Thantophobia (n.) the phobia of losing someone you love
In the world of 7 billion people, it’s almost impossible to guess your soulmate. It’s impossible for you to date them all and decide who suits you the best. But what’s possible is to find somebody who’s worthy of your time and your attention.
You can be with whomever you wish, but the idea is to find the one to stay. Why go through all the process of letting somebody in just to end up broken-hearted again?
The catch is you need to let him all in. You need to be ready to bare your soul in front of him. I know it sounds scary after everything you’ve been through, but trust me on this one.
Show him your scars, show him your wounds and let him kiss them to heal. You can have fun with anybody, but can you show your true self as well to everybody? I thought not.
Give up on chasing players, give up on giving time to wrong men, go for the goofy guy who’s scared to lose you. This guy is not like the rest.
The one who’s scared to lose you will never be able to stay mad at you for too long. He might be upset over something, but his fear of losing you will always be stronger than his anger.
Instead of being with someone who’s letting you go so easily, be with someone who’s scared to see you by someone else’s side. Be with someone who can’t stand not talking to you or not knowing what is going on in your life.
Be with the guy who’d do anything to keep you, who’s proud of you and your accomplishments;
with the guy that knows your worth even on your worst days.
Stay with somebody who knows your demons, but isn’t afraid of them.
Choose to be with the guy who respects you more than anybody in this world and who values your opinion.
Keep the guy who won’t get tired of you and who’ll keep seducing you even when you are wrinkled and old. Be with the guy who’ll never get tired of telling you how beautiful you are or how much he loves you.
Make him courageous and let him fight for you—you deserve it.
You deserve someone who’d go to war just to have you by his side. Many kings fought wars to have their love. You are just as worthy of such a fight.
Forget about wasting your time on men who just see your exterior. Go for the guy who’s ready to break your walls down so he could see your scars and love you for them too.
Be with someone who kisses you wholly—your body and your soul; with someone who is proud to have you in his life and who thinks you’re the biggest blessing in his world. For someone who’s putting you at the top of his priority list, someone who actually gives a damn for you.
Be with the guy who’s scared to lose you. With the guy who can’t imagine spending the rest of his life with anyone else but you. With the guy who isn’t letting you go no matter how hard you push him away.
Be with the guy who fights for you.
Because in life, it’s all about consistency. And the guy who’s afraid to lose you will never do anything to hurt you. He won’t give you empty promises, he’ll put his money where his mouth is, and he’ll do everything in his power to make you the happiest woman alive.
The guy who’s scared to death to lose you is going to stay, for you, for him. This guy will choose you day after day, year after year, life after life. Stick with this guy.
You deserve to be loved the right way, you deserve to be loved like this.
And even though he might be afraid of losing you, I can promise you that you don’t have to be afraid of losing him. He is not going anywhere.