1. Accept what happened
If you have been cheated on, you need to accept what happened. I am not saying it will be easy to do that, but it is something you need to do if you want to move on with your life.
It will hurt in the beginning, and you will wonder why you weren’t enough to him, but after you realize that it is better that it happened now and not later, you will feel better. Once you accept it happened, you will be able to let go of him and start a new chapter of your life.
2. Express your emotions
When something bad like this happens to you, it is very important to express your emotions. The worst thing you can do is to hold it all inside because you will explode from all those bad emotions. So, do whatever you want.
If you believe that screaming or crying will make you feel better, then do it. If you think a bottle of whiskey will help you, drink it with your friends. But remember one thing: you are a free woman now, and you deserve to live the life you have always been dreaming about.
3. Avoid him on social media
It is very hard to avoid someone nowadays because they are one click away. But for your well-being, you need to avoid your ex at all costs.
Block him on social media sites because that will help you to get over him easier. At least you won’t see him having fun with his new girlfriend or his friends.
You won’t have to go through that torture, and it will be easier if you don’t know what he is doing. This won’t solve your problems because it takes time for them, but at least, it will ease your pain a bit.
4. Don’t try to be vengeful
The worst thing you can do when you have been cheated on is to pursue vengeance. In that way, you are showing that you can’t let go of what happened to you and that all that happened to you still hurts. And it is okay to be like that because that is normal when you love someone.
But holding on to someone who doesn’t choose you doesn’t make any sense. It is better to let go of him and try to focus on yourself. In that way, you are showing that you are the most important person in your life and that nothing can touch you. And that is the best revenge you will ever feel.
5. Don’t try to get over him in one night
That is the worst thing you can do, so please don’t even try it. You can’t get over someone you’ve loved for so long in such short notice. It takes time, but if you go step by step and if you are patient enough, it will all be okay. Being with someone for a one-night stand just to get over your ex won’t solve your problem.
He will still be the first thought when you wake up in the morning. Instead of trying to find someone who will take his place, focus on yourself more. In that way, you will learn more about yourself, and you will learn to feel good even if you are single.
6. Ask for some help
It is not shameful to ask your friends for some help when you get in a situation like this. They are there to make your bad days good and your good days even better. If you have a friend you can tell everything to, talk to her. Let her know that you are a mess and that you can’t think straight.
Tell her to not let you do stupid things in your moments of sorrow and to take care of you in the best way she can. That will help you so much. Once you talk to someone, you will feel like a burden has fallen off your shoulders, and everything will be much easier for you. Trust me, this always works.
7. Focus on yourself completely
The best thing you can do if something like this happens to you is to focus on yourself. Okay, your man cheated on you, but that is not the end of the world. If he wasn’t smart enough to keep you, you should be smart enough and let him go.
You don’t need someone who will cheat on you and take you for granted. You need a man who will be completely devoted to you and what is most important, who will be only yours. That’s why you need to let go of your ex, and focus on yourself. Do things that you love, and pamper yourself. You have every right to do so!
Christine is the author of ‘Staring Into The Eyes Of Anxiety And Depression’, a book that will change the way you fight anxiety and depression.