Most women say that every next date after the third one is so much easier because the third one is like a ‘make it or break it‘ situation.
What does a third date mean to a guy? I’m sure you’re eager to hear the answer, so stay with me, and I’m going to reveal it to you.
Most people say that women are way more complicated than men, which I completely disagree with. In my opinion, it’s actually the opposite.
Why and how is that? I think we’re pretty simple when it comes to our love lives. When we don’t want something/someone, we simply show or express it directly.
When we fall in love, we want to express our feelings to that person, and we try hard to leave a good impression.
Most women would never go on a couple of dates with someone they don’t like or love. While, on the other hand, men would because they have that third date rule and, unfortunately, because most men think with their other head.
If you think you’ve found a good guy, you should consider yourself lucky because there aren’t so many guys like that left.
I’ll also share some dating advice with you on how to behave on the third date to help you keep him in your life longer or forever.
What does a third date mean to a guy?
Most people say that it’s an impossible task to understand women, but I say that understanding men is a pretty difficult and confusing job too.
Women talk and express their needs through communication. On the other hand, men keep quiet about their love life, and sometimes you simply don’t know where you stand with a guy you like.
I’m almost completely sure that all women would like to know the answer to the question, “what does a third date mean for guys?”
So please, sit down, pay attention, pay CLOSE attention to what I have to tell you, and you’ll find the answer to your question below.
You’ve passed the “selection phase”
I like to call the first date a selection phase because I’m sure that most people know immediately after the first date whether they like that person or not. Whether they should stay together and try a little bit more or not.
As long as he has arranged a second date with you, it is an obvious sign that he likes you and wants to get to know you better.
It’s like you’re doing a job interview. If things don’t go well, if you fail it, you won’t get a chance to get that job. You’ve managed to get his undivided attention, and now you just have to keep things the same way on your next 3rd date.
He already knows everything about your love compatibility, and he thinks it’s worth the effort. However, this doesn’t mean that you’ll start a relationship immediately, but you’re definitely on the right way to do so.
There’s a reason why he’s sticking around this much
Yes, a guy can invite you on a second, even on a third date, if he doesn’t like you, but again, there must be a reason for that. Now, the unfortunate thing is that there might be a bad or a good reason for that.
The worst-case scenario is if he only sticks around just because he wants to take you to bed. Many guys believe in the third date rule, and they stick around until then because they think they might get lucky.
However, here comes some relief for you. The 3rd date might also mean that he likes you, and it may lead to a potential relationship.
The good thing is that there’s a way to find out which scenario is the right one. Don’t be intimate on the 3rd date with him, and if he doesn’t like you and he’s only sticking around to get lucky, he’ll never call you again.
It’ll be a huge red flag for him that he should run away because you want a more serious relationship with him. It may hurt you a little bit in the beginning, but you’ll understand later that his leaving was the best thing that could happen to you.
You left a great first impression
For me, the first date is the worst and the most awkward one, especially if you’ve met on a dating app. That whole online dating thing is too complicated for me.
You text with someone for a while, and when you finally arrange a date, you’re so nervous and feel uncomfortable because you’ll be seeing the man you’ve been talking and texting with for so long for the first time.
You’re worried about whether you’ll leave a good impression and whether you’ll like him. You just can’t relax until you hear him asking you out on a second date.
If he does that, you can rest assured that you’ve nailed the first impression and that he already likes you. He’s proving it by inviting you on a second date while you’re still on the first one.
You aren’t just some regular hookup
Unfortunately, it’s a fact that men like and enjoy one-night-stands and regular hookups. The thing is that the first date helps them decide whether they want to hook up with a woman only or if they want something more serious.
They won’t go out on a couple of dates with someone they consider just another classic hookup. If a man invites you on several dates, it’s a clear sign he likes you and wants to date you.
He respects you, and that’s why he wants to get to know you well before you get into a more serious relationship.
A man like this will never try to get close to you in an inappropriate way because he wants to build a foundation of respect in your relationship.
Unfortunately, most men follow the famous “3rd date rule”
Are you familiar with the well-known “3rd date rule”? If you are, what’s your opinion on it? It’s truly very stupid, right?
For those who aren’t familiar with it, this rule means that both partners abstain from being intimate with each other until the third date.
Somehow men think that women follow this rule blindly, and unfortunately, some men go all the way to the third date because they believe they’ll get lucky.
The date number isn’t important at all. You should never do something you don’t feel comfortable with or don’t like, no matter how much you like your partner.
You aren’t dating; you’re still in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase
Keep this in mind, if he hasn’t made it official, neither should you. So, wait a little while to share your photos on social media because you still don’t know what his intentions are with you.
He probably wants to get to know you better before you two sail into a more serious relationship, which is a good thing.
You’ll see that he’ll probably use that date to ask you some classic hookup from your personal life to connect with you on a deeper level.
The fact is that we, women, turn off our minds when we fall in love with someone. Our heart doesn’t allow us to see their flaws and imperfections; we have eyes only for their good side.
It’s not the same with men. They’ll think it through before they decide to start a relationship with someone. So, he definitely won’t start dating you immediately after the first date.
There is definitely a potential relationship on the table now
Even though I already said that the third date means getting to know the woman more, for guys, it’s also definitely something that leads to a potential relationship.
A man won’t waste his time on dates if he only wants to have fun with a woman and then ditch her.
If that’s the case, he’ll try to hook up with you on the first or eventually on the second date. If he sees you aren’t interested in that, he won’t ask you for a third date for sure.
If you’ve come to the 3rd date, that means you’ve left a good impression and that you’ve managed to get his undivided attention and that he wants to get to know you better and start a serious relationship with you.
8 Tips to nail the third date
So, what does a third date mean to a guy? I hope these explanations above helped you uncover it, and now I’ll give you some dating advice to win your man over on the 3rd date.
Choose the right place
You must understand this: the third date is crucial if you want to have a serious relationship with a guy. You’ve come to a ‘make it or break it’ situation.
This will be a turning point for a guy. After this date, he’ll decide whether he wants to start a relationship with you or not.
That’s why you have to pay close attention to detail while arranging this date. The place and time of your date is something you must carefully consider.
If you arrange a late-night date, he’ll probably see it as an invitation to your bedroom.
You don’t want to give him the impression that you follow the 3rd date rule, right? So, don’t organize to have this date at his place or yours because it’ll make him think you want to be physical with him.
You’ve been on two dates already, and you’ve probably talked about places you like to go out. If he’s mentioned his favorite restaurant or another place he likes to hang out with his friends, that would be a great location for your next date.
Plan your 3rd date carefully
This is a huge opportunity to show him that you’re a fun, outgoing, and interesting woman. This is your opportunity to show him that you’re girlfriend material, and that is something you shouldn’t miss. You may not get another chance to do it.
If he asks you to choose a place for your date, choose it carefully. Think about things you’ve talked about and try to think if he’d talked about places he likes and things he does in his free time.
A restaurant or coffee shop isn’t the only place for a date. A zoo or museum or even an amusement park are all some great ideas for your third date, and you’ll surely have more fun there than in a restaurant.
Win him over with humor
Trust me when I say this, the key to winning any man’s heart is humor. I’m completely sure that all men fall for women with a good sense of humor. A sense of humor is one of the best qualities a woman can have.
Humor is something that makes you feel more attractive to other people. That’s why you should arm yourself with some good jokes and shoot them out on your 3rd date.
This is also why the location for your date is of huge importance. If you choose an amusement park or another similar fun place for your next date location, it’ll be easier for you to show your man how fun you are.
Forget about some stupid date rules
Don’t think about those date rules you’ve heard so often from your friends. Most of those rules are senseless and can’t be applied to all couples because, once again, we are all totally different human beings with different opinions and values.
Even if it turns out that your man follows the ‘third date rule’ and he oversteps the line, you should just leave immediately and forget about him completely.
It’s obvious that you don’t share the same values and that a relationship between you two would never work. It’s not worth your time.
I get that you like him, and maybe you’ve even started to fall in love with him, but that would mean he only sees you as a hookup, and you know that you are worth so much more than that.
You shouldn’t waste your time on a man who doesn’t appreciate you because one day, a man who’ll see your worth will come along, and he’ll appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve.
ALWAYS leave him wanting more
You should keep your man interested, and that’s why you should always try to leave him wanting more. Of course, this is if you don’t want a casual hookup but a healthy relationship.
If you give him what he wants on your third or second date, he’ll get bored fast and leave you. You should first make him work hard to get your attention and then to win you over.
Don’t make yourself too available because that’s not something that will help you gain his respect.
Don’t force anything
Of course, it would be nice to get to know a few things about his personal life, but if your man doesn’t want to talk about it, you shouldn’t force it.
Don’t insist on talking about things he doesn’t want to or go to places he doesn’t like.
That won’t lead you to a fourth date because no men like a woman who is too persistent and can’t stop poking around under rocks.
Follow your gut feeling
There is something you need to learn if you want to seduce a man and win over his heart. You need to learn to trust your inner voice more and follow your gut feeling, no matter where it might take you.
If your gut tells you that you should take the lead, then go ahead and initiate physical contact first. If it’s telling you that you should pull back, then you should do so immediately.
I know this can be pretty hurtful, especially if you already have feelings for the other person.
Look at your inner voice and your gut feeling as a braver and fearful version of yourself. If your inner voice is calling you, you should take the call immediately and listen to what it has to say.
Just be yourself; it’s a safe path to a fourth date
If you like him, you’ll want to win him over and clear your path to a fourth date. The best way to do so is just to be yourself.
Don’t pretend you’re someone you’re not just to get him to like you because your mask will fall off sooner or later, and he definitely won’t like it.
Even if being your true self doesn’t help you win a man over, even if he doesn’t fall in love with you, you’ll know that you didn’t lose the most important thing just to get him, and that is your own identity.
If you start your relationship by pretending you’re someone you’re not, that won’t end well. You can’t pretend for the rest of your life, and as soon as he understands that you’ve been lying to him all this time, he’ll know that it’s time to leave.
To wrap up
Most people say that women are overly complicated, that it’s impossible to understand what we want, but I say that men are more complicated than we are.
‘What does a third date mean to a guy?’ is a question all women would like to know the answer to, and I hope I’ve helped you figure out the answer in this article.
However, you must know that, of course, not all men are the same and they all have different opinions about these kinds of things.
They have different values and perspectives, and it’s entirely reasonable that not all men think the same about the third date.
My conclusion is that men don’t pay too much attention to it. They just see it as a chance to get to know the other person a little bit better and to maybe start a romantic relationship with them in the future.
Even though most men follow the ‘third date rule,’ there are some expectations, of course.
However, you’ll probably be able to recognize those types of men by your second date because they’ll definitely drop hints that they are expecting to get intimate on your next date.
The bottom line is that you shouldn’t pay that much attention to the 3rd date and just try to go with the flow. Be open with your intentions and show him that you don’t want a classic hook up.
I also want to congratulate you because you’ve come to the third date, and that means a potential relationship is on the table now.