Our heart can trick us into thinking we should be happy just because we’re with someone we love.
It’s true that love is the most important thing in life and that is the reason why it should be treated respectfully. And in this case – it wasn’t.
Love is so much more than the occasional I love you said out of habit and silent nights spent together while feeling lonely.
It’s so much more than distracting yourself with another movie you didn’t really want to watch or calling your friends over to feel like something is happening.
And what about the constant fights over insignificant things? When did you suddenly become so petty?
You can say to yourself whatever you want but the truth is – he wasn’t the one for you. Something was missing.
If he was the one, you wouldn’t have felt alone and misunderstood while he was right next to you. You wouldn’t have felt like you needed to do something extra special to get his attention.
After some time, you’ll realize you were addicted to the feeling of closeness but not the love itself.
That’s what happens: people get addicted to feelings, to spending time with someone, to the way they make them feel… They get addicted to fantasies about what could have been when the reality is so very different.
You were in love, but your intuition told you something else. It just wasn’t ‘it’.
You had no goal; you weren’t working towards anything. There was no capacity for the love you want and need.
A love that’s not indifferent but loud and proud.
You have every right to have the love you want – it’s not just a fantasy. You can have the love that will make you happy.
A love that makes you feel grateful every day of your life.
But before all that, in order to be content with yourself you need to accept yourself.
You need to start practicing radical self-acceptance. You set the standard for yourself.
It’s about what you want and what’s good for you.
The man for you is out there – but first, you need to be good to yourself.
When you feel good about yourself the man that comes into your life will emphasize your glow.
Remember: relationships are important, but you shouldn’t live for another person – you should live for yourself. Men add to your life, but they don’t make your life.
You should never put your worth in someone else’s hands. Only you can decide your worth and others can realize it or miss out on it – that’s not your problem.
Deep down in your heart you know you’re deserving of true love and you know it exists. You know yourself and what you’re capable of.
You know that there’s someone who will prove that love can be shared and that two people can respect each other without being dependent.
You will find someone who will make you smile when you least expect it, someone who will understand you without words and always make you feel safe.
A man who will accept you as you are without question – because you’ll have nothing to hide.
Vulnerability is the way to experience love but only when you’re in a healthy relationship with yourself.
Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself, and don’t step back to make someone else comfortable.
Don’t be like me and learn this the hard way. Don’t stay with someone you consider a good man just because everything’s okay. So, what if he is a good man?
That still doesn’t mean he’s good for you.
You know what you need and don’t wait for it to come to you.
The best thing you can do is to always be on your own side.
