I know that you are used to having girls who will chase you the moment you show them that you are hard to get. Used to being with girls who fall for your hot and cold mind games and who go crazy about you when you start playing with them.
That you are used to having girls who dig your story about being mysterious and emotionally unavailable. Girls who enjoy the chase and girls who start loving you more the moment you show them your indifference.
But I can assure you of one thing—this woman is nothing like all those girls from your past. She isn’t someone who will beg for your attention or someone who will settle for breadcrumbs of your half-assed love.
The only thing you’ll accomplish by not wanting to commit and not wanting to label things is losing her. The only thing you’ll accomplish with being unclear about your true feelings is making her walk away from you.
And let’s face it—this is the last thing you want. Because if you allow this to happen and if you let this special girl go, you’ll be sorrier than you can imagine and you’ll spend the rest of your life regretting it.
Because this isn’t a girl who will waste her time and energy on trying to decode your mixed signals. Not a girl who will spend sleepless nights waiting for your late-night phone call, happy that you even remembered her.
This is not a girl who will reread your drunk text messages, trying to find some clues of your love for her. Not a girl who will let you walk away and come back into her life as you please.
Trust me—she is not a girl who will settle for being with a guy whose feelings she has to second-guess and interpret. Not a girl who will make excuses for you and definitely not a girl who will lie to herself that you love her more than you do.
Instead, she needs someone who is consistent. She needs a real man who isn’t afraid of exposing his vulnerabilities and a man who won’t be scared of showing his true emotions.
A man who will always be there for her—not only when she is convenient. A man who will be more than proud to hold her hand in public and call her his girlfriend.
She needs a man who will kiss her goodnight and who will start his day by sending her a good morning text. A man who will be more than happy to commit to her and who won’t have any trouble with being exclusive.
This girl doesn’t need an immature boy who represses his emotions, thinking that he is a badass or a tough guy for doing so. Instead, she needs a real man who will give her his wholehearted love, without holding any parts of himself back.
And if you don’t think that you can be that man—please, don’t waste her time. Also, don’t waste your energy on trying to be a player because trust me—she will see right through your intentions and she will beat you at your own game before you even know it.
But if you think that you have what it takes, be certain that this woman will love you like no other. If you think that you can give this girl what she needs, trust me that it will be worth it.
No, you shouldn’t be worried about her taking advantage of you once you open your heart up. You shouldn’t be scared that she’ll play you once she sees that you’ve fallen for her like crazy because this is not her style.
Instead, she’ll appreciate your honesty. She’ll cherish the love you feel for her and she will love you even more.
Just make up your mind in time because she won’t wait for much longer for you to get your shit together. The moment she sees that you don’t treat her the way she deserves and that you are not giving her back the love and the effort she is giving you, she will walk away from you.
And when that happens, you’ll see what you’ve lost. But it will be too late for you to do anything.
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.