There is a lot I am prepared to take for love. If it’s the real deal, there is not much I wouldn’t do, and nowhere I wouldn’t go. But there is one thing I would never sacrifice for ANYONE, and that is my inner peace.
I’ve been in enough relationships to know that if there is one thing you should never tolerate, no matter how much in love you are, that is somebody disturbing your inner peace. That is the one thing I’m not giving to anyone. And you shouldn’t either.
It is totally normal to expect certain trials and tribulations in a relationship. It is also normal to feel an array of emotions, some that you don’t even understand yourself, but it’s never okay to not have your peace of mind due to your significant other.
How do you know when you’ve had enough? How do you know when to call it quits? That is a difficult question. Everyone has their boiling point. But in my opinion, if it even comes to that, I have no more patience for you.
Inner peace is something that is incredibly hard to achieve. It is hard to even explain it. You have to train your mind to just not be phased by something that would normally bother you. You have to tell yourself that nothing is worth losing your sanity.
So, what do you do when a guy comes in like a storm, crashing your sunny day and making you question everything you’ve been telling yourself thus far?
It’s easy to just throw everything in the water, and let yourself be consumed by an individual that you feel like you’re falling hard for, more and more with every waking hour. It’s easy to let yourself enjoy it when it’s good, and just accept that he comes with some downsides as well. In other words – make excuses for him. You know better than that.
But if those downsides are the fact that he costs you your peace, that is not something that you should even think about for a second. How long did it take you to be okay again? How long did it take you to finally regain your emotions and your identity back after your last relationship? How long were you a mess for? How much of yourself did you sacrifice?
After thinking long and hard about this, ask yourself one thing. Is he REALLY worth going through all that again? Is he really the guy who is worth going crazy for at times? More often than not, the answer is going to be ‘NO’, so listen to yourself. Learn to spare your mind. You owe yourself that much.
Be kind to yourself. Sometimes you have to be your own best friend.
Let me be your voice of reason. I’ve had a few guys in my life who made me feel like I was depressed at times. Like I could just scream and throw something sharp at them. Like I couldn’t have one sane thought in my mind, and I thought I would completely lose it. I was frightened of myself at times. That’s how far I let it go.
But the thing is, it wasn’t me. It was them. Now I know it, and nobody can tell me otherwise.
It all depends on the people you surround yourself with. People with no regards for your well-being are NEVER going to care what they cost you in life. Remember that.
They are never going to care about the fact that you are slowly bursting at the seams, not knowing when you will completely just break. Those are the people you must avoid at all costs.
It’s easy to think that there must be something wrong with you. But ask yourself this. Do you feel this way at all times or does it only occur when you are around HIM? And that should answer your question.
You are okay. You are fine. We all lose it sometimes. It’s normal to feel like you’re not in control sometimes. But if that feeling is only evident in the presence of that certain someone, than you know what to do.
Nobody is worth your peace of mind. And when you feel like he’s costing you that – he’s got to go.