If there’s one thing social media oversharing has taught us, it’s this: A private life is a happy life. Do we all agree?
For me, one’s personal life should be just that – personal.
Airing dirty laundry over Tweets invites the wrong people to judge you, which inevitably ruins your self-esteem and positivity.
Keep your private life private, live your own way of life, and engage in as much self-love as possible!
Your personal choices do not need the approval of your followers.
You don’t need someone else to pick apart your flaws and personal decisions. You don’t need strangers offering opinions on your significant other.
Healthy relationships are based on mutual understanding, compromise, and keeping any issues between the two of you.
If you want to lead a happier life, remove the negativity, and find your happy place, start playing it coy!
And that’s leading a quiet life, sharing secrets only with a select few, and not letting anyone trample on your own lifestyle.
Below, I reveal why this is the best decision for your mental health and share some inspiring sayings on the value of privacy.
Why Should You Keep Your Life Close To The Vest?
The more you share about the intricacies of your life, the more people (read: strangers) will try to butt in. And you just can’t have that.
Privacy is sacred, which is something we all come to realize with time. Don’t let people have opinions about stuff that doesn’t concern them.
Don’t let friends of friends judge your decisions based on a social media post.
Sure, we all have a tendency to overshare sometimes, but with age, that tendency should decrease and we should all realize that a private life is a happy life, and then some!
It’s easier to deal with your drama when no one is privy to it
Introverts know this better than anyone. They keep everything close to the vest, which makes dealing with drama much easier.
We could honestly learn a thing or two from them! They get the importance of self-love and self-help better than anyone.
Haven’t you ever been sorry for sharing details about your feud with a former best friend? It always comes back to bite you in the ass.
The fewer people who know about your life, the better.
You’ll be less likely to be forced to explain yourself to anyone (which is absurd to even consider).
Going through drama is exhausting enough, but when you have an active audience… God have mercy!
You’ll slowly stop caring about others’ opinions of you
Oh, yes. One thing you’ll see by keeping your privacy is how little you’ll start caring about others’ opinions.
Honestly, it’s so therapeutic! People will always have something to say, but when you stop caring, it’s a whole new world.
The less material you give them, the better it will feel. And soon, you’ll see how precious your quiet, private life really is.
Moving on from heartbreak is immeasurably easier in private
Can you imagine going through a rough break-up, and people butting in and judging you without knowing a single thing about what happened?
It’s bad. So why give them the satisfaction? Go through the motions with the help of your inner circle and heal in peace.
The last thing you want is people picking sides and constantly reminding you of the pain.
They might as well make T-shirts saying: Team her/Team him.
People are more likely to open up to someone who keeps it on the DL
I have found it so easy to make friends ever since I decided to keep my life private. I used to overshare like crazy, but now, it’s like a 180.
No one can force me to post a private photo or Tweet details about my relationship. And that really made the difference friend-wise.
I guess people appreciate privacy and knowing their business won’t be plastered all over social media. (Shocking, huh?)
Not to mention that your safety will be less compromised
A private life is a happy life, but also, a safe life! The less you share about your day online, the safer you’ll be.
We all know how easy it is to track someone’s location. It’s actually kind of scary. So I strongly encourage privacy. Safety comes first.
Making decisions is easier knowing that no one’s opinion trumps your own
I used to care about what everyone (read: my followers) had to say about every tiny decision. But now, I can’t imagine caring that much!
What does it matter what a stranger thinks about my upcoming trip? I’ll go wherever I please, not where someone thinks I should go.
So yeah, making decisions is significantly easier when done privately. All that noise just contributed to my anxiety and insecurity.
Ain’t nobody got time for that!
It helps you connect with people on a deeper level
When you understand that a private life is a happy life, you also realize how important nurturing your personal life is.
It’s so important to surround yourself with good people. You need someone you can count on, come hell or high water.
And the less likely you are to blast your intimate details on social media, the more of a people magnet you’ll become!
As I mentioned above, everyone loves to know that their secrets are safe with you. It builds trust, loyalty, and genuine connection.
It allows you to focus on the most important relationship in your life – the one with yourself
The relationship you have with yourself is the single most important relationship in your life.
You cannot treat yourself badly and expect others to think highly of you.
When you stop being dependent on others’ comments and likes on social media, you’ll realize how beneficial it is to your mental health.
It’ll center you, help you focus on things that contribute to your well-being, and nurture personal relationships that actually matter.
The relationship you have with yourself will improve and you’ll stop wanting to put so much of yourself out there ever again.
Have I mentioned how much your romantic relationship will be better for it? Because, trust me, it really will.
I’ve never been one to shout out to my man on Instagram or share about him and our personal lives. To me, that’s way too precious.
And it really makes a huge difference! It feels better knowing that people aren’t privy to any aspect of our relationship.
That’s something that’s just for us and no one else.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t post an occasional cute photo. Just make sure it’s not too intimate.
The fewer people who see it, the more you hold it dear.
Keeping your private life private is great for future employment
Don’t think that your future bosses won’t Google you, because they most definitely will. It’s really important to think about what you put out there.
You don’t want them to stumble upon photos of your partying days, binge-drinking, and posing questionably.
The safest way to prevent that from happening is to not post it in the first place! A private life is a happy life, but it also helps you find employment.
Always be conscious of the ways oversharing might come back to haunt you. It’s better to be safe than sorry, right?
Loose lips sink ships (don’t let blabbermouths use your words against you)
Keeping it between close friends and family is the golden rule for a happy life.
Even if your Instagram is private, there’s always a friend of a friend who might share it further.
And like I said, loose lips sink ships. I learned this from my friend who shall remain nameless. You see, I always used to overshare.
I didn’t really care about who might see my posts.
But as I got older, I realized that there are some truly bad people out there who can’t wait to find something to use against you.
Long story short, now, my life is my own. People only know what I let them know, which is very little. And honestly? I’ve never been happier.
30 Positive Quotes About The Value Of Protecting Your Privacy
To further emphasize how important it is to keep your life as private as possible, here are some sayings that capture it perfectly!
1. “Once you expose your private life, if you give one little bit, the floodgates are open and everyone’s got a free-range for you.” ― Jason Statham
2. “I never said, ‘I want to be alone.’ I only said ‘I want to be left alone!’ There is all the difference.” ― Greta Garbo
3. “Here in your mind you have complete privacy. Here there’s no difference between what is and what could be.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
4. “The private life of one man shall be a more illustrious monarchy, more formidable to its enemy, more sweet and serene in its influence to its friend, than any kingdom in history. For a man, rightly viewed, comprehendeth the particular natures of all men.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
5. “Always remember that you were once alone, and the crowd you see in your life today are just as unnecessary as when you were alone.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson
6. “All private plans, all private lives, have been in a sense repealed by an overriding public danger.” ― Franklin D. Roosevelt
7. “Your private life is your private life and you keep it to yourself. You get more respect that way.” ― Jay Kay
8. “Privacy is not something that I’m merely entitled to, it’s an absolute prerequisite.” ― Marlon Brando
8. “Privacy ― like eating and breathing ― is one of life’s basic requirements.” ― Katherine Neville
9. “I don’t like to share my personal life… it wouldn’t be personal if I shared it.” ― George Clooney
10. “If you don’t want to have your private life splashed everywhere, why go to the restaurants and the places you know you’re going to be photographed?” ― Marina and the Diamonds
11. “What people do in their private lives is their business, and shouldn’t be anybody else’s business.” ― Rob Lowe
12. “Ultimately, saying that you don’t care about privacy because you have nothing to hide is no different from saying you don’t care about freedom of speech because you have nothing to say.” ― Edward Snowden
13. “There’s nothing like privacy. You know, I like people. It’s nice that they might like my books and all that…but I’m not the book, see? I’m the guy who wrote it, but I don’t want them to come up and throw roses on me or anything. I want them to let me breathe.” ― Charles Bukowski
14. “The secret of having a personal life is not answering too many questions about it.” ― Joan Collins
15. “The most reliable topic for small talk is the goings-on of stars whether they’re rising or falling, and whether nor not a particular story is a truth or fiction. This is way out of balance. It invades the privacy of men and women who didn’t give up being human when they became famous, and it negates the meaning inherent in our own lives.” ― Victoria Moran
16. “Purity of personal life is the one indispensable condition for building up a sound education.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
17. “I do not recognize the right of the public to break in the front door of a man’s private life in order to satisfy the gaze of the curious… I do not think it right to dissect living men even for the advancement of science. So far as I am concerned, I prefer a post mortem examination to vivisection without anesthetics.” ― Alexander Graham Bell
18. “I am a public person and I have my private life. It’s important for me that my private life stays private, that what I share with the people is my public persona.” ― Georges St-Pierre
19. “Why should everything that happens be the entire world’s business?” ― Philip Wyeth
20. “Our privacy can serve as a form of protection during times of crisis and can offer a polite boundary of respect and good manners during times of tranquility.” ― Christopher Manske
21. “Digital freedom stops where that of users begins… Nowadays, digital evolution must no longer be offered to a customer in a trade-off between privacy and security. Privacy is not for sale, it’s a valuable asset to protect.” ― Stephane Nappo
22. “In the midst of this culture of openness and sharing, we need to think carefully about the information we’re volunteering to the world. Sometimes the world is listening.” ― Kevin D. Mitnick
23. “My friendships are my privacy. My love life is my privacy. My health life is my privacy. My enemies are my privacy. My favorite is my privacy. My thinking is my privacy. If I show you what they’re like then you’re chosen.” ― Glad Munaiseche
24. “The idea of privacy was rooted in the concept of individualism. As such, it was impossible to have privacy when the systems of control refused to see you as an individual.” ― Jarett Kobek
25. “Being famous is a sweet poison, you will lose your privacy of personal life and being familiar is a slow poison, you will lose your privacy of personal living.” ― P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar
26. “Never give cheap people easy access in your personal life. He or she always will endanger you, your family, your fame and your wealth. Before permitting access, it’s better to double check his or her background for your privacy, safety and security.” ― Lord Robin
27. “In a Social Media-driven era, the lines of privacy have almost been blurred out.” ― Bernard Kelvin Clive
28. “If integrity is doing the right thing when nobody’s watching, and there is never a private moment, integrity becomes impossible. What are we left with?” ― Jason Dias :
29. “The spying upon others’ privacy, exemplifies and defines itself, the untrustworthy, and unethical way and action.” ― Ehsan Sehgal
30. “Not all your family or friends will be happy when you succeed, nor will everyone be saddened when you lose; so, be careful with whom you’re sharing your personal business.” ― Kianu Starr
After having gone through these thought-provoking sayings, I think that we can all agree that a private life is a happy life.
The less you let people into your personal space, the more tranquility and peace you’ll invite into your life. It’s okay to share bits and pieces, but never give them the full story.
Some things are best kept within a close-knit circle of people who you know will absolutely take your secrets to the grave.