Accentuate your lips! Smile and say hi when you pass by the guy you like… Seriously? If you’ve ever dug deeper into flirting matters, you’ve probably stumbled upon these and similar tips that mainly focus on your appearance.
Actually, what does flirting mean to you? Do you see flirting as investing in the most seductive lipstick shade, taking a selfie and posting it to social media?
Or you never even dared to flirt with a guy so that he doesn’t think you’re an easy target or, let alone, interested in him (because playing hard to get has been a thing for a while now).
Ladies, it’s time to re-learn the art of flirting because it’s so much more than just looking pretty or smiling.
Don’t get me wrong. Smiling is a huge part of your flirting game because positive vibes are what attract guys (and it even rhymes!). Triple rhyme.
I’m trying to say that flirting is a skill that needs to be mastered and updated accordingly. Not every flirting move works on every guy because each of them has different preferences.
But there are some attractive tricks that all men fall for, and today, we’ll focus on those things. Stepping up your flirting game will not only help you attract more men, but it will also make you more confident!
Wait, why should you master the art of flirting? Hmm…
If you’re still not sure why exactly you should master the art of flirting, I’ll say two things to you:
- Flirting will make you look ten times more attractive.
- Flirting will help you look more approachable.
I’m sure you want to look attractive to the guy you like, right? Well, being attractive is not only a matter of wearing the right clothes (those that spark the imagination) or looking your best from head to toe.
Did you know that your body language plays an enormous role when it comes to flirting and attraction?
Yup. Allow me to elaborate. Let’s say that you cross your arms while you’re in a bar checking out the guy you like and secretly hoping that he will approach you.
Sorry to disappoint you, but no, he won’t do that. Why? Because your body language (crossed arms) tells him that you’re reserved, not that relaxed, aka a little bit worried or anxious.
A guy can tell all that only from one clue in your body language. Yes, body language is that powerful.
If you flirt the right way, you’ll appear more approachable. Note that not every guy has the courage to make the first move or even look at you. Some guys are so shy that they won’t approach you, not even in a thousand years, if you don’t give them some obvious signs that you’re interested in them.
And that is where flirting comes in! By exuding positive vibes, displaying positive body language, and teasing him, you will let him know that you’re a flirting queen!
You will let him know that you don’t take yourself too seriously (that’s really important to guys), that you know how to have fun, and that you’re interesting to be around.
Who doesn’t want to be in the company of a lady whose flirting game is so strong that it forces men to step up their own game? Such a woman is every man’s dream because flirting requires intelligence, creativity, and wittiness.
In other words, by flirting with him like a boss, you’re showing him that you’re one of those strong women who are not afraid to tease, provoke, or even joke at their own expense. And that is why, my lady, you should master the art of flirting.
The more you flirt with others, the more confident you become with it. So, instead of waiting for a guy to start the flirting game first, be the one who initiates it before he does. If you do that, he will stick to you like glue.
Never underestimate the power of flirty texts!
Given that texting is one of the most important aspects of flirting because, obviously, we live in the modern era where real-life conversations are overrated. (I hope you noticed my attempt at sarcasm.)
Where were we? Yes, never underestimate the power of sending flirty texts to a guy because that’s the biggest ace up your sleeve. It’s true that men are visual creatures, but this doesn’t mean that you should only send them hot pics of yourself as a way of flirting with them.
Sure, your hot pics will catch and keep their attention for some time, but flirty texts are ten times more powerful in the long run.
When you send a flirty text to a guy, he is forced to use his imagination to understand what you are telling him. He can’t hear the tone of your voice, and he can’t see you or anything else. All he has is your text and his imagination, which is a killer combination (in every sense of its meaning).
Let me simplify this for you. If you serve everything to a man on a platter, he might soon lose interest. But, if you allow him to serve himself by giving him a few bites to chew on, he will be hungry for more.
Sending him flirty texts will force him to use his imagination (to serve himself), and it will make him thirsty for more flirty texts in the future.
If you want to spice up your texting conversations (and I know you do), here are some flirty texts to send him and make him want you badly:
There’s this new position I heard about today, and I can’t wait to try it out… When do you think you can come over?
I will invite you over on one condition: You shouldn’t keep your hands to yourself. In fact, I will tell you right where you should put them!
I am so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later!
Another powerful thing that every woman needs to master is flirty questions. Asking a guy the right questions at the right time is a surefire way to boost attraction and show him who’s a flirting goddess.
If you’re interested (and I know you are), here are some flirty questions to ask a guy and drive him wild:
Do you prefer to be rough or sensual?
What underwear color do you think I’m wearing now?
What’s your biggest fantasy?
What kind of outfit would you like to see me in?
Do you believe in lust at first sight, or should I walk by you again?
Don’t shy away from throwing in flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines either!
Sadly, the majority of women shy away from telling flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines because they don’t want to appear too cheesy or they’re a little bit insecure about it. Well, it’s high time we reclaim our feminine power and implement jokes and pick-up lines into our flirting repertoire.
If you know how to throw those jokes and pick-up lines like the confident woman you are, no man will be able to be uninterested. Why?
Because this is not something every woman does out there, no man would expect you to throw flirty jokes or pick-up lines, and that’s the beauty of it. No man would expect a woman to try to make him laugh. Wait, is that even true? What a sad world we live in.
If you want to flirt like a boss, you need to do exactly what they don’t expect you to.
Since I’m feeling generous, here are the two biggest flirting lessons that I’ve learned so far:
- Don’t be predictable.
- Always keep a man wondering about what you’re going to say or do next.
With all that being said, here are some flirty jokes and funny pick-up lines that will both attract him and make him laugh too hard:
You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.
I’ll be Burger King, and you be McDonald’s. I’ll have it my way, and you’ll be lovin’ it.
I seem to have lost my phone number. Can I have yours?
Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type!
My name is (your name), but you can call me tonight.
Check him out like the badass, confident lady that you are!
If there’s one thing that needs to be changed in our (female) flirting game, it is this: Don’t be afraid to check that man out and let him know that you’re interested.
I understand. Checking someone out has also been a man’s job so far (well, predominantly theirs), but this shouldn’t be so. We live in the 21st century, where expressing ourselves in the weirdest ways possible is acceptable.
Forget that I mentioned the word “weirdest” because this has nothing to do with it. What I want you to do, my lady is feel free to check him out, give him a flirty smile and then continue doing what you were doing (chatting with your friend or similar).
If you do this, I can guarantee that he will be smitten with you. How couldn’t he? He will think to himself: A confident, beautiful lady has just checked me out. Damn. I have to meet this woman and get to know her better (in every sense of its meaning).
Be fearless. Be bold. Express yourself
When it comes to flirting, there is no space for gender stereotyping. Don’t be ashamed to step up your game and tell that corny joke or pick-up line. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper and find new unordinary ways of flirting.
Flirting is an art in itself, and you cannot go wrong with it (as long as you’re not overdoing it). As always, leave some space for him to show off his flirting game as well.
Flirt – wait for his response – flirt some more – retreat – repeat. You got it, girl!