Approaching new people is never an easy decision but it gets even harder if a guy likes a girl and wants to get to know her better. He would like to approach her but doesn’t know how.
He is afraid of rejection and he isn’t sure about himself. He is afraid that he will make a fool out of himself if he says something inappropriate. And in most cases, he quits.
Maybe he will try again once he drinks a bit more and gets an ego boost from alcohol but he surely won’t come close to a beautiful girl sober. So, the question is: Why are guys afraid to approach some women?
Are we so intimidating that it is impossible to invite us for a cup of coffee? Find out answers to all of these questions in the list below!
They are afraid of rejection
You see, when a guy sees a woman who looks so appealing to him, he will instantly lose his head over her. His brain is working at maximum and he is trying to find good ways to seduce her and make her his.
He starts doing things he has never done and he feels bad about it. Some guys get very nervous and they start having some tics that look totally unnatural. And when they see how anxious and bad they look, they decide to postpone that moment.
The worst thing for them would be if the girl they like so much rejects them because they don’t look as natural as they really are.
They are afraid of what the girl they are approaching will think of them
Sometimes, guys think too much. They overthink things that haven’t happened yet and they are scared about what could happen if something goes wrong.
Their wish to approach a girl is considerable but the fear of being ashamed is even bigger. They simply don’t know how the girl they are approaching will react when they show up in front of her. They don’t know what she will think of them.
Will she think they are weird, funny or stupid? And while they overthink like that, they lose all their desire to actually approach the girl and they simply give up.
They think they don’t deserve her
No matter how handsome a guy is, he will have cold feet when he wants to approach a girl. He will think that he is not good enough for her and that she will reject him.
He doesn’t have enough self-esteem and he thinks that she will think the worst about him. That’s why guys miss many chances to get to know a girl they like so much. Maybe that girl would be glad that a guy is interested in her and she wouldn’t think anything bad.
But since guys don’t know that, they blow their chance of a great relationship.
They are so anxious that they can’t act normal
There are guys who are open and they don’t have any problems with approaching a girl. But there are also guys who get so anxious when they want to approach a girl that they start having a real panic attack.
Their palms start to get sweat, they feel dizzy, they don’t know how to properly say normal sentences and they act like they have never spoken before. And because of something like this, they simply give up on approaching a girl.
No matter how much they want that girl and how much they like her, they would rather step back and be alone because they are terrified of what might happen if they take the first step.
They are afraid of being criticized
There are guys who have a fear that they will be judged and criticized by a woman they want to approach. They fear that she will think they are weird and that they even don’t know how to hit on a woman.
They don’t want to get hurt or to feel bad and that is the reason they hold off from any contact with girls. Only one they drink another glass of wine will they get the ego boost they need to approach a girl and ask her out on a date.
In a situation like that, they won’t be scared of anything and they won’t think about the bad things that could happen in the process.
They think they are not good enough
When a guy thinks he is not good enough, he will never have enough courage to approach a girl. He will think that she can find a better man than him and he will lose the chance to be happy.
That is their biggest mistake because girls actually just want a normal and good boy who will treat them like they deserve. They will also be anxious and won’t feel so comfortable in the beginning but as soon as they get to know a man, they will feel much better.
That’s why we should never miss out on new things in life because we don’t know which ones of them will be great!