is better to stay with your boyfriend because he will change, but that won’t happen. Remember that you can never change someone who is not willing to change himself. So, if he doesn’t see your suffering, it is time to move on. Stay away from him and show him what he has lost by letting him go.
8. You can’t trust him
Whatever he does or says to you, you never trust him. You are always looking for some other, ulterior motives because you think that he might be telling lies or doing something behind your back, or at least thinking of it. You always have the urge to overthink even the smallest of details and no matter how hard you try to trust him, you always fail at it.
You see, your soulmate is someone whom you should be able to trust with all of your body and soul. If you can’t trust your partner, it means he’s not the person that you feel comfortable with and that you can never relax in his presence, which is one of the biggest red flags that he’s not worth wasting your time on.
9. You no longer have fun with him
Do you feel like your relationship is in a rut and that you no longer enjoy spending time together? Do you feel like you would rather spend time with anyone else than your partner because you no longer enjoy it as you might have before? If you answered yes, chances are that he’s not your soulmate after all.
True soulmates are two souls who trust each other, who love each other’s flaws, and who genuinely have fun with each other. One of the biggest signs he’s not your soulmate is his unwillingness to compromise. So, if your partner is only interested in being a couch potato, while you are begging him to go out for a change, then you’re better off without him anyway.
10. You don’t have good communication
How does he react when you ask him something or want to talk about something that you find important? Does he tell you that you he has no time for that and that you’re overthinking things? Is he sometimes rude?
If he’s doing all of this, it means you don’t have a good communication, which is one of the most important ways of connecting with each other. Good communication requires putting in effort, compromising, finding time for each other, and respecting each other.
And if he’s not willing to do any of it, it means he’s not worth your time and he’s definitely not your soulmate. Now, you may think that he’s the only guy for you, but once you let go of him and clear your mind, you will see that he’s not the right guy and you will be much happier with someone who deserves you – with someone who is your true soulmate!