We all know what cheating is all about. Being disrespected by the person we love the most in this way is what makes us forget about all the good times we had with them, simply because there is no way we can trust them ever again.
In my opinion, cheating is a way of disrespecting yourself, me and our relationship, so there is really no positive aspect to it.
Today, with all these new ways to communicate with the people around us and becoming so close over social media, new ways of cheating have been developed.
When you think about it, you will see that each and every one of these things do count as cheating, even though they have nothing to do with physical contact.
1. Deleting your texts
It’s fine that he wants to clear his memory of trash but if you have gone through his phone at one point and you haven’t found any texts then you should be worried.
Deleting text messages is a way of hiding what they are doing and not being completely honest with you. Can you even trust a person like this?
If they think that whatever they are hiding will make you angry, it probably will.
2. Having a friend who is ‘too close’
There is no one in this world who is going to tell you that you have to give up your friends for your boyfriend/girlfriend but when you’re in a relationship, you’re supposed to keep a certain distance from people who may develop emotions toward you.
For that same reason, if you see him being too close with a female friend, hugging excessively, having inside jokes or simply excluding you from their world, be aware that this is a way of cheating.
3. Being active on dating sites
The reason why people make themselves a profile on a dating site is because they want to find a boyfriend/girlfriend—someone to relate to or at least someone to spend the night with.
So why would someone maintain their account on Tinder if they do not want those things? Weren’t you supposed to delete all of those profiles once you started to date someone?
That’s why, if you hear from someone that your partner is being active on dating sites, you have the complete right to confront them about it!
4. Checking out other people
Whether it is in front of you or you have simply been informed that your partner has been checking out and/or flirting with someone else, that is considered cheating.
Don’t allow someone to make a fool out of you and tell you that their flirting is harmless, because if they were serious about you, their eyes would be only on you.
Holding your hand while watching a woman in a mini skirt is truly disrespectful.
5. Keeping in touch with an ex
Staying friends with your ex is a really hard thing to do, especially if you have someone new in your life. They might get insecure and make a problem out of it.
But seeing your ex, texting frequently and/sleeping with stuffed animals that you have been given by your ex are all disrespectful.
Did he tell you that they were simply seeing each other as friends even though he knows that it bothers you? No matter whether they do get intimate now or not, they were intimate at a certain point in time and there is nothing that can keep them from reliving that fantasy.
It’s not physical but it’s the closest to cheating someone can get. Seeing your partner sending nude pictures of themselves and/or writing down scenarios about having sex with someone else is heartbreaking.
It’s simply not natural to fantasize about having sex with someone else while you’re in a committed relationship with someone you say you love.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide what counts as cheating to you. If it makes you insecure and your partner still keeps on talking to or about someone then they are really not being faithful to you.
Make boundaries that will determine what you find to be acceptable or not and discuss them with your partner. It’s about mutual happiness in the long run.